So I'm queuing to get into a club here, and this gorgeous girl is standing a few people behind me with her friend. He is absolutely smashed, but she said she'd go into town with him tonight, and she's being a good friend. One big thing here is I know this guy (we're at uni together), and he's done this sort of thing before. He's a sweet guy, but he's just not very good at staying sober for long.
So these three douchebags start hounding this poor girl, making fun of her friend, and cracking jokes about three ways and being dead loud and laddish. They're getting way into her space, but she's cleary used to this and handles them well enough. Eventually though, I naturally start getting a good old adrenaline rush. I want this girl for me, and these guys are getting in my way, bothering me, and definitely bothering her.
In this situation, I've always asked questions that allow for a girl to "escape". "Bit of a rough night" I ask her from a few people up. She takes the chance and immediately comes and stands up next to me, with the three stooges going "Wha' 'appened there man?"
Night goes smoothly enough, I can tell she's the parying type, and she's got a good grasp of how men work, I don't chase her about like a puppy from the start, but I pay for her entry, buy her a drink and just give her some general security. I get a cuddle as soon as I'm inside, and a kiss.
We come across a guy she knows, but he's already drunk, and not quite threatening enough to feel worried about. All three of us end up going back to campus and having drinks at one of her friends place. I stay calm, and don't go chasing after her attention, but given the opportunity she gives me a kiss and stroke her cheek. The night goes well, and I keep up this routine. We drop off this other guy at a bus stop, and go back to hers.
Things I've learned from this:
1) Dressing nicely is a big benefit if you're surrounded by guys in tshirts. Although it makes some women think you're a bit posh, this girl liked the fact I took pride in my appearance.
2) Be the knight in shining armor. The drama and heroics really helped me along last night, and she's mentioned it several times. I'm not a big guy, but I've established im just as much man as everyone else.
3) Good conversation doesn't have to be about ANYTHING relevant. I bring up ridiculous questions such as "ever wondered what birds would look like flying backwards" just because it makes me laugh and if she's worth it she'll laugh along with you. You're undoubtedly going to find out things about her this way anyway.
To all you far more seasoned guys, this is either no brainer stuff, or absolute crap. In any case it worked out for me last night, but keeping this girl interested might be a bit of a challenge. I take comfort in the fact she's asked how busy I am next week, and has suggested things to do together. We also came up with a colour for her eyes, seeing as we couldn't figure out what they clour were. Cute huh?
Anyway, hope you're all doing well folks. Shall catch you all later.
Cheers,
Nick
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