Alright, so a bit about myself.
Age:20
Ethnicity: Cuban American
Height: 5'8
Build: Athletic(MMA amateur fighter)
Hair and Eyes: Dark Brown

Why do I want to learn this pickup stuff? Not simply to get laid. It's more about self-confidence. It's about confronting fears head on. I've always been a shy introverted person who's horrendous at small talk. I want nothing more then the shed this fear and become a more confident person.
What are my goals? Become more self-confident. Pick up women by not solely relying on alcohol. Have the opportunity to have choose between a variety of women to choose one that will eventually make me happy for life. Be life of the party, and not that quite kid that makes friends but never gets girls.

Newbie Mission:

Status: outright failure

Man, do I feel like a AFC today. I set out to do the Newbie challenge but I made some grave mistakes. I was defeated before I even tried. I had slept maybe 3 hours the previous night, then I decided to try the mission out after work. I wore a striped cotton collard shirt and dark blue jeans(the waist is too big, I always have this problem with pants) and I did not feel like I dressed up. Looking at myself just negated my confidence and I just didn't believe in myself. I'm also in the process of growing out my hair, and my stubble was not very kept together making me look like a chump. I had figured to I'd grow out my hair and then go to the barbershop for a beard shape up, hair cut, the whole 9 yards. I managed to get a smile off to a HB7 before lowering my eyes to the ground and walking past. (Must have looked awkward)
The worst part was that I could tell some women were looking at me when I walked past them and i just flat out blew it. Also saw a HB9 that used to always come into the drive through that I used to work at. I always made small conversation with her, but I feel like that she is my first real challenge once I stop being a AFC. I'm highly disappointed in myself, but I will prevail. It makes no sense, I can trade blows with a 185 behemoth at the gym yet I can't simply smile and say hi to a few women. I will try this again this week and clean up my look and dress better. (I'm currently upgrading my wardrobe as well, time to ditch the skater high school boy look and move towards dressing like a confident man)

Hey bro welcome to the game. I'm new here too and I feel like you should keep at it. I discovered the community when I was still in high school and I've always wanted to try it but I was always too scared to get out of my comfort zone. What I'm saying is don't give up.

I know EXACTLY how you feel wanting to look your best before going out. I hate when I look like a bag of ass and I intend to practice game it fucks me up mentally before I even get out. Just look like you know how to take care of yourself and you'll be fine. Your interesting personality will make her forget about what you wore in a heartbeat.

Keep the progress flowing and stay posting bro!

Oh and can you show me a link to this chiefs program. I can't find it on the net and I'm curious about it.

Thanks for the confidence boost bro. I'm going to go and try this again tomorrow and I will post the results. Here's that link that you asked me for http://chiefpua.com/
Just put your email in to receive his lessons.

Tomorrow is a new day and a new chance to be a better man.

It's been awhile since I posted and I let my anxiety get the best of me. This Wednesday I'm going to head to the mall and redo the newbie challenge. But I do have FR from last week that I'll share.

Let me preface by stating that I don't know if this is truly considered a field report because it was at my place of employment(I'm a server at a tex-mex restaurant) but I went to a house party later that night so I'll merge the two even if "sarging" at work isn't considered a FR. Well, anyways.

A HB7 walks into the restaurant and gets sat at the 2 top in my section. She's a cute little blonde girl with glasses that throws off an intellectual vibe(definitely my type). I take her order do all the normal server shit blah blah blah. As the night slows down and I have a little more time to focus on her table and to get over my social anxiety, I come up and ask her if she had summer classes because she was doing some school work it looked like. She told me how it's some kind of year long program for ultrasounds or something(bumped her up a point, gotta love a smart woman with ambition). I don't really know how to reply so I just say the generic oh that's cool and ask her some more probing questions about her program blah blah. We get to talking about studying in the quiet versus the dark and she tells me she has to go to restaurants to study so I tell her she should come here more often. I end the conversation and start sweeping my section(social anxiety about what to say kicking in) and when she asks me for the bill I give it to her and say, if you don't want to leave a tip it's cool, I accept phone numbers. Have a good night (with a smirk). She laughs and I walk away and sweep my section(could've continued that conversation but I bailed out). She leaves and on the receipt it just says thank you.

---Later that night---

I go to a house party around the Sanford area. Not a whole lot of girls there and my two friends and I don't know anybody there. I saw a HB5 dancing by herself in the middle and she seemed to be eyeing me. I finally gather up the balls to go up to her(after an hour and some beers) and try to start dancing with her. She stops me and says, my boyfriend is watching over there. I say well that's lame, your his girlfriend and he won't dance with you? She says I know! I don't want to cause a scene so I just say, well if you change your mind you can find me and smile and leave. The rest of the night I try approaching a few other groups but I'm going solo because my one friend's game consists of getting chicks to smoke with him to get laid. I have no success. My other kinda friend makes fun of me and makes it a competition(I'm a competitive bastard) so he approaches a set and asks them for a lighter. That's about as far as he gets. We call it a night of failure and when we are heading to the car we hear this really drunk HB5 talking about how she hasn't gotten laid in so long. She passes by us and asks for a beer, I tell her she has to work for it teasing her. I then tell her I'll give her it for a kiss, she agrees and begins making out with me. I feel up on her ass, titties, everything. I even flip off my friend I was competing with earlier during the process and then her friend calls her and she has to leave. I tell her to wait, but I freeze up and I can't think of what to say although I know I can bang this girl. She walks away and I call it a night.

--Questions--

How can I better talk to the women that come to my tables? I really do have time constraints at times but how do I balance a certain level of professionalism while flirting? What did I do wrong with the girl at the restaurant? (Still kicking myself that I messed that one up, it's rare that I meet smart women anymore) Should I have bashed the party girl's boyfriend more? And how the hell did I possibly mess up that last encounter? That practically fell into my lap, and I didn't capitalize. How do I work my game without relying on alcohol or for the other sex to be intoxicated?

--Next Steps--
Complete the Newbie challenge without drinking. I failed last time to simply say hi to different women, I can't fail this time. I'll head to the mall Wednesday.

Hey! I'll start by saying i'm no guru or pro, just a beginner with a little success whose done lots of reading lol. With that out of the way, in IMO, i'd say PU at work is going to be challenging, the best you can do there is get a number and make a latter date. That being said, that's probably where you should have been working towards, although its incredibly tough to DHV while your serving her.
In regards the party, you were experiencing a dramatized success of PUA, that was amplified by the fact that the girl was drunk. Its difficult to call its a success if she was drunk out of her mind, but you get a glimpse of the future as a result from negging. I'd say what you should have done would be to N-close and contact her when she's sober. You made the right move dancing with her (++++), and it paid off latter in the night though. So overall i'd commend you for your confidence and indulgence. Specifically for how to not involve alcohol? You have to play your game somewhere besides house parties. House parties will be easy practice in this sence (as you experienced) but you will always have that obstacle. For bashing the BF, i'd say don't bash too hard, a true alpha male doesn't need to put other down through words, he already knows he's better.

Sorry if that was a rambling response or if it wasn't helpful at all to you, just thought i might try to drop a comment in response. Either way keep practicing and keep up the good work. GL!

Dominoe