| Posted this on the Nashville lair, figured I would post it here too since I barely post anymore...
So many opportunities get thrown in my lap and I push them off.
This FR is broken into two parts, the report and reflections.
Report:
Met up with a new member from the lair and went downtown. We checked out a new
rooftop bar and he opened a 3-set and I opened an adjacent a 2-set (cute black
chick and a chubby girl). Naturally, two hovering tools who hadn't worked up the
nerve to approach decided to join my 2-set... hate it when this happens...
While the two tools were trying to steal my set, the Black girl was looking at
me so I winked and she smiled and waved (yup, she's into me). After my wing's
set left for karaoke I went to the bar. Chubby friend was there so I hung out
with her. Her friend was now being chatted up by a different guy so I sauntered
over, put my hand around her, said "Hey Baby, we're about to leave after this
beer" and kissed her on the head and went to back to the bar.
Black girl comes over to us a minute later, wraps her arms around me, "Hey it's
my boyfriend!" Nice. We had to leave at this point to meet Brent's bachelorette
group. They told us where they would be and we said we'll meet them there later.
Fast forward.
An hour or two later, we're at the other bar. I'm on a stool facing outward with
open body language, looking badass smoking a cigarette. In come Chubby friend
and Black girl who runs up between my legs, wraps her arms around me and says
"HEY, it's my boyfriend!"
Oh FUCK, I haven't read this chapter. I don't know what to do! She felt this and
"went to the bathroom..." with her friend. Goodbye.
Wing said "Dude, all you had to do was grab her and role-play, what the fuck?"
You get these chances and you get to the "make it or break it point" and you are
too timid/inexperienced to move forward, she's not going to do it for you.
We end up opening a few more sets... and I see the girls again. The Black chick
gives me "come fuck me eyes." I go up and say "you need to stop looking at me
like that, it's turning me on" and bite her ear and run my hand down her body.
She moans.
FUCK, I haven't read that chapter either. I don't know what to do, I eject. End
of that set. I literally had to clue how to move forward in the interaction.
Reflection:
I've made a lot of progress since I began 'sarging' a year ago yet I refuse to
capitalize on opportunities when they come. I can approach, build & recognize
attraction, yet once I hit that I'm unsure of what direction to lead.
Since I began this journey, I've done little reading on the routines, methods,
magic tricks, etc as I believed they would hold me back as they were no
substitute for real world experience. With that said, I need a more
understanding of concepts such as escalation, isolation, comfort building.
There's a piece missing here which is preventing me from moving forward and I
need to find it.
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