| second time day gaming at a community college
I don't really get many chances to go out day gaming, because I don't have a car, and i don't have a liscence. Bummer. So I can't just go out and sarge whenever I feel like it. But when I do, i try to aim for the best. I go to school once a week, but sometimes i go multiple times just so i can sarge some more.
So the past couple of times I went out sagging, I realized what my fears really were.
my fears:
1. One of my greatest fears is being rejected very harshly, or being cussed out or something
2. My second fear is being made fun of by other people who watch me in the process of sarging.
I know, I know, I'm supposed to not worry about rejection and all that crap, but it takes time for me to rewire my brain after 19 years of wiring. At least I know what my fears are, and I am working on them. some of u might say these fears are stupid, but everyone is different, and atleast, i'm working on them.
With that said, today was a success for me. Although I didn't get any numbers, I felt like I improved. I made three approaches today.
first approach was a hb6, a short mexican girl. she was studying, so I asked her if she was studying for an astrology (Situational opener). Then she told me she was studying for her accounting test. I nagged her for choosing a boring major, then introduced myself. after that, the conversation naturally transitioned to girls and make up, so i made some push and pull comments about her make up. at this point, she seemed interested in the conversation, and we were both having fun. We spoke for about 2 more minutes, then I felt nervous about transitioning into a number close, so I ejected. My fear of rejection got to me.
second approach was a hb7, a petite hispanic girl with a really pretty and young looking face. I asked her where the advising office was (functional opener). After that, I asked her a couple more questions then busted on her for being to nice. I kept claiming I don't like nice people because they lie a lot, and I like less friendly people because they tend to be honest, and i like honest people. She seemed impressed by my opinion. We kept talking, about school stuff, and the conversation simply carried itself. after about 3 mins, she had to leave, but I didn't go for a number close for I felt like i hadn't built enough comfort yet.
third approach was a mixed set. one guy, one girl. hb6, another hispanic girl (there's a lot of hispanics at my school). I asked them a riddle, and told them that no one had ever answered it before. Both the guy and girl were really friendly and receptive. The guy got the question wrong, but the girl got it right, so I gave her a high five and said some other happy stuff bla bla bla. I told them how friendly they were, asked for their names, then asked them what they were studying. the girl said she was studying accounting, so i nagged her saying she chose a boring major, and she should've chosen something like astrology. by this time, they were vibing the conversation. After sometime, we started talking about art, so I told them I could draw. The girl then told me to draw something. I drew a face, a heart, and some other stuff, and they were both very impressed. I felt like i was building comfort, and I should have asked for her number. But this time, I was nervous about the girl saying no, and the guy laughing at my demise. So i ejected once again. I really need to stop being a pussy.
Things i feel i've been doing well so far
1. i've been smiling
2. I've been making eye contact
3. I think my body language is pretty good so far
4. I feel more confident about approaching people in public now, but i am far from being completely there yet.
5. I feel like i'm doing a good job breaking rapport and negging without insulting the girl or overdoing it.
Any lessons learned?
1. Day game is a lot harder than night game.
2. I need to focus on controlling the conversation more.
3. I need to ask questions that get her to invest in the conversation. (I always forget this)
4. I need to stop being a pussy and go for that number close.
5. I need to approach more in order to extinguish AA and fear of other people laughing at me.
Although i had no number closes, I ended today with a good vibe. at least, i shatter my fears by a little bit and with more practice, they will be extinguished. I can't wait to get back in the field, I prolly won't be able to daygame till next wednesday. oh well...
When I get back to school, I'll get a chance to sarge daily, giving me room to improve faster, but for now, I'm hanging in there.
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