Hey everyone!

I'm a 27 year old Spanish guy in Barcelona. For the next 30 days or so I have absolutely nothing to do. I want to take advantage of this period of free time and practice pickup intensively. I need to get this handled once and for all. Here's the plan:

Day game:
I want to be out for at least 5 hours every day and approach like crazy. I already have a bit of experience doing that with a wing, but alone I've had problems handling the AA and done no approaches most days. So I need to grow a pair and approach anyway because it seems the AA isn't going anywhere.

In most conversations I would go direct ("I think you're cute"), run out of shit to say and eject. Eventually approaches became mechanical and completely ineffectual. To avoid that, my goal for conversations will not be to get a number, date or whatever, but simply to have fun. I want to use that to get into a fun, social state. I want to be able to get into that state reliably.

Night game:
I want to do night game most nights (at least 5 each week). Luckily in Barcelona there's something going on every night.

I have attempted night game a few times, both alone and with a wing, and strangely my AA is much worse at night. The only times I've approached not just girls, but been social at all has been when I've been very drunk. I can't be getting wasted every night, so that needs to change.

Barcelona is pretty much an outdoor bar in the touristy areas, with people sitting around everywhere having cheap beers. So the first thing to do at night is to approach people on the street for a few hours, same as in the day to get into a social state. Then go into a club and practice my club game.

For the night I want to use 60 years of challenge's method of escalating fast and building sexual tension like crazy. Both things I'm terrified of. May god help us all

By the way, if anyone in Barcelona wants to wing send me a PM. Or an email at undergroundpassage at gmail dot com

Day 1: Day game

Went out at 6 pm. That was unfortunate as I would just have a couple of hours of daylight left. For the first 1.5 hours I was too scared to approach any girl. I just wandered through busy streets, hundreds of hot girls passing me by, and every time I decided to go for one I chickened out before even saying a word.

Eventually I decided that I would stay in a given block (not crossing any street) until I had opened one girl there. That seemed to do the trick, because after a few minutes of meandering around I opened my first girl:
(In spanish) "Hey, do you speak spanish?"
"No." She kept walking.
"English?"
"Yes." Stopping about 2m from me.
"I just wanted to tell you you are really cute."
She started walking again and smiled. "Oh, thank you. Thank you very much." I feel better.

I let her get away. I change block. By that time it's quite dark already. I approach another girl and have virtually the same conversation with a spanish girl, the main difference is that she thanks me without a smile and apparently begrudgingly "Gee, thanks".

It's fully night already. I change block and wander around for 10 minutes. Finally I get the courage to approach a very cute girl, and by the time I say "You are really cute" I notice she is pregnant. I guess I have crap night vision. My voice trails off, she thanks me with a smile and walks away.

15 minutes pass before I approach another girl. I approach from the side, say "Hey, do you speak Spanish?". Startled she grips her bag tightly and looks about to run. She says no and keeps walking.

Another long time passes before I approach the next girl. She looks at me and keeps walking without a word.

Demoralized at 9pm I head back home.

Lessons for tomorrow:
-Go out earlier. So I can do day game, you know, during the day.
-Don't wait 1.5 hours to open. Stay in a place and don't move on until having opened a girl there.
-Open with a firm voice, and move close to the girl. Perhaps that way they won't keep walking away.

I'm going to get ready for night game in two hours. I'm going to try to improve my mood and energy with music. Wish me luck.

Day 1: Night game

At home I try to pump myself up with music. It works to an extent. But shit, I'm feeling sick, like I'm coming down with the flu. I head out anyway. I sit down on the street, have a beer and make conversation with a couple of dudes sitting nearby. The conversation fizzles out. I sit by myself for a while, and then walk around to open some sets, but don't have the balls to do it. Eventually I head into the club.

I love dancing. I'm not good at it, but it puts me in a good mood. I'm probably running any social proof I might have had into the ground dancing by myself, but fuck it, I'm loving it. I notice a girl looking at me. After a while she's dancing with her friends next to me, I catch her looking again. She's giving me signals that she wants to dance with me. I do what any hot-blooded AFC would do: I look somewhere else because girls are terrifying. There's a girl dancing by herself looking unhappy because her friend is dancing with a guy and ignoring her. Several girls seem to be looking for someone to dance with and most guys aren't approaching. There's opportunity everywhere, "Just a couple more songs" I tell myself, "and I'll start approaching". Time passes and I do nothing. After a while the crowd is starting to thin out, and eventually most girls have gone, the few that remain are with guys. I head home.

Lessons:
-If I'm in a shitty mood , dancing will fix it.
-That's not enough to prevent me from being a coward.
-I must start approaching as soon as I arrive into the club.

Really, since I attempted nothing there's no improvements to implement other than "Don't be a pussy and approach you idiot." I'm guessing there's no technique to it other than just doing it. 3 second rule perhaps.

Anyway, I really am sick. Not bedridden, so I might head out anyway. I'll keep writing here if I do.

Hey everyone! You know what's awesome? Being healthy. You know what's not so awesome? Approach anxiety returning in full force after a week of not practicing and kicking your ass.

After not going out while having the flu, and some more days because it was raining (bad excuse, I could just have gone to a mall) I finally attempted to go and approach. And after a few hours of roaming the street I returned with a grand total of zero approaches. The next day it was the exact same story.

The day after I decided to go out and start by asking girls for the time. Girls would usually pretend not to hear me and walk past. I decided to focus on having a good body language and confident voice. I marched right to girls, and said firmly "Hey, do you have the time?" while keeping eye contact, stopping next to them and expecting them to do the same.

What a difference that made.

Most girls would either stop immediately, or ignore me for a few steps and then stop, turn around and answer me. There was also a pretty large amount of girls who ignored me and didn't stop. However rather than feeling embarrassed about it, I felt like they were the ones being impolite, and that was their own problem.

After a couple hours of that I felt confident and happy. Surely now I would be able to approach. I decided to do so, and once again failed to open any girl.

So I needed a wing. Fortunately I was in contact with a few as I had been looking for fellow PUAs and PUAs in training through various forums.

Daygame, Day 2:

On wednesday I met with a wing. I knew a wing made approaching easier, but I never realized how huge the difference was. Although we were approaching by turns on our own, it was so much easier. We met late and did about 5 approaches each.

Mine went almost all identically. I approached the girl just as I did the day before asking for the time. With a confident stride and firm voice. To be honest I can't describe exactly the way I approached because I don't really know what's different from the awful approaches described on my previous posts. Just a general firmness and confidence. And this time all girls responded well. Oh, they got rid of me quickly, but they were smiling and polite about it. And they weren't clutching their handbags afraid I might steal them.

The conversations went almost all like this:
"Hi, do you speak spanish?" (Hard to tell the tourists from the locals)
"Yes."
"I thought you were really cute, so I had to come and say hi."
"Oh! Thanks. (Pause) I'm in a hurry though, good bye!"
"mumble mumble don't go!"

One of them even apologised profusely about being in a hurry and kinoed me, putting her hand on my chest before walking away, aparently really sorry about it. Weird.

Daygame, Day 3:

The next day I met with another wing. We had little time as I had to catch a train later and it started raining on us so we only did two approaches each. My first:

Under the rain, each with an umbrella:
"Hi, do you speak spanish?"
"Yes."
"I thought you were really cute, so I had to come and say hi."
Rolling her eyes: "Ok. Where are you from?"
"Here, I'm Spanish."
"You don't look spanish."
"I know, my whole family looks spanish but I look german. I'm not sure what happened there."
"You look like a tourist." *Walks away*.

Pretty weird. The second approach, in a mall:
"Hi, do you speak spanish?"
"Yes."
"I thought you were really cute, so I had to come and say hi."
"That's pretty balsy of you. Thanks."
"Err... My name is Tunnel"
We shake hands "Lisa." Then she kisses me on the cheeks, the usual spanish introduction, though I wasn't going for that. "Well, don't get wet under the rain." And she walked away.

Lessons for the next day:
-One thing I consistently failed to do was maintain good eye contact. I used to do it, but it seems I must re-train myself.
-And the obvious one. I suck at transitioning. Every time except the last I didn't remember to introduce myself. All girls left after the opener, but I had the feeling I could have made them stay by introducing myself and starting a topic of conversation. Instead I hesitated and they took the opportunity to leave. Now that girls are not terrified of me when I walk up to them, I can focus on this.

Night game, Day 4
I met with some local wings that were meeting to go sarging that night. They were all much more experienced than me.

We started approaching girls on the street, and later we went to two clubs.

Usually one of the other guys would open a set, and after a while one of us would join to isolate. The times I did that I would say a line or two and then just hover there trying to think of something to say, unable to join the conversation.

I had a lot of approach anxiety, and approached only 5 or 6 sets all night. A couple just blew me off immediately, and with the rest I ran out of stuff to say after a minute or so.

Day game, Day 5
I met with a wing the next day. The last time I met him (day 3) he had terrible AA, and I had to really push him to approach. Meanwhile I was quite comfortable and opened confidently and quickly in my turns.

This time he opened many sets, had good interactions, and got numbers from two 3-sets. He was exhilarated and later told me it had been one of the best days of his life.

I on the other hand was paralyzed by AA, and opened only 5 sets in 6 hours. I think I was still feeling shitty from the night before. Two just ignored me, and the others' reactions ranged from polite to flattered when I told them I thought they were cute. I then introduced myself, shook their hands, and they would tell me they were in a hurry or a variation of that. Every time I didn't insist and let them go.

Day game, Day 6
I went out by myself in the morning. AA kicked my ass and I opened two uneventful sets in 3 hours.

Later I met with the wing and opened, fuck I don't even remember, just 4 or 5 sets in as many hours. They all went pretty much poorly, with polite reactions and quick ejections.

Gentlemen, I'm getting worse! My inner game is all fucked up. My willpower is failing for both opening and transitioning. Perhaps there's something off-putting about my body language, voice, whatever. The thing is I don't know because I let them leave too easily, and I don't open enough to build momentum and improve my state.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do tomorrow. Perhaps go back to asking for the time and focus on body language and voice. Fake confidence until it's real. And try my damnest to use the 3 second rule.