Ok, so last night I meet up with a cute 32 year old blond I met off Craigslist (I'm 24). We grab a beer and end up talking for 3 fuckin hours, and all that time I'm running kino (mostly was just hand on arm, hand on hand due to the way we were sitting). We both laugh a lot and the majority of what we talk is very sexual.... like she pulls out her phone and shows me a picture of her tits (which are rockin) in a leopard print bra she tried on at the mall that day, says how she hates her breasts and giving blowjobs but gets off hard when her tits are played with, we describe to each other what we like in sex, she admitted to checking out my ass, etc. I'm going to Korea in 3 months and she got playfully upset over it, saying shit like "You're leaving me! What am I going to do?" as if we'd known each other for ages.

At one point she picks up her purse and says in a very business-like tone, "You know what, lets just do it. Let's get out of here." I take this seriously, so I play it cool. She asks how big my dick is and says it probably won't fit (she's 5'2"). I joke that it's 1 and 1/4 inches long (and she gets that I'm joking, and laughs), then say she'll find out later.

Her response: "Oh, we're not actually going to have sex. I just met you."

Which is fuckin news to me, because she seemed dead serious a moment ago. But I don't let this throw me off. So I say, "That's fine, we don't have to have sex" and don't make a big deal out of it.

So the date goes on, great talk, yadda yadda yadda. On the walk back to her car I hold her hand, then drape it over her shoulder. She seems fine with it.

We get to her car and here's what happens:

ME: Hold on, I gotta check something *go in for the kiss*

HER: *she kind of returns it, then, still kissing, grins embarassed-like* "Oh my god"

ME: *pulling away* Geez... get your hands off me, perv (smiling jokingly)

HER: I just kissed someone yesterday, I feel like such a prostitute

*indiscriminate chat, then we get to the good-bye part. She goes for a hug, I smile, say uh-uh, and kiss her again. She returns it, then pulls away*

HER: Get off me, freak (I thought she was serious, but now think she might have just been joking, based on what followed)

ME: *pat her on the back as I walk past her* See ya later, prude (with a joking smile)


So I'm driving back thinking I just seriously misinterpreted her interest and won't hear from her again, when I got a text from her not 5 minutes after we said good-bye.

HER: I'm at taco bell what do u want

ME: I'm at home, lol

HER: I was joking! (we had an inside joke about Taco Bell)


I don't answer, and that's it. My date game is usually very solid, but I've never encountered a situation as confusing as this one. I have no idea if she's sexually interested or just platonically interested and is just very sexually comfortable.

My plan is to freeze her out for a couple days, then get back to her as if she's sexually interested.


Could really use some advice on this one, cuz I'm fuckin mollified. Thanks guys.

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No one?

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Well, I personally don't like how you acquiesced when she mentioned not having sex. Instead, you should have negged her "Hey, easy there Ellen, you have to get to know me before you get into MY pants, anyway. I have standards." Something to that effect. Instead, you sort of afc'd the moment away by complying with her shit test.

She does sound dirty, though. A CL gal who just kissed someone yesterday (I say this knowing full well I've kissed more than one gal on the SAME day)... but I'd be willing to bargain that if you took control of the frame instead of reacting to her and "staying cool," you'd be in her pussy instead of her text log.

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Didn't seem very confusing to me. It sounded like a typical flirty/sexual/witty exchange between two people with chemistry on a first date. She's definitely interested.

What I would do is linger around as long as possible before parting ways. See how far you can escalate. You don't want to come off as a little lost puppy dog that won't go home, but you also don't want to eject prematurely.

Matters not, that's in the past. Just hit her up in a day or two and plan a second date and plan to f-close on that one.

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I read that showing you don't really care about sex is actually passing the shit test, and makes them second-guess themselves... but my style is more like what you would have said.

I've been pretty sexually forward with her. Texted a bit last night, goin out again tonight if she's feeling better (was sick last night). But yeah, if she's still talking to me after her confusing reaction to when I kissed her, I guess she's still into it. I'll take your advice, thanks.

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Thanks, this is reassuring.

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