Hi, I am 21 & own a computer service business, I am new to the PUA community, but i did read The Game a while back. I am completely sick of being an AFC. I am the kind of guy when i want something i try my hardest to get it, and with women i am completely lost, the only game i have been using is the barely a game i just figured out my natural game, I ignore them until they start doing all the talking and like me so much i can't do much to damage it. this however only works on girls i have no interest in & takes weeks. which is why i am so good at ignoring them..

As soon as i find a girl that i like, I tend to over-analyze everything i say to her, and make myself look like an idiot, catering to her needs with out even realizing it. whipped for sure..

I want to rid this!

I want to be able to talk to any girl i have an interest in and know i can get her. I have confidence in everything else except talking to women...

So i am starting a blog and here is my first field report. I appreciate all the help i can get!




Day 1: Lost..

At a Dubstep house party, nobody was dancing until my friend and I started it.

2 HB9 or 10 Blondie, saw them, kept looking at them across the room, but they kept looking at me(get back to these later)

3 HB7s on the dance floor, dancing to Dubstep I was behind them, they kept looking at me & smiling, but i feel like i was looking at them too much. I don't know how to approach a girl from behind while dancing. only thing i can think of is rub up on her booty, but isn't that too much kino right away?

I just kept dancing, I heard them talking about me so i left & got my 2 friends that are girls to dance with me, & made sure they saw..(is that the right thing to do?)

later they were really talking about me... I'm pretty sure one said, he was cute, but now he is creeping me out:(

1 HB7 that kept giving me eye contact & smileing, she ended up behind me on the dance floor, I gestured and said to get in front of me(prolly not the right thing to do) I don't think she heard me and she continued to dance behind me until she eventually walked away.. I didn't know what to do

IDK if it is AA, but i have no problem approaching, just have nothing to say.. and this is worse as the girls get hotter.

since it was a dance party & no one was dancing, my opener was "why arent you out their dancing?" or something close to that.

I saw the HB10s again, one was wearing a funny hat, so i said "whats the deal with the hat?'
she told me her friend got it for her, the other HB10, so after she told me her name I repeated it and asked the other girls name, (I panicked, I had nothing to say!) soon enough they walked away...

a HB8 that looked like an old friend at first, I knew it wasn't but couldn't think of a better opener so i just assumed she was my friend and then did the ole "wait your not my friend, who are you?

prolly would have worked a little bit better if she wasn't wasted and on her way somewhere in the party.

however, the rest of the night every time i looked over at her, she was glaring at me with a big smile.. but she was surrounded my dudes..

I have a real problem with routines, as i don't believe that i should lie to a girl just to talk to her...
I wan't to change this belif, it could possibly be a shitty excuse for not using a routine.

my experience with routines, is i say them so many times in my head, i f*ck them up when the times comes.

I always think i can come up with something, but when the time comes, I usually say something that i can't follow with!
they always are smiling back at me though, and giving me eye contact.

I feel like they want to keep talking but having nothing to say.

I have a real problem with eye contact, as i don't want to look at them too much, but i feel that i have too shifty of eyes...

Questions
Eye contact! what should i do when they look at me a lot, but they are across the room isolated?
Eye Contact! where do i look when i'm talking, just stare into their eyes? i feel like a creep when i do that.
Dancing! Ok so i thought i would just get their hand and start dancing, but its very hard to get her hand when they arnt facing me, when should i engage kino? and how much?
After I open! I want to follow up with a compliment but i feel like that could lower my value, is this true?
mid-game! where can i learn some?

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