I live in a new city and I don't know to many people outside of the people I work with. This creates a problem for my sex life. I'm fine meeting women when I have the right network of people but when I don't it hurts my sex life. I want to change this and expand my dating pool. I believe I can address this problem by going out to bars a couple nights a week and trying to meet women on my own. I intend to after a little while move on to meeting women during the day. A year from now I want to be comfortable meeting women in a wide variety of circumstances and to being able to bring them into my life.

Went out to a bar tonight by myself. I'm used to being with a group so it was uncomfortable to be going by myself. Part of me wanted it to be busy so that there would be women to talk to and another part of me was hoping it would be dead so I would be spared the uncomfort of talking to people I didn't knw. I chose this bar because I did go to it once before a couple months ago on a saturday and it was packed, and there were atractive women there. I wasn't expecting it to be busy tonight but when I showed up I was suprised how dead it was. There wer a couple guys sitting at the bar and the bar is huge. There were a couple couples that seemed to be there as well eating diner. Part of me was relieved and another part of me was disappointed.
One of the things that makes me uncomfortable is the realization that women don't go out alone. In particular they attract jackass guys. That is not something I'm currently interested in dealing with. When I went to this bar I remember watching a fight break out between a bouncer and one of the patrons who was a young, drunk, jackass dude. It's not the fight, it's the bullshit of dealing with people like this.
On the upside I was unsure of what kind of conversation opener I could use and one happened to land in my lap today via a discussion I had with a co-worker of mine. She was telling me about a situation she is in where she likes a guy and a guy likes her but they share the same group of friends and she doesn't want to ruin things with this group of friends with the possibility that a relationship with this guy won't pan out. What should she do? This also leads into dating co-workers and other interesting conversations and it's real, not fake which I like. I knew it was good when I kept trying to think of an answer to this question toaday.