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pumpington i do the exact same qualification that you speak of but no day 2s i do daygame so do i build a complience ladder up until kiss close or something? insight needed bro
two possible reasons that I can guess,
lack attraction:
for the emotional, be more interesting, in other words add more value to the table, bring more positive emotions, play around and flirt a bit more
as for the physical attraction, just hit the gym, dress better, groom better, smell nice,
but usually a girl will not screen very well in terms of compliance if attraction is your issue (unless she is scared or something or being really really nice), so yes, screen girls with compliance (all the way past a kiss if you want but not necessary if you are just going for numbers in small little 2-10 minute interactions)
things you want to see from girls that are into you,
-will she let you touch her in a meaningful way (this could be as simple as holding hands)
-will she qualify herself for you
-will she be alone with you (show up for the day 2)
if you have those three, you can assume she is attracted enough for things to move forward, don't sweat the attraction so much, unless you are noticing alot of non-compliance, but yes you should be screening girls so you don't end up getting a bunch of flaky numbers and wasting your time with girls who are not interested
lack of emotional connection:
this is probably the main reason most girls flake on guys, they just don't feel like they know them well enough to meet up with them in person
qualification is somewhat superficial, you want to connect with her on a deeper level so she remembers you and thinks about you
qualification helps you condition girls into exhibiting qualities that you like, they behave and do as you like for your approval, this is a form of classical conditioning, and it is more on the attractive side of socializing (it will get girls somewhat investing, but also associating positive emotions to you)
bringing value, basically just helps her assosiate positive emotions to you, it is why she feels you are fun, it is why she is excited of the thought of being around you
but the problem is superficial attractive style socializing does not form a bond, she does not necessarily associate you to her, you are not a solid person within her life when there is no connection there, it is like a person you know as an acquaintance that you like (find they have an attractive personality), but don't really know to well, if you catch my drift
instead of just qualifying her, and showing interest, go beyond that and really get to know her, try to walk away knowing a good 5+ things about her, and her knowing some things about you as well, figure out what motivates her to do the things she does and touch on how she feels about that, find commonalities, find common ground, build rapport in general, having a connection with someone is that feeling that you know someone, the connection causes the comfort that helps you get those day 2s, but if she thinks you are boring her to death and only focusing on the rapport she will start to lose those positive emotions and she will also lose interest, but if flakes are your problem and you can get the kiss easy, then your best bet is working on connecting
also, if you just close some quick numbers en mass during some daytime approaches, you can just follow up really quick and easy on your phone and text for 1-2 days to build some rapport for a day2, how ever the attraction will mostly have to be carried by your looks as it is hard to create emotional attraction over text, as there is no emotional framework involved (she can't hear your tonality and see your body language to leech feelings off you, aka harder for her to associate positive emotions to you via text as they are emotionless)
also be careful with the above, texting a girl too often before you have met could set some frame work revolving around the two of you being ''texting buddies'', you don't want that, if she gets too comfortable texting with you, she will have less motivation to see you in person, so try to maintain a balance and after a while let the rapport over the phone die down until you are spending more time with her in person then you are over the phone
and lastly, please read the forum rules, and in the future don't hijack threads
CHAT
I understand. Thank you for being honest. You did not waste my time at all. Add me on Facebook, and check out the band! Maybe we will find time in the future, and if not I might just see you around the bar again 
plus it wouldn't let me add you! You just have an option to message you on Facebook!