Day 0: Attacking AFC mode


I am Ahoz:
I am 29; medium built (when I say medium it means, 5'5" with 180lbs);

I have been reading about this forum for quite a time now. I've been motivated to write my own experience, (thanks to this forum by the way), and be guided of the way it deals me.

Basically, there was no difficult for me initiating a conversation. I am friendly, BUT, this is not really applicable when I encounter a HB 8-10. I was such a dork, I just stare them (AFC mode), but I can't initiate a conversation nor approach the HB. How much more if they go by sets. I can open a conversation with HB6-7, higher than them, I cannot...

This I found out, I can go on conversation if I have no intentions of what so ever in them. I can talk to stranger about some directions if I was lost. I can talk to any person, but I just can't escalate the situation.

So here I am, posting in this forum, hoping some of you will correct the way I deal with my approaches.

Who Am I:
- I am currently in AFC mode
- AA is eating me

Goals:
- Erase AA
- Attract women
- Increase confidence
- Lost Weight in order to Increase Attraction (current weight above...)
- being not needy, sleazy
- change my status

Give some examples of what will you do or did if you want to approach a HB 8+ so I can give some advices.

Thanks mate.

Day 1: The Banana Bait

Goal:
- erase AA

There was this HB7 standing outside our office, then one of my co-worker dare me to approach the girl. I said, "I will approach her if you would give me the banana"... And so we agreed, that give me enough courage to approach a person.

I was thinking of an opener, and here is part of our convo:

Ahoz: Hello, are you waiting for someone in our office?
HB7: hmmm, no. (looking away from me)
Ahoz: OK, I thought you are waiting for someone.
HB7: Yes, I was waiting for my BF.
Ahoz: Ok, I just go ahead. Thanks.

LOL, I never thought of that statement and I never escalate to even know her name... hahaha, lame! but well, I still get the reward.

Lessons Learned:
- It easier to approach if somebody force you to
- anxiety diversion by baiting self of the reward
- learn to escalate
- overcome BF-block