Who am I?
30-year-old Asian guy living in a non-English speaking European country; I can only have some basic conversation in local language but English is well spoken here. Never been in a long-term relationship but not a virgin; Born in Asia and came here years ago for university degree and, thereafter, work;

What are my goals? Long term and short term
In the short term (within 2 month), I will cut down watching porn and masturbating to once a week, spend significantly less time on internet. I want to be consistently gaming, form an approaching habit, and getting solid results on my own.

In the long run (at least 6 months from now), I want to expanding my social circle to have people i enjoy spending time with around me. And I want to find THE life partner of mine from a selection of choices.

What is my problem?
What I really need is discipline and consistency. I actually started the game about one year ago but I barely got any solid result (the best I got in past 12 month was instant dates and k close in day game). One big reason was that I have not done it consistently with a well set goal or plan. I made enough approaches only in July, August and Sep last year and Feb, March this year. In those months, I had stable wings. Obviously, I rely too much on them. If I have not approached for a while, my skill plummets although I know I could have done much better.

I had a PUA training program one year ago and I got many positive feedbacks. A trainer with huge ego told me that he loved my confidence and humor. A charisma trainer was amazed by my imagination and creativity. A natural trainer said there was a natural inside me. Besides, I have the gut to approach a policewoman directly when she was on duty with a policeman partner… Realizing that I have so much potential but not getting any significant result is really frustrating.

Lack of discipline and consistency not only stops me from having a better personal life, but also keeps me from growing in my professional career. People keep on saying that I am intelligent with lots of potential when I was very young, but I just got fired again and again although I have been getting high-end and well paid jobs.

Procrastination, not being proactive and lack of will power is limiting the amount of approaches I do, taking a day to finish the work that I need just 3 hours for, keeping me in front of my laptop for hours every day, and wasting my life in general! In addition, lack of social circle here as a foreigner exacerbates everything. In fact, I came up with the idea to write this post 3 days ago and I am still not finishing it.

Solution
I am going to make at least five approaches every day to keep the learning curve climbing in a steady manner, to hold my state, to gain more will power and self control for not just sarging but every part of my life…

I made an excel sheet with a few things that I want to do on daily basis, approaching, meditation, reading, playing football, etc. These daily tasks receive different weights and add up to a sum of score, which was plotted on a chart to monitor my daily performance.

I will update this journal with my approaches on daily basis to monitor myself. This post is my commitment and declaration that I will get what I deserve by becoming a better self.

Tomorrow is day one. Your advices and comments are much appreciated.

Day one-17 July 2012

Set 1 blonde8: direct approach, being specific about her leg. I can’t say that she liked it. I had to ask for her name twice. She ran away saying ‘my bus will be here very late, I am going to eat something first’. I did not chase up and block her again.

Set 2 brunette7: direct approach, specific about her leg again (yes, I like legs). There were a lot of IOI’s.
Her: what do you do?
Me: …
Her: coollll
Me: do you know my job content?
Her: no, but it sounds interesting
…
Her: we are wearing similar shoes (they were actually very different).
…
Her: do you want to have a drink with us in … (a club)? (It was her birthday today.)
Me: I am afraid I can’t. Tomorrow I have to work (I don’t really have to work tomorrow but I have been very busy preparing for an exam. I might be afraid of taking things further or I might be afraid of dealing with her friend. I don’t know which reason takes the biggest weight)

But I got her number and I am going to text her tomorrow to set up a date. She might flake according to my experience because the conversation was shallow.

Set 3 blonde7: direct approach about her hair. She liked it. We had a fun conversation but did not really seek for commonalities. She suddenly realized that she had a bus to catch and ran away. I ran after her and asked for number but she wouldn’t give.

Set 4 latin 7: direct approach about her figure. She liked it. We had a fun and a bit conversation about what she wants to do in her future life. She needs to catch a train. I proposed a drink and she told me that she was living with her boyfriend and she still likes it. I gave up.

Set 5 brunette 7 in a 2-set: direct approach. She liked it but was on business trip in this city and going to airport now. I did not bother to close.

My own comment: This is the first day that I made 5 approaches without wing. It took me 6 hours! I procrastinated again by waiting a long time before approaching and ending up with following the girls and this stopped me from approaching 3 sets. But I am sure tomorrow it will be better as this will only get easier and easier. I did the last three set in train station so people have to leave quickly, leaving me little time to building rapport, break it, etc. I should have set up a date with set 2 when I was talking to her or just bring her to an instant date immediately. But I will find it easier to push further.

Your comments are welcomed

Day 2-18 july 2012

I did only two approach today as I was very busy preparing an exam but I could have done 5 sets though.

Set 1 HB8-direct approach about legs. She blew me out immediately,
Set 2 hb7-direct approach. She was in a hurry to a train

I did both sets in train station after 2200, which was very late and I ended up leaving for home around 2320. I did not enjoy it as I felt it was creepy to hang around there to stop girls. So my result was not good either.

I sent sms to the girl I number close yesterday to invite her to a boat cruise party on Friday and she can invite her friends. But she replied 3 hours later that she had to go to France today, which was obviously a lie. I should have just gone for a drink with her when I was in set.

I went to bed around 0330, there was just too much to work on my exam.

Day 3-19 july 2012
1. blonde8-direct approach about her hair.
Her: Oh nooo. Many people complimented my hair just because it is blonde
Me: not correct. There are many different types of blonde hair…
We had a pleasant but not deep conversation. I did not seek for commonality, qualify or break rapport. These should be improved
She told me she has been with her boyfriend for 4.5 years and she enjoyed the relationship. So I ejected.

I don’t remember the other 3 sets anymore.

4. 2 tourist set. Direct approach. They seemed very interested because they were looking at me with a big smile but not saying much. I had to work really hard to get them talking. I tried to bring them to a drink with my hands grabbing their arms. But they did not want to. I had another 5 min talk and eject. I think I should have persisted after another 4 min talk.

Something funny happened. I saw another PUA was sarging. I said hello to him. There is a high concentration of PUA’s in this city with less than 1 million people.

I learned something new today, watching out the time and saying to myself that I have to make an approach within ten minute. I felt the urge to approach but little pressure.

Day 4, 20 July 2012

I don’t remember the first 4 sets I did. I procrastinated again today but pushed myself to do the last three sets although I was out of the state. My energy was low because of procrastination, which stopped me from approaching the first set of the day. From tomorrow, I will approach the very first approachable set.

The last set told me with a smile from very beginning that she has a boyfriend. But that was actually a good sign because she knew that I was hitting on her. She actually opened up to me as she told me that her internship was boring. But I ejected. I should have pushed it harder.

Tomorrow I will approach the very first approachable set and push myself harder to stay in the set.

I commend you on your effort, it is much more than what most people try when starting out. Some guys don't even try....

If you keep seeing the PUAs sarging when you are out, contact them and see if they want to start a lair, are looking for wingmen, or more importantly, know of other social events or public places where you can sarge.

Places like train stations and other transportation hubs generally have very short time constraints, and only an experienced PUA can thrive in that environment. You may benefit from finding a difference place that is more relaxed, and which has women that aren't rushing to make a traveling connection or who aren't in town for only a day.

Day 5, 21 July, 2012
Set 1. I approached when I was doing shopping in supermarket, she liked my approach but she was just in lunch break from her work and she had to go back to work soon. She gave me a number but I already feel that number was a fake because she was almost running away to her working place. It was a fake indeed as I tested it. I did not have time to build up comfort and qualify her, etc. this happened all the time.

I spent lots of time studying for the exam in library. When I came out, it was already 2030. I went home and eat. When I was out again, it was almost dark. I went to train station and got one rejection. She totally ignored me. And the whole station looked like a party place. Day game is over on Saturday. So I went to a bar to meet some old friends. I had a good time there.

I did only two sets today. I need to train myself to approach when I am on the way to somewhere, not just when I am going out just to approach. The good thing is that I approached the first approachable set.

Day 6, 22 July, 2012
I finished 5 sets within 2 hours, which was pretty quick compared with my previous days. But I still got chickened out from some sets. The problem is I need learn to get the girls talking. Most of my sets like my approach but I run out of things to say sooner or later. Today I tried to talk in a seductive way to my first set. Now I will try that every day. And i will pay attention to shift from Mr. sociable, Mr. comfortable to Mr. seductive.

Thanks for the comment. Train station is only a last resort when it is dark. i know many PUA's in this town but people have different time constraints, and there is no guarantee that i can find someone to sarge with every day. Actually the two PUA's i saw in the street are less experienced than i am. And one of my goal is to inject sarging into my daily life, for instance when i am shopping in supermarket, when i am on my way to work, etc, instead of finding some time to sarge.

Day 7, 23 july 2012
I finished 5 sets within 90 min. Given that on Monday evening there are not many people in the street, this is pretty quick. It appears that approaching is slowly getting into a habit now. And probably because I approached a four set for the beginning. I still missed two sets in the morning.

I did not have even a hooked conversation today. There could have been one because she was just looking at me with a smile on her face but I did not know what to say at the moment. This has not happened to me for a while, so I just said I did not know what to say anymore. The last set did not even want to shake hand with me. I felt bad at the moment but now I think it is her fault. I was decent, making direct compliment to her and introducing myself. If she does not want to shake hands with me, she is the b***h because she does not seem shy.

Now I need to work on starting a normal conversation and keep my set there with me. I thought I could done that pretty easily but it did not work today.

Day 8, 24 July 2012

I did only 4 sets today. I was relaxed only for the first set. She is a prostitute I can say from her dress. I approached at a busy shopping street when 10 guys were watching me. I felt really good about it. Then I had some procrastination again and missed some sets. I don’t remember the other three sets now because they were very short. I think waiting for too long before approaching a set can make you nervous and not relaxed when you are in the set.

Tomorrow, i am going to be pushing harder in the set and shorten the time between two approaches.

Day 9, 25 july 2012

My set 2 was a good one. She was enjoying the conversation and I was being creative. When I asked for a drink, she said she had a boyfriend. I should have just held her hand and be more seductive. I could have also related not being normal with passion.

My 4th set was a smokingly hot HB9.5. I saw her at the tram stop and was intimidated a bit. Then 3 guys came and obviously they were looking at her in a creepy way and then I suddenly got motivation and approached her. She took the tram just after the opening.

Two things here.

I don’t know if it is a good idea to tell her that she could join me into this tram because I am taking this one (actually I am not) or I should have just use the apocalypse opener, do you want to go home with me.

I got motivation when I saw the other guys were looking at her. In fact, if there is a hot girl in the street, every guy must be looking at her for a while but not doing anything. I should get motivation anywhere in the street. There is a choding me and a brilliant me. If the choding me is not approaching, the brilliant one should just be just like the ‘me’ who approached that smokingly hot girl.

I also realize that I need to keep on challenging myself by approaching difficult sets, multiple sets, sitting sets, sets looking as if they are in a hurry… if I want to take my game to the next level

Day 10, 26 july 2012

Today I did only one set in 3 hours and I felt very bad about it. I left home in with a mindset that I have to approach some multiple sets to take the level further up. I walked up to two different 2-sets but I followed too long and chickened out. Then I went to talk to a friend of mine, which took a long time. So I went out to sarge but did not approach for a long time. This brought down my state. Then with the pressure I added to myself, I did not approach anything for 3 hours until I bumped into another two PUA’s. I talked to them for a bit and I felt a bit better.

I was wondering around at train station again for 1 hour before I finally struggled from lowest state ever to approach one set. She was Wow, you are so courageous! Then she had to get in a tram. My state shot up and wanted to do the next set but it was too late and there was almost no set. So I went home.

Lesson: I have to make the 1st approach very fast. Otherwise my state goes down and down to an irreversible level. About the difficult sets, multiple sets, sitting set, etc, I did approach 4 sets, 5 sets and policewoman set before by myself and it was spontaneous. I did not tell myself that I have to approach those difficult set. I saw them and wanted to approach, then I approached.

Day 11, 27 july 2012
I still procrastinated to miss my first two possible sets plus another 2-set. Pufff… how can I get rid of it?! I approached my first set. HB8. She would not have a drink with me right now but said I could walk to the train station with her. I normally wouldn’t but I did this time. The conversation was a bit boring and shallow. I should have connected with her by talking about life in this country as both of us were foreigners. At train station, she gave me her number and mentioned something like she could be free for one or two hours after work. By the way, she mentioned about her boyfriend but I totally ignored it.

Then I did my second set quickly. I followed the third set for too long but I still approached but she had to get into a tram. It took me a long time to do my 5th set. I bumped into another PUA’s friend and he said he would approach any girl even if she is not that cute because he wanted to go home. Yes, I should adopt this attitude too. Not being cute is another excuse for me not to approach. I need to improve my inner game so I can approach more, get in state faster, save more time, etc

It's inspiring to see someone actually doing this. Good job and keep it up I may try this myself

Day 12, 28 July 2012

I did four approaches today. Three approaches were 2 sets. The fourth one ended up with an instant date. I was with another two PUA’s today but I made the approaches without being pushed. I approached the fourth set and hit on an HB8. My PUA friend joined me in 1 min and he proposed a drink and we went to a bar where we had instant date last time. We ended up my wing and the other two girls sitting on the sofa and I was sitting alone across the table, which is not good because I couldn’t escalate. Or I was too pussy to escalate. The conversation was boring as well. My target asked me if I knew all different Japanese bands but I don’t know anyone of them. Then she said shame on you. I should have replied ‘why do I have to know them anyway’. Maybe she was just trying to maintain the conversation.

Two things I need to work on: connecting with the target emotionally and practicing physical escalation

Day 13, 29 July 2012
I stayed almost a whole day at home playing video games and watching movie. Today was wasted. I went to train station just to get my dinner. But somehow I don’t feel bad about it.

Day 14, 30 July 2012
I went out around 19 and joined two sets at a bar and club area. Just normal conversation with some tourists. Another PUA approached a single set. Later that girl’s friend came and I joined them in 5 min. the first girl said ’he approached me, you were waiting and now join when my friend is here’ and give a face that ‘I totally see you two through’. Then she went into a bar with her friend and ignored us. That PUA told me you can join if you want to. I did not want to join because it will make me look like a shameless stalker. I went to the train station but could not approach a single set.

Day 15, 31 July 2012
I went out around 19 but could not make any approach and headed home! There are a few opportunities but I procrastinated and let it go. Maybe my housing status is keeping me anxious and holding me down. Maybe it is because I did not make active approaches for two days. Tomorrow at noon, I am going to the street to finish 5 sets before I do anything else.

Day 16, 1 August 2012
I started around 1430 and did 6 sets in 3 hours. The first 3 set took me 2 hours.
Set 1. I jumped in front of her and delivered my approach. She stood for 3 seconds and then kept walking. Then I jumped in front of her again. She kept walking and said she had to take a train. When I was thinking if I wanted to stop her for the 3rd time, a 55 year old man (my guess), a tourist, asked me ‘do you hear the lady?’ ‘Ya?’ ‘Then accept it!’ I did not respond to him and left. Next time when this happens to me, I will respond something like ‘No offence. You think you know about mannerism, but you don’t!’ ‘You are jealous because you can’t do anything like this and you don’t want other people to do it!’

I opened my 2nd set by telling her that her boobs look in good shape. I couldn’t see how she reacted because she wore sunglasses. Upon certain point, I did not know what to say, so I just said I did not know what to say. And she said bye and then I disappeared.

I directly opened a HB8 in front of a shopping mall. She told me she was waiting for her friends to come and they were just behind me. I looked back and found another two girls standing 3 meters away looking at me. Then she suddenly went to her friends. I should have just gone to her friends and introduced myself.
I opened my 6th set and she liked it. But she had to go to her work. So I had to close quickly and pushed for a date. She said it was nice that I went up to talk to her but she did not want to meet a stranger.

Assessment: it is good that I got back on my feet again after 3 lazy days. I approached one extra set today. The first 3 sets were not good obviously because I was out of state. When I finished my 5 sets, I felt relieved and relaxed. Probably that is when I should approach more and get some result.