| I have been trying to improve my success with women for the best 8 months and have had decent success thus far. I've learned that meeting women, like everything else, takes practice and what you put in is what you get out. In the 8 months of practice i've f-closed 6 women compared to 4 in my entire life previous. Althought that sounds promising, the quality of girls i've been meeting have not been the quality i'd hope- usually they're 6-7/10. This is largely due to 3 things:
1. Low confidence. I see myself as a 7 in terms of appearence and that greatly limits my ability to approach beautiful women.
2. The way I dress. I mentioned this in the other forum, I dress like an angry 16 yearold and thus I am likely perceived that way. My goal for 2012 is to up the anty on my style.
3. The place I hang out. I'm constantly hanging out at the same bar, which has many beautiful women however they are generally, classless, unintelligent, easily distracted etc. This needed to change.
Last thursday I went out and had one of the funnest nights of sarging ever, although there was no f-close. I went to a ladies night. Now, generally I avoid these like the plague as I find its usually tonnes of guys with very few women and often the "entertainment" hangs around and gets much of the female attention anyway.
However. this time I was wrong. Starting in the line up there was a 2 set ahead of me: a tiny asian girl: probably a 9, very bubbly, cute, and maybe 100 pounds soaking wet. She is with her friend: a giant ogre, 250 pounds, not attractive in anyway but who am I to judge. I want to open the tiny asian but i'm being a pussy so I decide "hey i'll open the ogre, and maybe that will lead to the asian." I look over to say hello and before I can the tiny asian starts talking to me. We talked through the entire line up, I was getting really good vibes from her i kino'd a couple times and she did not dissapprove, all in all a good chat. Talked to her ogre friend as well who was very nice and pleasent despite her unattractiveness. Once we got in I left them and went and chatted with an aquaintence whom suggested that I should come. We talked for a while, I grabbed a drink and checked the bar out, as I'd never been there before.
About an hour passes and I run into tiny asian and her friend again. They are very happy to see me I joke about her size and make fun of her faint accent (chicken fwyed wice-this is hit or miss) then I play the "where are you from" guessing game with her-i'm pro at this. She is ammused and loving me. At one point i mention that i have a tatoo on my arm, I'm wearing long sleeves, she insists to see it and when I say I would have to take my shirt of to show her she begins unbuttoning my shirt.Anyway we flirt for around half an hour and then her friend comes and takes her away to go for a smoke, I decide not to follow. I grabbed another drink and was hanging out by the dance floor when two beautiful girls approached me. "Do you dance" they ask. I dont, but i'm not passing this opportunity up. We go to the dance floor, I'm stiff and unconfident, they both start laughing at me (i'm use to this) I just smile and laugh. Then one of them comes right up in front of me and the other directly behind me and they start grinding me saying "this outta loosen you up" I'm loving it and announce out loud "Best moment of my life!" somewhat jokingly, they both crack up and i've got the attention of pretty much everyone on the dance floor. A minute later the girl behind me dissapears and I'm dancing alone with the girl who was in front of me. In hindsite I think the other girl may have been this girls "wing" which instills me with confidence. Anyway we have a conversation, fairly boring although lots of eye contact, and kino, you could cut the tension with a knife. The she drops the bomb "I have two kids" - huge turn off for me, I've had friends as well as a brother get involved with women who are parents and it never go's well. We chat for a while when her friend comes and says its time to go, she gives me a look like "arent you goiing to make a move?" shes hot but I dont do it.
She leaves, its all good.I walk around and find my asian girl, shes wasted at this point and has a couple guys hitting on her by the dance floor. I come up and join the chat, shes complaining about how she keeps trying to dance and guys keep coming up behind her and grinding on her, and she tells us "that never works on a women, but if a women does it to a man it always works." I challenge her and say "Prove it, I'm gonna go dance, come grind on me and see where it gets you" I say it half joking half pretending to be offended. I go dance, and a few minutes later she comes up behind me, raps her arms around my waste and starts grinding on me. I make a joke about not being that easy, but she is so hammered that she doesnt get it. I opt to get her number and try again when shes more sober. I get her number and leave.
All in all this may sound like an average night on paper but I assure you it was tonnes of fun. What I learned was:
1. Start talking early. Open the first people you meet. In the line up if possible, this was a huge confidence booster and got my voice box working.
2. Move from set to set to set to set. I spent very little of the night alone despite the fact that I came alone.
3. Have confidence. Tonight was a huge eye opener. I was approached by 2 different beautiful women without doing anything. This will give me the confidence to open sets that before I would have thought were out of my league.
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