| Speed dating
So I got two friends out of the whole night
I went in to the night feeling pretty good. I didn't feel like I really needed to try that hard as I had already kind of proved to myself that I could get dates from the last speed dating night. I wanted to go in and just be myself and see how many dates I could get just being me I thought I did pretty well but apparently not.
The average interaction was basically like this...
Intro - hey, how are you? How has your night been? You talk for a bit about if it's your first time and how it isn't as bad as you thought it was going to be
The. You talk about what you do for a living. I work in customer service which I'm pretty sure is a DLV. I was honest tho, I wanted to see what would happen
Conclusion - I guess that's the bell, it was good to meet you, hope you have a good night
There was one woman, this tall Asian beach volleyballer. I would have given my left hand to have had a date with that woman. She was everything I look for, beautiful, exotic, a winning personality and a awesome confidence. We spent most of the conversation talking about her and talking about me a bit. She was the only woman who came and sat next to me instead of sitting across from me which I took as an IoI. When she left tho you should have seen her face, she couldn't get away fast enough.
I felt pretty at ease talking to the women, some were a bit boring and others were more interesting I had no real issues finding conversation, the issue I had was in the breaks when everyone mingled. I would find a group of people and join the conversation, usually there would be at least on guy in the group. I don't know why but I found myself just slipping into the beta role, letting the other dude make the conversation and I was just adding in comments where I felt it was appropriate. It can't have been that big a factor because there were only three breaks and I didn't do it that many times.
I don't know maybe I give off the vibe that I'm really not that interested in them, just mostly myself. I don't know. When the night was over I just wanted to get out of there as fast as possible. Especially after my "date" with my tall asian goddess. I didn't want to hang around and mingle, I wanted to get out of there so I just went straight home.
I got my results back today. Out of 18 women two would like to keep me as a friend. No dates what so ever. I don't exactly know what I did wrong but maybe I need to act like I'm more into them?
I hear the term natural game a lot and would like my interactions with women to feel that way, I don't like the idea of coming up with a few openers and DHV stories and then using them over and over again. I just want to be myself. I also don't want to feel like I am manipulating other people, at least beyond what is socially acceptable norms. Maybe this is the wrong way to look at it but after the night was over it can pretty much be said that I created no attraction with anyone at all.
Any ideas?
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