Hoolllaaaa

I am DirtyE ( I don´t know why I chose this name, I like the way it sounds I guess) and this will be my journal. I will write FR´s least weekly.

Why I am doing this?
Because I think it will help me to get better with women, keeps me motivated to approach (because I have to write something here) and maybe I get some very good advice from you guys

About me
I am in my early 20´s and began to game seriously in the beginning of this year although I know the game for long time ago, although I´m not a virgin I have not much experience haven’t got laid for years.

Appearance
I am slim and 5´3 (at most) short and I think this is my main insecurity and maybe my only??? Anybody facing same shit??
Man I´m getting comments on my height EVERYTIME fuckyoo this sucks (but sometimes women approach me because of it)

GAME
Nightgame, Direct (no special openers most of the time, just Hi) I read Chiefs Outer Game Guide and Warped Mindless ESP they have quit similar style will use both of them with my on touch of course. I would appreciate if Chief and WP could comment on my FR THANKYAA guys
The hardest part for me is to overcome AA or BB whatever you like to call it.
Most of the time I´m sarging drunk, not to drunk but tipsy you know. When I´m sober I often have so huge AA it´s unbelievable .

GOALS
Get rid of AA
Sarge sober
and fclose within the next 3 months

So I´ll start from the next weekend on, because I sarge only once a week max twice.
C yaaaaa I hope

hellooo,

something I want to tell ya it is not PU related but I feel I should post it here,
I have a challenge for myself going on and that is not jerking off to porn for 4 weeks

I am already in day16 and maaan I get a boner the whole day and everywhere and the hardest part is: sundays after the club siiiiickk

I dont know how it affects my game but we will see, cant wait for the weekend.

Yesterday I set for me another goal: Getting ripped till the summer
My PU goals stay the same

Cyaaa

Hey man,

Congrates on your new goals!

I'll keep up on your journal as well. I have very similar goals as you. I'm gonna get ripped at the gym.

I'm starting this year off as well wanting mastery. I'm making this the year of "whatever it takes".

Meaning I want to do at least 16 approaches a day / for the next 30 days. That's ALOT of approaches. I will probably need to not do them all in a single day because of various reasons..Nevertheless This is the YEAR i'm going to change my life completely! =)

Let's stay in touch and keep up with your FRs. PM me and maybe we can keep each other motivated too. I know it can be hard to do this. I'm going to keep written down alot of things myself. Hopefully it will make the difference.


Anyways, all the best bro!

- Thau

That's hilarious! Don't forget to practice and apply the material in places other than clubs, too. Women are everywhere in our daily lives so you don't have to limit yourself to just night game venues!

Thank you Thau

It is funny you mention "this YEAR will be the year of whatever it takes" because I also tell my friends this year is gonna be THE YEAR, we do things we have never done before and gain new expierence, go out at least every weekend (which i did) and have more fun than ever

So let´s make this year our Year Thau

16 approaches is a lot, but the more the better for your experience with women i guess. I wish you a lot of success and fun. You are welcome to post your significant ones here, we certainly can learn from it

We will defenately stay in touch and keep us motivated, it is always great to have someone who has similiar goals.

As for motivation there is a great video "mike tyson words of wisdom" this is soooo awesome I don´t know why but I love it and watch often. I´ll post the link as soon as I will have the permission to post links

hope to see you around bro

Glad to see you here Chief.

Thank you, you are defenately right, however I live in a fucking village and the nearest city is 30min away and it is a small city where everyone knows everyone (almost) so after 1 week of sarging it would be sarged out
of course if i´ll have opportunities to talk to girls beside clubs I´will and post i´ll post it here

Looking forward to reading about your adventures! PM me and I'll add you to my SPAM.

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Ok guys here is my field report, which is not even a field report

and you know why?? Cause I got AA as shiiit

I was sober....

We were driving to a club where we have never been before, and let me tell you there were maybe 5 hot girls thats it!!! Ok dirty you could approach at least these 5!!. but I got AA or bitch butterflies, as soon as I wanted to approach the AA took over I thought about my height and baaaam the whole night was fucked

Positive: I was sober
and I am not horny as usual after the club (because have not seen any real hotties)


How can I overcome this fucking fear of approaching, rejection??? and I don´t want to give a shit what others think about me like I do when I am drunk!!!
any advice?

Why do guys who are average height and looks have AA?? They are at least average so the girl can not reject them because of their looks. Dont understand it


So here are my goals for the next couple weeks:

GET RID OF AA
How do I achieve it?? By Approaching no matter how hard the AA get me

sorry for no field report guys
I promise the next week there will be one!!!

take care and all the best

The best answer to AA I've found was 60YOC's theory of Social Momentum. What is basically entails is giving into whatever small impulses you feel (for example, turning to the male stranger next to you and having a casual conversation, or even just getting a glass of water) until you become habituated to larger and larger impulses. Eventually approaching will feel completely within your comfort zone.

systematic desensitization
n
(Psychology) Psychol a SPAM of phobias in which the patient while relaxed is exposed, often only in imagination, to progressively more frightening aspects of the phobia

Start out small. Walk down a busy street and hold eye contact with all women who walk by. Keep holding until they look away or pass your field of vision.

Then go up to 10 people and ask for the time.

Then 10 women and ask for the time.

Then 10 people and ask for directions.

Then 10 women and ask for directions.

Then 10 women, ask for directions, then give a compliment

you get the picture... keep stepping up gradually.

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First of all Thank you guys

As far as I understand you guys posting almost the same Idea, and that is to start with small steps and increase constantly

@ Chief: Social Momentum I understand I think I have read this on your blog, will try this weekend

I was thinking about to just throw me in the cold water and approach no matter how high the AA is

@warped: I have done most of the things you mentioned
I don't have problems to approach to ask directions or to ask normal things, I also don#t have AA if have to approach girls for a wingman you know, BUT as soon as it is for me and the girl has to like me I get AA as hell maybe because I am to worried about the outcome and what she thinks about me (e.g that she laughs at me when I expose sexual interest in her)

If I get solved this "limiting belief?"? I probably won´t have any AA I don't know
but how do I remove this believe

Do you think stepping up gradually will help here??

Take care guys and all the best for you

OK guys I was in the field yesterday

I have to admit I was drunk but I approached two or three girls with no success of course

So we have been to my favourite night club, this club is ALWAYS full of hot girls and it is the biggest club in my country it is a paradise for PUA´s since I am an AFC it is no Paradise for me BUT one day it will become one for me I know it

Ok so I stand at the bar with my to AFC friends (they know about game but the one is to much into mystery indirect shit, I don´t like indirect at all and the other one was sober he would not approach when he is sober)
I see two blondes ( I hate PUA terms) but the one I approached was a HB7.5 for me.

Me: Hi ( I think with deadpan face)
Her:What? (it was very loud in the club) she also had to lean in with her head because I was about 3 inches shorter than her (as most of the time haha)
Me: comes near her ear: hellooo (I unfortunately forgot about laser eyes cause I was nervous a lil bit)
Her: making a gesture ( I dont know how it is called in english) with the head like no


How do I Escalate when the girls dont even want talk to me?, I know I have to approach more I know I know

One girl looked at me, when I looked back she looked fast away and then looked at me again but only a glance
Man I should appraoch her fuuuuuck

we left the club to drive to another. BAAAAD MISTAKE. This club was empty with no pretty girls not even the bartender was that hot, but she was ok. Since the Bartender was the hottest girl there, I winged her over like I want order a drink

I dont even remember everything I said to her but it went kinda like this
Me: you are the hottest girl (more AFC is impossible)
Her: You have to come on saturday
Me: what is your name?
Her: if i told you my name everyone will call me by my name to get drink
Me: they wont even hear it´

that was basically it, not a good night for me

BUT today I am going out again, this time sober yeaahhh

short term goals:
KILL AA

all the best for you

Congrats mate! And hold on to that goal about not masturbating to porn!

I started with this PUA about a year ago, and have had some great epifanies in the meanwhile. Girls even call me different than other men and more confident these days. Most dont even believe me when I admit that I havent always been this confident xD.

It is great stuff to learn. Just never forget that your goal should always be to have fun! As long as you have fun you care less about AA and rejections!

Not watching porn also makes you feel more sexual and dominant. Besides, it shows great discipline, making you feel strong from refraining from porn!

May I ask you what country you're from?

Thank you

Congrats that you are confident now, because confidents is KEY
now you do well with women I bet

It is not that I am not only masturbating to Porn, I dont masturbate at all for 30 days (5days to go)
I started this challenge like you said it, because of discipline and to get more sexual.

I know I have a long way to go, because I have read about alot of PUA stuff, but never applied it, I was just sarging drunk with. Today I´ll sarge sober!!
this year gonna be an interesting one for me

I am from Germany and you??

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31.04.2012

About the club I´ve been to: It is a huge, higher class club with A LOT of hot girls and the ratiio Male to female is 55 to 45 which I believe is very good.
Unfortunately I was tipsy again but just a lil bit

This time I had almost no AA, I approached about 8-12 women and that is a lot for my standarts: How I did it?, I always thought about > "comfort or success - choose one!" and I chose always succes

A couple girls just ignored me or were shaking her head( noo no don´t talk to me), I got cockblocked twice (I hate this) then other girls I talked to were not interested

she was looking good

Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: blaah blah blaj
Her: blaahh (she even didnt look me in the eyes and seemed verryy bored)
Me: You seem to be very uninterested
Her: Yes Its because I am
Me: ejected

However I also had some success
2nd girl
I have to admit she was lil bit chubby of course taller than me

Me at the bar (she was standing next to me): Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Whats your name??
Her: name (shaking hands 60 style)
she was into me so went directly for the close
Me: I have to go, tell me your facebook name I´ll ad you and THEN WE ARRANGE A MEETING (I know that facebook is weaker than number BUT I saw that she had no purse or somthing so asked for fb)

3rd girl

she was cute and had a nice body and I like how she was dressed yummyy
almost same convo as with gril no2
Me: Hi
Her: Hi(smilyng)
Me: Whats your Name?
Her: Name
Me: I am DirtyE (shaking hands 60style and she is also touching me with the other hand
Me: I have to leave in few minutes (that was a lie) give me your no.
Her: I have no cellphone with me
Me: facebook? or anything like that
Her: no but another social network (where I am not registered)
Me: ok I´ll write you there and then we will set up a date ok?
Her : yes ok


4th girl
she was cute

I spoke to her before, because 1 of my friends wanted her friend.

1 hour later

I have a vodka shot in my hands and didn´t want to drink it, she was standing next to me, so I make a gesture here drink it for me.

Her: no I don´t drink today
Me: me neither, my friends force me all the time
Her: If I dont want to drink I throw it away (takes my drink and throws away)
then we talked for 3 minutes, all what I know is I qualifed to much and I think she dominated the conversation.

I also tried shock and awe
Me: what can I do, you are standing here like that and looking so cute
Her: (smilyng) no I am not cute

Her: How old are you?
Me: guess
Her: I think you look a lot younger than you are, 28?
Me: Whaaat no
Her: are you under 25
Me: yes
Her: ok than this won´t work anyway (she was 26) she showed me her ID

I had to escalate more, I did almost no escalation damnnn

So that was basically it.

What I observed is, that the girls never mentioned except one, the reason for rejecting me, they either just ignored, were very uniterested or told me to fuck of

Negatives:

was tipsy and can not remember every detail
my game sucks I probably need something I can talk about or a game plan

Positives

first time in my life I approached so many girls
learned a couple things

Maybe I need another opener and Hi is just not enough??? any advice

need to work on:
ESCALATION> have to use more of warped´s ESP model
be non reactive

all in all it was a good night for me

Ps: I read trough my thread and I recognize that my writing skills suck, too few details and my english is not good enough, it is painful to read imho
will work on that too.

Comments are welcome

Take care

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