Ill make it short,

I called this chick that i met last week in a club,
I was planning on taking her out, but we ended up heading straight to my place.
we had a few drinks, talked for a bit, so far so good... after we talked for a while as we were lying in bed,I felt she was comfortable enough,so i went for it, everything was going well, we were making out... then suddenly she stopped.
she says "take me home", im like "what?why?".. she said its late, and it took me too much time to approach.. and then she gave me this speech about how shes not like that, and "If a man is trying to take you to his place its only for one thing", that sort of shit. so i tried to calm things down and we stared talking again, then suddenly she says "do you mind giving me a massage while you talk?". In my head i though i was getting straight to the friendzone with this one, so i said "fuck no", and she kept on asking for a couple of times until she stopped. looking back i think i fucked up my good chance of getting laid. this is total mindfuck for me, I couldn't understand this chick, what do think i should have done?

Kino escalate, if she resists reassure her "its all good", resume touching, kissing/rubbing if she resists again freeze out, re-initiate kino/kissing/rubbing.

rinse and repeat until you either hump her or she lets herself out

ps. her resistance was likely due to your hesitation and uncertainty. The less it looks like you know what you are doing the more they resist, so fake it until you have closing confidence.