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Thx. What sort of statement of intent could I use that wouldn't get me blown out or make me seem needy?
I think both replies are on the money i was building friendship and not attraction. then pulled the kissing gambit out of almost nowhere. I think i need more kino and more attraction. I'm going back tomorrow night and hopefully will be better.
N4: "Did you see the fight outside?"
HB10: blabla haha blabla
N4: "Anyway, you seemed interesting so I wanted to come over and say hi."
(You can also open with this)
A pretty innocent little direct line- doesn't immediately set a sexual frame, but does tell her you're talking to her because she seems interesting, not because of the interesting routines/gambits you are running. Also, this 'label' of being interesting is something that she can quite easily lose, right? If she starts talking about the most boring standard stuff she'll no longer be interesting- and while she's physically attractive, tons of women are and that won't keep your interest for her. (The abundance mentality) Kind of adopting and vibing that idea should keep you away from seeming 'needy'.
You can then start your kino escalation and go for the kiss if the interaction's right.
PS. Forgot to work this in, but make sure that after the opener- even if she asks you- you don't go explaining why you think she's interesting, giving this list and throwing yourself into this negative spiral. A vague line followed by the idea that she has to prove herself to you, then move on, is best. Something like:
HB10: Really? Why?
N4: I'm not sure, you just give of this attractive vibe- does that come natural to you or were you just using your feminine wiles to lure me over here? I bet that's it.
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