This will be my first field report. I was a little drunk for some of this encounter, so some details have been omitted. Here goes. . .

So last weekend it was my boy’s gf’s birthday. She lives in NJ so we decided to go to her state to celebrate with a few people.
Whence we arrived, I tried to get myself into a good state. I wasn’t really feeling it that night and wasn’t really feeling especially horny, so I tried to amp myself up. We first ate some dinner before traversing to this rooftop bar, and while in the bathroom, I repeated a lot of positive self affirmations to myself while looking in the mirror. I was at least somewhat ready now. . .

When we arrived, we ordered some drinks and sat at a table. It just so happens that the Devils were playing the Rangers in the playoffs and we had stumbled into an ocean of rabid Devils fans (we were in Jersey after all). When the game got intense, my friend I was with shouted over to this table of girls and taunted them that the Rangers were gonna win. They half-serious half-joking shouted back. I then joined in on the taunting a little bit, despite the fact I knew nothing about hockey. One of the girls at that table then walked over to us.
She was an HB7-8. She was on the tall side (5’7’’ish), had dark hair, perky little tits and a tight ass. Her face was rather cute, with eyes that were more of a sexy nature.

She and my friend started talking shit to each other, it was obvious at this point that the girl was feisty and had some balls. She came over to a group of dudes rather quickly without a second thought. I don’t remember exactly what I said, but I joined in on the debate. She took quickly to me and seemed to forget all about my friend as I negged her about the game. Somehow, the convo got to her saying that Jersey girls are bitches. I teased her for being insane and that I would have to watch out for her. Somehow, she got into what she did, which was apparently working for a rape awareness company. I then joked that she gets paid to beat up rapists. She stayed standing and talking to me for a solid 8 minutes before returning to her friends. A few minutes later, I got up to get a drink, and I bumped into her as she was returning from getting one herself. I forgot exactly what I said but I noticed her tryin to sneak peaks at my tattoo, she then asked me what my name was. I knew right there and then that I had it. Major IOIs. I told her my name and joked about my ethnicity, whispering into her ear to keep it a secret.
The game got even more intense. Both teams were 2-2 by 7 minutes left and I shouted out to her, “If the Devils win, I’ll buy you a shot, if the Rangers win, you buy me a shot.” She obliged.

Unfortunately, the Devils wound up winning, and the girl immediately pointed towards the bar and motioned for me to come with her. I knew that for a fact that she wanted me at this point. What I hadn’t realized was that with my little wager, I had successfully isolated her from her friends. (I’ll have to use this technique in the future). It just goes to show you that sometimes, you need to provide the escape, and the girl will happily oblige.

We sat down and what ensued was an hour long conversation. This girl happened to be particularly ballsy and somewhat tomboyish. She was a freak about sports. I don’t know if it was the alcohol, my mindset, or if the girl was particularly easy to talk to, but I never ran out of things to say. The conversation flowed very organically. We talked about all normal run of the mill stuff, but it was entertaining.

I threw in some teases and negs along the way of course. However, I got a rather curious reaction from her when I tried playing the 5 lies game. I explained the rules to her and she got the first question wrong right away. I told her I like Johhny walker, and she was like, “Fuck lying, why lie?” I don’t know why she said this but my guess would be that she got a little defensive over losing so quick.
By that point I could tell that this girl was really sweating me. She was turned completely towards me at the bar and had her legs together inside of mine which practically clamped them. I then asked her to go down stairs with me because I had a friend down there I had wanted to see (I was trying to get her away from everybody so I could hook up with her). She obliged and said she would be right back (don’t remember why though, once again, I was a little too tipsy).
She didn’t return. I figured she was creeped out by it, so I returned to my friends who were nearby. Funny enough, about 20 minutes later I saw her get a drink from the bar and mad eye contact with her, she then walked back to me like nothing had happened and we picked up where we left off.

We talked more and I slowly put more and more kino on her, putting my arm around her, on the small of her back, etc . . . From the looks of it she started giving me these impatient and anxious eyes, I knew I was taking too long to make the move, but still hadn’t mustered the balls to do it. Finally I said fuck it, put my arm around her, brought her in close, and panted the kiss . . .
The girl put some tongue into it almost right away, and it lasted for a solid 15 seconds. After which she was the first to pull away. This is one of the points that I believed I fucked up at. After the kiss I don’t remember what was said!! For the record, I’m never drinking liquor when going out again. I wasn’t shit faced, but I also wasn’t that sharpest tool in the shed either. From what I remember, I conversated like nothing had happened after that and kept it at that semi friend level, instead of being more sexually and verbally daring.

Suddenly, we heard her friend crying from the stairs leading to the rooftop and looked over to see that the bouncer wouldn’t let her up because there was too many people. The girl then left to tell the bouncer off and try and get her friend up ( I told you she was ballsy). At first I followed her, but then decided to back off and jus chill wit my friends till it died down, After a few minutes of this, I approached her and asked her if everything was ok. Her friend was allowed up and we continued chatting for a little bit.

She then left to go back to her table and never came back. I didn’t wanna follow her, so I returned to my friends. 20 minutes later all my friends had wanted to leave. I felt defeated not having got her number, but then I noticed her coming back from the bar and swooped in. I retrieved her number saying that we should chill sometime and went in to kiss her on the lips, she then moved her face to make t a cheek kiss and I said that I would call her.
20 minutes after being on the road home, I received a text from her:
Her: Hiii (1:52 a.m.)
Me: Whats goooood (1:56 a.m.)
Her: haha not much, still at the bar (2:07 a.m.)
Me: ur still there?! Lol, jus 30min ago u were 2 seconds from leaving (2:17 a.m.)
No response
I then texted her 3 days later

Me: Heyy (3:45 p.m.)
Her: Heyy what’s good? (5:30 p.m.)
Me: Nothin much. . .just about to buy a boat with my boys. Wha r u up to (6:13 p.m.)
Her: haha nice . . I’m just hanging with friends, enjoying the day (8:30 p.m.)
Me: Ha jealous. Ive slept prob 3 hours since Friday between going out and working. Just got to relax now . . . I might still be drunk (8:52 p.m.)
No response
At this point, being that I accepted the fact I was prob never gonna see her again and that she lived almost 2 hours away, I decided to throw an AFC text her way for the fuck of it
So, the next day . . .
Me: look, I’m gonna get to the point. I had a god time with you Friday and I want to see you again
No response.

I understand that this might have been an unnecessarily long post, but it’s my first documented kiss close and I wanted to put a lot of effort into it.
Where did I go wrong? Was it a failure to keep the sexuality present in my words and actions post kiss? Why did she pull away for the goodbye kiss (her friends maybe)? Why would she text me afterwards and then not respond? Anyway, I’m proud I pulled off my first PUA kiss close and would love feedback. Thanks for your patience.

BUMP

nobody?

dude, i give u major props for landing ur first kiss close.
I'm not sure where u went wrong, but usually, when girls flake on guys, it's usually because of buyer's remorse. But that's not really the case with u since u apparently spoke to her for about an hour, and that's more than enough time to build comfort.
So I don't really know. anyways, major props on landing ur first k-close.

Hey accountguy First thing its hard to gauge the level of an interaction based on text you had some good details and i would say she was really interested and probably wanted to take you home.

Depending on how drunk you were later on in the night that could have been your downfall. If she moved side ways for the cheek kiss that is never a good sign. Judging by the length of your conversation the insertion of good negs and the very well placed Iso, you did this one by the books.

I'd say good shit and give high fives all around just bounce next time and do the venue change. My advice is that you should of got a bite to eat with your buds and asked her to tag along with her friends. They all seem to know and like one another so the mingle wouldn't of been to hard

i think that guy was right, most flakes happen because of buyer's remorse.

but i don't think this one was like that.
i think this flake was simply because the night ended. she loved that night because it felt so natural, so unexpected, so spontaneous. you connected, you had fun, you did everything right.

but now it's a new day. she's come down to reality, it's no longer a fairy tale. the ball is over, and Cinderella's glass slippers are gone.

it took me forever to understand this, and believe me, the EXACT same thing happened to me for my first PUA K-close, i'm not even kidding. i played my cards perfectly, met someone awesome, connected, hooked up, and boom. next day, i was so excited, and she just wasn't.

the problem is, there really is no problem. it seems like you screwed up because now there's this feeling of incongruity when it was perfect before. but if you want to avoid this in the future, understand this:

-When you run a fast game (meet a girl and hook up within a day or two), even if the girl seems perfect for you, and even if it seems like there's a great connection, after the hookup it's most likely going to be over. not a bad thing, that's just how it tends to work. you both should move on, but more importantly, DON'T text her afterwards. if she wants you, she'll let you know.

-When you run a slower game (and the hookup's delayed by a week or a month or whatever) then she'll most likely keep up the interest even after you hook up.

so the only place where you "screwed up," per se, isn't in the seduction or anything; it's just in thinking that a one-night hookup can be a foundation for a relationship. take the W, bask in the awesomeness, and do it again with someone else!

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Excellent responses guys, thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I think a big problem a lot of guys face when they start having success is that they try to prolong their victories and replicate their successes. This then leads to them fucking up on their streak, due to the fact that they are not used to such change. I am currently battling this, as the past few weekends since this encounter have been the most successful in my life. I feel the need to replicate, which then forces me to doubt myself. I believe the key is to JUST DO, DO NOT THINK. It takes the mind a while to transition to a new frame. I will and shall overcome this, and I will give back to the you guys and the community when I succeed. God Bless.

Keep it up man the more apparent your frame is to you, the easier it will be to imply on to others.

Remember you aren't selling yourself to anyone they are always buying into you, and as long as you keep your success in your head despite your failures the more succesful you will be in all aspects of life.

That and your body language will subconsciously reflect through your success confidence is the best medicine to inner game my friend. I wish you all the success in your physical emotional and mental endeavors.