This was my journey, and I think it's normal ...
1. When you're in your early (I said twenties but really, any age really), and have 'no clue', or rather, 'think you have a clue' ("but really have no clue") one might start trying to solve their situation by turning to friends, female friends, relatives etc.
2. In this day and age, being a man who can't get laid regularly seems to be something no seemingly happy male wants to admit to, like depression, or mental illness etc.
3. The place that most young (or not so young) males then look (naturally), is the Internet. Problem is ... on the Internet, anyone can be an expert. In fact, some of the stuff, (and you'll be looking at the free and pirated stuff first) is definitely tacky, crappy, and at worst, sometimes misogynistic, sexist, psychopathic ....
4. Guys 'learn' this new way, which results in 'results' that are false-positives. I.e. People confuse 'tactics' and 'routines' and whatever psycho-babble for being responsible for the results they are getting, when really, most are getting results from just getting out more and making an effort to meet girls. This gets tiring. And in retrospect, is embarrassing ... it's like being able to start a car, find yourself on a freeway ... and then crash because you don't know how to merge into her 'ok, you look ok, and are kind of funny/interesting/intriguing/ what are you really about? I'll let you know me if you share something of substance (that's not about Elvis's blue hair, or who lies more etc). i am exaggerating here, but it's true ....
5. If you are tired of the above, enter phase two. You bother to pony up and pay for a workshop, especially with a good 'guru', then chances are you will actually get better results. Hell you'd better, know how much it costs to see Wayne Elise for a weekend? As the teacher will be able to guide you, calibrate you, correct you, and provide feedback. Also, a lot of teachers are a lot more 'natural' in their processes, than they would have you believe from reading all their manuals which in some cases are hilariously convoluted ... (By the way, Wayne is great)
6. This is not to say these models are not useful, it's just ... it's not a wholesome understanding living in theory land.
7. After you do a workshop or two, you'll definitely have results ... if only for ... 'I cannot believe I paid this much money, I MUST achieve results, and this SEEMS to be the way, I will definitely APPLY these skills...' And those skills will be useful. But do not forget that by now you are experienced, you have a skillset (no matter what doctrine, or method, or philosophy), some measure of confidence ... and real motivation!
8. Hopefully, A few girlfriends later, you'll be a bit more experienced, and wonder ... I wonder if I could have avoided such an expensive route?
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I would like to keep a refresher on the concepts I learnt at these bootcamps, but studying notes are a bit dorkish, and I'd like an enjoyable read from someone that seems to know what they are talking about (and you may be able to tell now, with more experience under your belt) that might give me some more insight ... and preferably someone that I would like to imagine I would like as a person, if I ever met them.
Postscript, and a little about me: I was at University at the time I took these bootcamps cited above, eager to sort out my dating life, took a while afterwards but it worked ... had my first gf, she being a your medical graduate, then another Dr graduate for a long while, then most recently, a french doctor (doctors and french girls seem to like me for some strange reason!). I was friendly with the PUA teacher on my second bootcamp, held here in my local country, ended up interning for him and attending all sorts of 'Seduction Conventions' where I saw the best and worst of the people that the 'seduction industry' have to offer. Hilarious stuff too. One guy teaching a course was a retired accountant who dyed his hair purple, put out porn dvds with 'hypnotherapy' ambient subcommands embedded into the stereo mix .... Another was a 17 year old kid that brought his girlfriend over, as part of his powerpoint exhibit, to show the whole crowd what success he was having with his own patented system. It sounds funny, and kind of pathetic - but I'm not going to judge. The audience, me, I was pathetic too. A range of 18 to 70 year old men (that's right, senior citizens not getting any were here too) that were being sold the world on 'how to interrupt 4 sets and get that model'. And all the people in that audience, i thought, might get more value from a big man hug, a raisin SPAM biscuit with warm milk, and a friendly counselling session from that kind of mythical hairy chested uncle that other families have that is a registered pants-man with moustache and bear-fighting history etc.
Anyhow, I'm happy, I'm now now longer .... well ... a virgin, I'm semi-competent with girls, having had a few flings, and a few gfs, and actually have a dating life that looks after itself. If I could describe the whole process, it was a journey, and more than anything kind of a 'how can others know you, if you don't even know yourself' kind of thing .... that is what I would have said to myself back then. Anyhow, be careful out there. People can get stuck ... I know people stuck in total mindgames about this 'game', who instead of working on themselves, walk around with a whole new set of ideas that have not given them the results they wanted.
Good luck with your journey.
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