The Beginning
I was so scared to do it last night, I almost chickened out at the last second then reminded myself what I would be doing if I didn't go; playing my xbox.
The night wasn't bad but definitely some odd sticking points occurred. When I got there, there were only about 3-4 groups of people, this huge 12 set of girls and the others were guys. There was no way I could approach a 12 set at this stage of my game so I went to bathroom and fixed up. Come out and ordered a drink.
I felt so lonely in this place. Everyone seemed to all be locals and knew each other quite well while I was the outcast. I saw a guy I met a few weeks ago and starting talking to him and got into his group. I needed to start somewhere, at least I had a safe base, for now.
The place was relatively empty all night to one point where EVERYBODY was outside in the smoking area, it was just me inside. I went up to the barmaid HB8 and starting having a light conversation and joking about how dead the place is, seemed like a really nice girl. I started teasing her about something and told her to have a shot with me but couldn't cause she was working. It was all fun and playful though, I made her night a bit more enjoyable as she literally had nothing to do.
People started to come back in and coming to get drinks so we had to stop talking as she obviously had a job to do. I went over to the DJ then and started talking to him about how empty the place is and was getting on pretty well with him also. I requested a song then went back to the barmaid when it had gone quiet a bit. I thought I could actually get a hired gun on my first night out alone but she was finishing way too late, I feel it was possible though, I think she liked me, she kept looking over at me once I went to dance or take a sit down so I was happy with that
Doing all this was to attempt to build some social proof at least because I quite frankly had none
Sticking point number 1
When you go to dance by yourself and genuinely just feel the music and doing your own thing, I thought girls were supposed to surround you and dance with you. This never happened though. I literally just danced and had a good time on my own without checking any girls out on the dance floor but they all seemed to stay in their little circles. After about half an hour, one chick starting pointing and singing the words to the song to me and I did the same but that was it. Why did nothing more happen, with all the girls supposed to surround you if your having a good time on your own?
The make out
Another chick, which was the more meaningful one, was dancing too and was looking at me so I went over and danced with her for a while. I decided to isolate so I took her hand and gestured to go and sit down and she complied. We were close talking and had my arm around her, usually by this point I could have KC but I want to improve my game so I took a little longer to work on my verbal game. Her friend then came over and said why don't you two just make out already, I could have but I made her wait for it
She then said she need to go to the toilet and told me to come with her. She actually took me inside the girls bathroom and into the cubicle with her while she took her pants down and did her business. I was so drunk I didn't actually know what was going on but now I realise that I could have actually fucked this girl in the cubicle or even get a BJ off her. Drink a little less next time so I have my senses with me lol Damn I would have loved to have banged her there and then...fuck you alcohol, you make me confused!
After she was done, we went out and danced again and I knew I had to KC now. I did something Adam Lyons did in a video where you spin the girl then pull her right into you then put your hand on her lower back and continue to dance. I went to bite her neck after that, she liked it, looked up at her then made out with her. I tried to get back to her place but she said she was staying at her friends so logistics were a problem, my place isn't even in the question!
Summary
Overall, a better night than I expected. Knowing me I would usually go in a sit by myself and not talk to anyone all night, I was happy that wasn't the case.
I hope this isn't true but I think my lack of attention on the dancefloor was down to the fact that I'm Asian. I was the only Asian in this place and the rest were all white. Before I got my cab back home I heard some guys shouted a racist remark that I do not want to repeat but I pretended I didn't hear him and carried on. Reacting to it would have probably resulted in me getting beaten up or worse.
Could my race have been a factor that held me back here? Hanging in a club, on my own, and the only Asian there? I think many people in there were racist.
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