Some of you may already know my first day of pickup because I already posted in my other thread, but Ive been inspired to make a journal of my journey with becoming a PUA.

My name is Gabi , and i am 17 years old, I never kissed a girl in my life , never got a girlfriend , and I want some females in my life man.So i figured out that all I have to do is practice and socialize with them in order to become confindent and be able to pick,in other words Im practicing the pick up art.I love art , and I love music,so in a way , I love the relation that they made between art and pickup.

So here I am writing about my 1st day of pickup.

Day 1: Asking girls for directions -12 August

Notes:Im a bit ripping off , the titles from AFC Daniel (props to him for inspiration)

At home like always

So here I was sitting at home , reading some PUA material in the morning,singing with my MIDI keyboard , and I just decided to try picking up that day(12 August)

I live in a village close to a city , so it is kind of hard to connect to people ,but I can go to the city , just fine to , try the art.My objective was to go to the city , at the mall , to eat KFC (Yeah im a fast food junkie ), and try pickup along the way.

The time it takes for me to prepare , and go to the city takes a while , as I had a cold fast shower, I took care of my looks ( I began looking great ) , and went out fast with a neighboor , that wanted to go to the city too , and car lifted me (a friend of my dad) (the city is named Bacau , by the way)

In the street (daygame begins)

I told him to leave at some street , and I went along the way straight to the mall.
When I was in the street though , AA hit my like a train , and I found my self unable , to engange in a direct approach , as I wanted to try direct approach , so it would make me confindent.Yet I found out it was very embarising for me to even attempt doing so , so I walked almost a half a kilometer (it takes a very long time to get to the mall by foot) , and have tried enganging in conversation,but man I just couldn't bring myself.It was like when you are playing basketball for the first time when you watched so many matches,and found out , you can't even score one point.That's how I felt.

Oh well , it didn't last too long,before I made my first approach on the first girl at the street/opener.

As i was a bit confunsed and scared the dialogue went like this (i wasn't paying attention to BL,and my voice was shacking,though I kept eye contact,which I was good at )

She was a black haired girl ready to cross the street , though she had to wait for green light.I approached her from behind.

"Hello do you know where can i find the north district?"she turned arround very surprised when she saw me, and found out she was really good looking,damn a HB 8.5 AT LEAST!!!
"She asked me to repeat because she wasn't paying very much attention " (I learned from this that , I have to say hello , and continue after , she pays me attention the first time"
"Well if you walk this road straight you will find yourself there"
I actually been in north before so I kinda knew where it was, but I didn't knew the exact location.
I said
" Oh really, I didn't knew"
she said
"Where do you exactly want to go
I wanted to eject quickly but she insisted on asking me (damn biotch lol )
" I said , a friend is waiting for me at his home"
"Do you know the street he live "
I knew no street of the north district so that was quite embarising
"No i don't know"
She looked weird at me and said " How couldn't you "
I ejected by saying
"Thank you" and left

It was even more embarising that she could have seen that I was not going to the North district,but to the mall (it was really close to that place)

In the mall ( the desired field )

Oh well so I entered to mall,ate first , and afterwards I did 3 appproaches (an HB 7 at first,she was cute , though with her little brother , a two set: HB 6 HB 7, another set : HB 6 HB with the same opener : Do you know where I can find Hand watches?

I wanted to progress more than just asking directions, so I kinda asked them if they would show me .

It went well and not as embarising as the first time , with the black haired chick.

I left the mall afterwards.

Street part 2 ( daygame ends)

I put myself with the objective to approach every cute girl until I went to my sister (who was at market at the time ) and go to the beer festival in the city.

I did 2 approaches asking where the festival takes place ( I like situation openers )
: ( first A two set , one HB 8 that I can remember , and another 2 set that were street skating, a cute little young blone 14 years old hahaha , I like girls that young , though but don't take me for pedo ) and I pushed myself asking the last set If they were coming (i didn't say with me though )

Now here is where the daygame ended.I saw a couple more of HBs , but I didn't take the courage to go up to them ask the same thing.Next Ill note to not hesitate to a single HB , for a direction ( how bad can it be ? )

So i quit picking up for that day, my heart was very tired from all that anxiety shit.

I went to my sister, and went alone to festival , and met some ex classmates (it was boring but they asked me out to go to the swimming pool with them , I guess that's nice ,but nothing of interes )

Day 1 ENDS

Conclusion : It was a good/bad day.I liked that I approached girls asking for directions, but I couldn't go in for a conversation, I always ejected. AA is a big obstacle,but it can be of help too,depending on whether Im embared of what I am doing or not.

Questions for you : I am really really really sorry for my bad grammar, and bad narrative.I am good at understanding english , but bad with its grammar.And my narrative is bad.So i will appreciate some advices in the future , and I hope I won't ask to much by saying this : CHEER ME ON!!!!!!!!

Day 2 : Being too direct

This is the 2nd day I went for a sarge, and tried my game.

Home

I went to the church this morning and because I woke up early,when I got home , I gone to bed , and woke up late , so I had to hurry up , and I didn't gone the way I wanted.

City


Anyway , I went to sarge , in the streets, and the mall.I gone and sarged the same way as before ,but the thing is I had quite bigger AA for asking girls for directions , than I thought.Especially that , I had negative thought , and limiting beliefs,as asking directions for me depended on where I was , and that was a bit limiting factor

I went up first time to a set of 2 and the dialogue was like this :

Me : Hello do you know where can I find fastfood "name of fastfood"
HB : At the center of the city
Me : Ok

I ejected.Man what a bitch, it was that hard to explain.If it was an honest question,that wouldn't have helped me at all.And that gave me even bigger AA(damn !!!)

I went through a park , on the way to the mall , and I approached another set of 2
which were sitting

Me: Do you know where can I find the station etc
HB: Explained blabla

I was worried a bit about the situation , cuz it's only the second approach,but she was cute , when she talked,and I learned to let them talk because I wanted to get used to their voices.

I began approaching more sets , and did the same,and I realised that listening to them helps me get in the place,and I could continue the conversation,though I didn't do it , because I had no fucking courage (strangers are hard)

Village/Home

I went the most direct in my life today.
There was a festival in the village today , and there were many people that came from other locations,I saw 2 HBs and I went more direct than ever saying something like

Me:Are you guys from "name of my city"?
HB:No.
Me: Where are you guys from anyway?I haven't seen you arround here before
they were quiet for a few second and told me that they were from a village nearby, they told me that , they had relatives blablabla

The thing is , I went direct because I gave a vibe like I was someone and wanted to see what some chicks like them were doing in his village.I don't know how well it went with them , but the thing is that I went to 2 chicks ,and asked them out of the blue where are they from , is kinda direct for me,and I NEVER DO THAT MAN.I like my progress.


Oh well I went home after the little approach,and I met a very old hb friend.A girl who was my playmate(not the playboy notion) when I was very little (like 8-10 years old lol),and even though I knew from my parents that she became pretty , I never met her since a lot of years.

Anyway , I had a long walk with her through the whole village with my sister , and another guy friend that's the same age as her (she'S 20)

Anyway , the HB i met at my cousin's home (yeah she was there), has became from a childhood friend (I really had girl as childhood friends? really lol )
to an HB8.Honestly I was a bit disappointed , as through my mom's description she would have been an HB9-HB10 damn it!!! Anyway,I talked with her , and to keep it short , the dialogue happens throughout from cousin's home , through the whole village and back again.

Me: Hello how are you ?( i couldn't had kino with her,since she was sitting ,and she looked quite bored,and not surprised when she seen me)
HB8 : Hello , well Im fine
blablabla talk
Me: How many years has been since we met (I wanted to try her to think of the 2 of us , it quite works)
HB: I don't know ... 9 , 10 ?
Me: What? No , it has been 5 at most I think,I must have seen you through that.(I knew the exact date when I saw for the last time,but I wanted to be interesting and approximate )
HB : Oh really
Sis , and the guy friend blablabla talk,highschool talk , we went outside, we talked a little , I tried to teased her a little and it went something like this, when she talked about her cousing ( a girl) ,that went to spain , got married to a guy blablabla

Me:Speaking of that , do you have a boyfriend?
she was surprised when I asked her that , and repeated the question,and the first time I though I heard no and I went like (afc style)
Me:Oh really? A girl like you with no boyfriend?
HB: But I said I had a boyfriend (I could have sweared she said no )
Me: Oh really,on a scale to 1 to 10 , how is your relationship (loool I tried sasha pua style , but I liked how I asked her )
HB : What?
Me: Are you in an open relationship or somthing
HB: Open relationship like what?

My sis heard, though we were 4 of us,and apparently they didn't knew the notion of an open relationship,and I made the mistake of asking her about that,because it was kind of huge DLV.

Anyway the dialogue went more friendly afterwards,but then I began playing with her,she clearly gave me IOIs,because we were 4 of us, and she wanted to talk to me , I let her speak more,and ask me more questions,I only commented,and we weren't close to my sis and the guy with us.
It was a friendly talk,though I tried to make jokes blablabla.
I tried to gave her signs,and tried to be C&F,and It kindo worked.She bought a toy from the village festival (yes there was a festival in the village today),and I took her toy ,and began hitting her playfully with it(man I loved this part,she began laughing and smiling cutely,and I knew before that playing with girls,creates HUUUGE attraction)

Though I knew she had a boyfriend, I tried practicing attraction with her , dialogue (C&F) , though I didn't try to kino her ( Im bad at kino , especially because a girl like her knows my parents,my relatives,I couldn't risk tooo much ), I realised , that I could socialise with a girl being a bit direct ( and I liked that),and took too much abuse of that.But the result of my hard work (trying to create attraction ) she kinoed me , when we got back home , she Kinoed me , clearly giving me a bit of IOI , (though she kinoed her cousin friend the same , yes the guy friend was her cousing , but I wasnt )

Well when we got back home , things have been a little cold, I began socialising with the other people ( which was fine by me , but other people said it wasn't good sitting next to her blablabla, I didn't wanted to be too needy ) so soon she was going home , and I wanted to go for a number close.

Our last dialogue was something like this

ME:So you know when I said that you should come to me ,when you come back here,give me your number so I know you will come.

HB : (Saying with a playful tone) No

ME : Oh come on...

Here has been the mistake of my day , along with the open relationship one , because here I seeemed like an extreme AFC needy guy , but damn I ASKED FOR HER FUCKING NUMBER , IT TAKES BALLS, BUT I SEEMED NEEDY ARGHH (I was a happy/sad guy , because I realised a mistake , and I learned that being like that was very need)

Conclusion

So what I realised from this , is that I can deal with pretty girls like her pretty well , though I really have to work a loooooooot with the kino part , but socialising , I have to watch for lame mistakes that give me DLV (though it doesn't permanently hurt , but it doesn't do good ), and witt these kinds of girls I have to be a little more indirect with the speech but not kino.

So I didn't number close , because of 2 variants:

-She had a boyfriend
-I have been a little too direct ( supposing she didn't have any ) and scared away.If I was older , and we weren't caught up on relationship commitment thing , I might had a thing with her.

Sadly my game , was a bit poor , but still..........BETTER THAN EXPECTED MAN!!!!

I learned this :


- Being too direct may scare some girls , but I may as well be like that .
- I need to let the girl speak, I like when they speak with their soft voices, and when I enjoy it , I emit a good vibe, and not say things like yeah, ok while her speaking.I let her speak until she shuts up
-I can be direct in a good way , but I don't know too much C&F , gotta work on this, but I do make some good jokes,but some things I say are lame
-My openers suck , (yes I didn't tell you,but I asked for direction , to really close places , like right in front of me , and I made fun of myself asking them , but I ) didn't care though, all that matter is me approaching and killing a bit of my AA)
-My body languange needs some refining(it didn't killed my game, but I definatly didn't controld BL all the time.)
-I can create attraction with girls that have boyfriends, and here is to my other learning point
-Learning to pickup , and to be good at the game , is all about learning to create attraction.It doesn't matter if the girls has a boyfriend,or how many girls you have laid.Creating attraction is a skill , and PUA training resolves arround making us better at creating attraction.
-CREATING ATTRACTION IS CRUCIAL(kino , C&F,negs,DHV,peacocking and sometimes even looks, all are part of creating attraction
-Creating attraction is the skill.And a skill like that is a skill like playing piano.Naturals are good at creating attraction.And we have to learn to be good at creating attraction

I love it keep posting

I am glad to hear that .I hope I will go sarging soon,I think I will go tomorrow but Im not sure. My plan is to ask girls for directions , and start a conversation based on it.

For example :

1st line Do you know where is the "name of the location"
2nd line Do you often go there
And some conversation about the location,so that I will be able to ask at least 3 questions before I Introduce myself to the girl.Ask some other question (in which school she is going,if she likes)and build a quick rapport with , and then , try to be a bit funny also (if I have the chance) , to make myself a bit memorable,and then say that I have to go , and ask for her number if she wants to hear from me again.

Does that sound good?

Day 3 : Training while not sargin.

I forgot to tell you , that recently in this summer I decided to do a sport,and I found a sport Im naturally good at.That is swimming,though,I do not swim like pros,I am better than 80% people , and can swim 100 meters nonstop (freestyle/front crawl) with ease,and can do 2 turns of the pool (the pool is 70 meters btw ) , but the point is that Im aspiring to be better and Im in no definition a "good" swimmer,Im just better at this sport than others.So im going to the basin(or pool , I don't know the english part of this , olympic pool stuff blabla) , so I go regurlarly here.

The nice thing is that girls sometimes come here too,and I found out that I can open girls soooooooo much easier than on the street.It's like I have a big big confindence in myself(which is funny because before , I didn't like my own body,but now im kinda prowd of it , 1.78m and 63 kilos? gotta gain weight).But the thing is , that not too many girls come to the pool,and Im not having very much succes,because,I am out of practice.My opener is an easy question about what payment she has (lunar or daily etc),how much is it (lying that I don't know a month of subscription payment is ) and ask her,blabla friendly/indirect stuff.Im only doing this for practice,but I noticed yesterday,that an approach didn't go to well at all,actually it was horrible.It went like this:

Me: Hello do you know where can I find those goggles? (she had water goggles , and i don't,gotta buy them sometime )
hb6:"turns back and says" I don't know
Me: What do you mean you don't know , where do you got them from?
Hb:My home??

I ejected very very pissed.I wasn't very depressed , but I was very pissed at how I didn't understand how my approach went wrong.I think it was because of tone of my voice,not being friendly and comfortable enough.I should speak , relaxed , not flirty.Anyway , i was being pissed mainly because she had such an high bitch shield,and she seemed so creeped out.Basicly she was a bitch and I hate them.I hate meeting those and she ruined 2 minutes of my life (fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck!!!!).In 2 minutes I already was back to my cheerfull self,doing some turns at the pool,staying with my friend which I came with (a friend and a cousin ),and I had fun,though I should have worket out more.

Anyway what I realised is that , I need to speak with a friendly tone,even if Im being direct,and not have a high bass/low voice.I also don't have to get too close to her before I talk to her.I have to shout a bit at her if I notice something , or want to say an opener,but have at most 6 meters distance between.

Anyway , I should try opening like I said in my post above.Daygame could be succesfull , and Ill be glad if it will

What I learned?

-Creating attraction at the olympic pool is hard,but it's a good practice
-It will help in future game,but not picking up in the street (daygame)
-I should do street pickup too,because it's the most difficult,hardest,weirdest,and -gives a lot of confindence if I can succed.
-There are a lot of bitches in this world.

Day 4 : From huge AA to none????

Daygame

From this day Im gonna go with only the pickup parts of the day to keep it short.Ill also write dialogues with other im interested,since maybe ill get some advice about it.

I was at the pool ,and when I got out I went straight to the streets to sarge.But my goals were to reduce my AAs , and to learn How to approach without creeping her,and how to talk.Until now I was being creepy while approaching with a weird voice.But now , I tried to correct my habbit.

I tried to ask girls for certain direction until I got stumped upon some girl,that said that certain location is not "there" and there I realised , that this kind of opener would not work for my AA.So i decided to change it,and I finally found a very nice opener which is a very simple one like :

Do you know where the nearest restaurant is .

I found out that it's a really good opener because it makes a lot of girls think , and when they do I laugh at them,and talk a bit about where it could be,what restaurant does she know.Anyway, I opened a lot of sets,and I mean it!!!! A LOT
, like at least 15 times,and the great thing about the opener is that it removes their bitch shield instantly , like breaking a glass dude!!!! and almost every girl would be nice to tell me where they think is the closest restaurant (and I almost laughed about because the girls gave me a lot of different restaurants at the exact same place ) )

Anyway while I was doing this I realised that my AA , has simply vanished.When I saw a cute girl , I was walking confindently up to her , and ask for a restaurant.I mean that was no problem.And I liked it.Sure it has to do with them not making weird when asked,but as I was having a bit of confindence asking,they were nice this time arround (though not all, much of them said that they didn't knew,but none ignored me)

The problem is guys..........It is hard to take this into a conversation.I don't know if I can be direct,but from this opener i want to do something like this:

Me: Hello do you know which is the nearby restaurant is?
HB:BLABLA
Me:Well, sorry ,actually I wanted to meet you because I think you are cute,and I wanted to say hi

Being direct is very hard for me ,because I freeze and always eject.

Oh well that was my day , and was the nicest day of pickup,because I realised that as long as Im not embaressed by what I say, I have no problem,and neither AA.

So i got some questions for you guys

The questions

Do you know another nicer way than direct to make it into a conversation?
Do I have to tell that I like how she looks?(true intentions)


Oh and btw,I also find it kinda embarising to only say hi to a girl. It just seems out of place,because many will ignore me,and I will feel bad about it (not that getting used to this ain't a good thing),but my city is a small city,so I don't want to burn my bridges.

What I learned

-What you say to a girl the first time is the most important !!
-I am bad at pushing my comfort zone with embarising lines
-I love pickup more than I thought
-I don't care for the level of HB , the only thing that I care is if I can do well
-Going with the reason to sarge gives me a bit more confindence,and time to learn

Quick Update :

Yesterday(day 4)

Yesterday I have updated my facebook profile with pictures from Greece,and man , I got some social proof from it , and got likes from some friends.I liked that,I also posted some pick with the friends I had there,and Im proud of them since theyre from
totally another city.

Today (home)

This girl , an apparently HB8 from facebook has poked my profile.I went with this opener on fb and it went like this , 4 lines with time lag (distance)

Me: Didn't your parents taught you not to poke strangers
Her : ))))) No (I took it as a positive response because of the smiley so I went with another playfull reply)
Me: I take it from this that you are naughty.

Honestly I could have also added a question (am i right) , but it wouldn't much.And now 4 hours have passed and she hasn't sended me a message.Not worthy of a conversation to make her a nickname , but Ill keep the poke as a memory,which gives me a bit of confindence in the harsh days that maybe Ill have.

Another tiny update :


Seeing that i was ignored i went out with an : Am i right.
The fb chick send me a simple message like : Yeah , which would mean,yeah that she's naughty so I went out like : This is boring , I hoped you'd say no...boring,which may have also insulted her,but whatever,she was ignoring me at the beginning,and also learned some lessons

-Facebook/online game is actually TOUGHER than day game,because any line you say may harm,and you have no BL,or anything,I like smiling during conversations.
-Online game is a piece of shit because you don't know if she ignores you or she's busy,this is the only time i hated staying at home at the computer,and not outside face to face,with a girl.

Sorry that I haven't posted lately.It's also quite sad , that few people take the time to comment any of my posts,but meh,the world is cruel and even everybody ignores these posts I will still write them (I dont giv a tiny shit )

Battle with my mind

Now Ive been quite out from the game lately , because Im struggling to believe that sarging can be a good method for getting laid/getting a girlfriend/meet more women.Why? Because almost everyone in my real life are denying pickup.Yes! I know it's a mistake to tell people about,but I didn't actually tell them that Ill do pickup,I only gave hints like (Im going to say hi to random girls I don't know ) , and they were like : Don't do that , don't be a creep.If you do that you're like a loser.Well most of the chicks would think that about me if I actually do pickup and try to get numbers on stranger girls,but I shouldn't treat them as strangers actually,and try to make them not to do that too.But oh well , I don't know when this battle of mind will end,but right now Im focused on something else rather than deciding to do the "game" on girls I don't know (random girls on street/mall )

Social Game and Circle

This is something precious , that I worked hard for and wanted very very much , last summer,even more than a girlfriend.A social circle.Yep pretty much,for a time,I was one of those guys , who spend the summer alone,and I realised this painful state that I was last summer,and I couldn't do much about it.Well , so I experienced something which I'd call social challenge,which is calling my old friends,who I haven't spoked in a while and asked them out.I was rejected painfully,and that is how my last summer was ruined.

Though school came,and an ex classmate of mine became my actually classmate.He was pretty much my last resort,because I was getting along with him in midschool.But it was tough seeking social circle with him,and school went by the same way as the summer,except spring,when I realised that what I have to do , is find new friends,through some kind of method.It was a group of people , or an organization (something which we call here ONGs ) like a festival group,or an echological group.I joined a group with this exclassmate,and invited antoher classmate I was getting along with.

Well I found out that in ONGs,you spend a lot of time with other people ,and make teamwork,and through this I found out that the key to making a social circle is through pretty much , staying a while with them.As for my social state,I was very laidback,I wasn't actually the funnest person around,but I got my hangouts in the city.And now , I created a social circle, and I don't really know how exactly .

Well in other words,if I want to go out , I can go out.If I don't Ill wait for them to call me to hang out , and they do .

Which means I gained what I wanted most last summer and thought it was impossible to have.Friends or what I like to call a social circle.

Well through social circle I found out that nowdays,the most often way for guys to get their girlfriend are through social circle.Which means,that if you really made a good friend,he has a friend you don't know.You befriend that friend too.And that leads to other friends,and more friends and so on.What I have done in my social circle is I have chosen , 2 best friends,that I can depend on , which means , no matter what I become , they will still be my friends.The only problem is they aren't popular either,but that's ok , because in the game I am alone,and if I learn the game I can show them too.

What I have to do is try to get a girlfriend through a social circle simply by going out,and be the same to everyone.Observe what they do ,and talk and comment on what they say.If girls will give me IoIs , then it's time to try the game on the socials.

Oh well I should end this wall of posts,but all I have to say,is that I have my friends,and through them I can get to meet girls.Pretty neat eh?