Been reading up and watching vids for about 2 weeks now. Well the time for reading was over, newbie challenge done last weekend it was time to go out and see how good I'm not at sarging.
Anyway, the target was to properly open 5 girls - 'properly open' in my world means that we are at least having a semi-sensible two-way interaction. I didn't want to pressure myself by setting a target of a #close/instadate, just wanted to try and be natural and have a good conversation and then ejecting on a high - this was both a good and a bad target as you will read.
I never really had a problem just simply opening hot girls by using indirect openers to get a laugh and I think this is why I don't really have approach anxiety as I used to spot them, think up a good line and use it to just make them laugh - without knowing or even caring what to do next - AFC lol!
The reports are below - there were a few others that I just didn't want to chat to after the initial open for one reason or another (one girl was waiting for her mum lol) but I am only writing about the 5 proper opens. In between the below I was talking to shop assistants, other people in the street, I saw some friends out too, just to keep on a talking and fun vibe.
My first two were in HMV Music/Video Shop:
The first one HB7 was looking at posters so I said 'are you looking for a Boyzone one' - in case you don't get this just take my word it is funny, especially when I say it
.... Anyway, she laughed, we both carried on looking at posters, me suggesting silly ones for her - she said that she wanted one with naked men on - I'm sure a more experienced PUA would probably have jumped on this but I didn't really know what to do, just had a bit more of a laugh then ejected.
The second one HB8, when I asked, immediately said that she was embarrassed about which TV box set she was buying - I tried to guess it lamely and was a bit funny so we ha a laugh but she got bored so I ejected. Again - lack of experience here showed as I was a bit stumped, we had a game going on and I didn't capitalise on it. Looking back I should have started talking about her appearance (slightly hippy) and made suggestions based on that then started talking about what she does when not watching crap boxsets, liked whatever it was then got her name.
Not even got a name so far!
Next two-set sat smoking. I got a light and started telling them that I was in town being friendly to people (haha) - we had a bit of a convo about all sorts of crap but they were a bit boring anyway and only HB6+HB5. Handshake/got their names just for practice.
Next girl was in a jewelry shop, HB7 - she was buying jewelry for a friends birthday, talked about our jewelry preferences. Interacted for about 10mins in total as we both walked around the shop (slightly together!). I started to think I should say she was sexy/funny/whatever (she was), check out her relationship status and if that went well then invite her to coffee. This is where my target fell over - I wimped out to my own target knowing I would be happy with the conversation. Handshake/got her name.
Last one was in a large chemist/beauty shop - she was lovely HB9, she had some really cool boots on so I opened on them, we had a laugh and started talking about her liking traveling, she was really cool and definitely into me on some level and even though I was a bit crap (slightly in love!) she kept with me. Thought I really should tell her she was funny/sexy/cool, find out about her relationship status and go for coffee but wimped out again to my target. Just got her name with a big smiley handshake and my hand on her shoulder and walked out of the store kicking myself.
MY THOUGHTS:
This was better than reading - doing is what is needed. It is fine to know what to do next but doing it is a bit different.
I now feel more comfortable having conversations with girls and find it a easier to transition to a personal vibe and get her name on a high point in the conversation (even though I ejected immediately afterwards).
Fucks sake why didn't I see how far I could have gone with the last one, she was nice and into me. This thought will drive me to go further with the next ones.
The target for next Saturday will be to instadate (or at least directly suggest an instadate to) at least 1 girl, if no instadate then #close. Not limit myself to 1 but try to at least get that.
CHAT
That sums it up really!