Hey guys, here is a wrap up of the last couple of days! Enjoy, comments and suggestions are welcome!

Nightgame began on Thursday when I went by myself to my cousin’s soul/rnb concert at Jello Bar. Nothing much was going on there, few sets and I got AA, no one to push me so I left after 1h30 and went back home. I push myself to go out even if no one’s available, it’s a great occasion to see where I’m at on my own, where’s my comfort zone. There’s still a lot of room for improvement
Friday night was a lot of fun for a friend and me! We hit Le Rouge early and spent the entire night there. We went straight to the main bar, chilled there and opened the 2-set next to us after a good 10 minutes! Then, the night was on. We were alternating at opening sets, which is when we started really doing some interesting stuff.
There’d been a group of hot girls next to us at the bar for a good 5 minutes, we hadn’t opened them, so I went up to the hottest one and asked her “Are you shy? (no) Cuz I’ve been standing right there talking to my friend waiting for you to come over and say hi!” She laughed, I introduced myself, kino with my hand on her lower back, pulling her into me, exchanged a few sentences, got to know that it as a girl’s bday. I went back to my friend, then a few minutes later her friend comes to us and asks me to pay a drink to her sister, to which I respond “do you go up to every guy asking them to pay for your drinks?” and then I turned to the sister (b-day girl), wished her a happy birthday, and asked the girl I originally opened if she was the 3rd sister. She was reacting well and being responsive and playful, but I didn’t know where to go from there, so I went back to my friend. At this point, I was still warming up, getting in a high energy party vibe.
We took turns at opening about 20 sets in the night, out of which about a third were responsive. I started anticipating the girl’s reaction before going up to them, or when my friend would open them, I’d try to predict her reaction. He really stepped up that night, opened many sets with different openers like “I love you, you 2 are my new bestfriends” and pulling them into you at the same time, giving them a hug. Or going in the middle of a big set of girls dancing, pointing to the best dancer and say “You and me, we’re having a dance battle! Show me your best move!” All these openers worked great! The sets opened sooo easily to me when I came in after, I just had to act friendly, the girls loved him and I came in as a likable guy already! The DHV part could be skipped.
An other thing that helped us was the 30-second rule. Whenever we hadn’t approached a set for some time, one would start counting out loud, and the pressure was on! Your mind immediately tells you “oh shit I only have 30 seconds, I must approach quickly cuz the seconds are going by too fast!!” Soon enough, you find a set and whatever 1st opener that comes to mind is what you’re going to say! We brought energy and fun to many sets that night and I could feel that we carried that energy with us when we were moving around!
Some sets that didn’t go as well or were no as opened were for example when I’d go up to a really HB and introduce myself and smiling. One girl was dancing and when I came towards her, she danced away from me. Dunno what I could have done differently. She was a classy party girl in a 4-set.
I opened an other set with “Are you checking stocks?” when I saw a girl txting. I like this one cuz whenever I see a HB with her cell, that’s how I open her, then laugh and tell her “you must me rich!”, and pull her into me, asking for her name. But this one didn’t understand what I said, so her friend came in and introduced her to me. We could only exchange a couple of sentences while I was putting my hand on her lower back and pulling her against me when she was talking to my ear, when the same friend pulled her towards her and said “ok that’s enough I want her back”. So I pointed at her and told her she was a mean girl, laughed and hugged her too. She wasn’t opening up to me, and keeping her friend to herself, so I moved on. Here too, wonder what I could have done better.
An other set that I didn’t know where to lead the interaction was when I opened a girl wearing sunglasses that were given away at the bar, telling her she had cool glasses, I tried them on and put them back in her hair, and then didn’t really know what to say. She wasn’t facing me, rather facing her friends and I was talking over my shoulder. I have a harder time to address a girl who’s in a group compared to when she’s with one or 2 friends.
I’m realizing I have to be more social with everyone when going out in order to have a good time. At Le Rouge, most people go there in bigger groups so to get to the HB, it’s all about having a fun and pleasant interaction with all of them. Make them comfortable with the stranger who’s coming up to talk to them. I’m realizing that when someone is opening a set, being too high energy or desiring to make them love you really quickly puts a pressure on my shoulders and it is transferred to them, which must make them uncomfortable. I figure the best way is to go in with a funny opener or just saying hi and introducing myself, then transitioning smoothly into a conversation. Smoothly is the key word here.
An other thing I’m realizing more and more is that girls will react pretty much the same way to any guy who will walk up to her, unless you’re doing some silly stupid thing that will get you burnt. It’s not so much about me in particular, it’s all (or a lot) about her. Perhaps she’s opened to dancing with all the guys, but staying with her friends and not wanting to leave with anyone, or really selective about who she’ll flirt with because she’s aware of her friends’ reaction to the guy’s presence, or willing to flirt with you at the bar, and then who knows where this will go. It comes down to observing the girls before opening them up and trying to see what they’re up to for that night. What are they looking for tonight? How far could I push it with them? Maybe some really experienced PUA will say that you can figure out a way to pull any girl, but I’m not there yet, and even then, some are easier to game than others, don’t you think? Heck, some of my girl friends are saying they’re going out “hunting”, so they’re really just looking to get laid with some hot/fun/wtv guy she’s attracted and comfortable with given the proper circumstances… of course it’s easier with them!
So to sum up, look out for the adventurous ones, be more social with everyone in the group where there’s the HB so that you can actually get to her before being cockblocked- one girl that I’d been talking with for a few minutes told me she had a boyfriend, but then told me who was single in her friends and introduced them to me! This all started from Jezzamen’s dancing skills and his guts to go in the middle of the group and start a dance battle with the best dancer! And most importantly (cuz it relieves some pressure off my shoulders, I don’t think that I have to play it perfectly for her to like me), it’s really not that much about you, it’s about what the girl is looking for.