28/06/2012

I realise that coming online is a way of getting comfort. Good or Bad. It makes one feel like belonging to a community. Sometimes it feels weird doing what I do. It is nice to to get encouragement from guys online knowing others are doing the same thing.

SLICK. Your father is a gracious man and thank you for introducing him to me. You are priviledged to have a father that is supportive.

My intention was to not use the forum for 1 month. In order to teach myself self restraint.

The SOLO thing is pretty daunting. Looks like it will possibly take 1 year to get used to. Without feedback its hard. The paradox is that if someone was with me, the feedback would contaminate my state because it would be higher just by having someone present.

Losing weight now, is no longer a painful process. I am focusing on positive thoughts and have a sense of achievement using self restraint. Who knows if I can use the mind to control this aspect, maybe I can then use the mind to destroy negative thoughts.

The aims that I do have. I do not feel that I can consistently achieve them, but they are there to drive me to continue.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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29/06/2012

Smoking. Holding onto drink, sipping the drink, eating, using the phone for no reason is all comforting. Instead of doing all these things I will talk to people. All these things are stupid.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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I suggest you change your look. Its quite easy. Shave your head. Bald head is more alpha and this is proven scientifically. Try the Neil Strauss kind of fashion. Its cheap and very cool. Wear just a tie with a party shirt, arm bands or whatever. Simple and elegant. Don't wear a suit like what Jim Beam, Dolphin or Diamonds do. It just makes them look more gay than they actually are. Suits are for old men, used car salesmen or people going for a professional interview.

5 02/07/2012
Side effect of too much SOLO. Now in a group I start being in comfort mode. Whereas before being in a group gave me huge energy. I will work on this. At a busy time I will do 20 sets in a bar. At a quite time I hope to do two or three sets only, otherwise It grabs too much undue attention from the bar manager. Do sets in front of Door Men to kill AA doing sets in front of authority figures. Will break Social Taboo and do micro interaction sets in toilets (MENS).

Also hard to to talk to shy sets. Cannot tell if they are happy, confused or what. Will work on this as shy sets are hard I have found.

Get used to interrupting sets. When I think about it, it seems rude to interrupt, and the fear is that It will get a negative response. However If I believe I have value then I will persist. This is specially true for very large sets who are very loud.

In order to prevent attracting attention of authority figures I must give the impression visually that I am already known to the set. I will work on this.

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Meet and Wing.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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I have had this like every time I go solo. Once in Walkabout, I was opening a set while solo sarging. The bouncer was watching me all the time and when I went up to talk to her and said hi, he came over and said "Move!" as if I am doing something illegal. I still sat there and waited for the girl to talk. But she didnt talk. Then I walked away. But she followed me where I was giving me another chance to open. I didnt take the chance because my ego had been hurt.

Another time in Snobs, I went up to a girl on the dance floor and started touching her and she didnt mind. The bouncer called me and tried to take the piss. He asked me to empty my pockets for a check and treated me like a criminal. But my confidence and state remains indestructible.

The bouncers at Chameleon didnt let me in after I had gone there solo sarging for two weeks and created so much attraction that the bouncers were left severely devalued. Now they recognize me and remember my face.

The simple solution is to talk to the bouncers first. The ultimate solution is to ignore all these motherfuckers and play your game. Its your game which has a problem. Amogs can't do much if you have created attraction. Its our minds which are looking for excuses. Amogs are nothing compared to your own inner approach anxiety and outcome dependence issues. You have to disconnect from all these issues and focus on your goal.

Another solution is to go with a wing. But wings have their own fucking problems and start getting insecure and want to go home or not approach if you are in high state. Finally you end up acting like a bunch of school kids following each other and not approaching any girls at all. This happens a lot in the Jackal crew. So solo gaming has its own problems. And sticking with a group makes you far more beta than you can imagine because there is a strong group pressure to conform to the other peoples' beta state if you have to hang out with betas.

6 03/07/2012
OK no winging at all in the week. This makes me lazy. On the weekend if I meet a wing, we will be doing two separate bars doing 10 sets before me meet. I must kill my need for comfort. Also on the evening in town, will stop sets for 1 minute, will have my timer on. I was getting bored with sets, and was satisfied after they shook my hand. I felt that was mission accomplished. My bad habit was making me lazy and not commit. On the way to and from work it is not possible to commit due to time.

I am seriously thinking about deriving all comfort from the week including weekends. I do enjoy meeting the guys, but I feel that I need to get my shit together first. I do not want to be looking forward to the weekend. Innergame is about enjoying ones own company at all times.


Self-confidence
Main article: Self-confidence
Self-confidence does not necessarily imply 'self-belief' or a belief in one's ability to succeed. For instance, one may be inept at a particular sport or activity, but remain 'confident' in one's demeanor, simply because one does not place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of the activity. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more 'self-confident' because one is worrying far less about failure or the disapproval of others following potential failure. One is then more likely to focus on the actual situation which means that enjoyment and success in that situation is also more probable. Belief in one's abilities to perform an activity comes through successful experience and may add to, or consolidate, a general sense of self-confidence

I am so happy to have found the above definition on wikipedia. It is now clear to me what I must be aiming for. I still have thoughts of getting negative reactions. I will note on here. When I have with the power of my mind be able to destroy this way of thinking. This will be useful in all parts of my life, like losing weight and commitment in the gym.

My thinking has been wrong. It has hard to change but I will work on it. I have been trying to move away from pain. I should be concentrating on moving towards pleasure.

I used to to shit test people to get them to comply and like me. I guess now I am being more genuine. Unless someone passes my shit test I will walk away. For example If a doormen refuses to shake my hands. After I have used charm. I will go somewhere else. Getting doormen to shake hands with low energy does not work, nor will they give u their name. I will try a different venue. I will report one when I have had to shit test them. I have done it on the street, but doormen at their place of work are at their highest confidence level.

I wore my body weight on the inside of my Bright Green Jacket last time. This time I will wear it on the outside. Frankly I am sick and tired of the power of external factors affect my inner game. I will now wear the body weight on the outside. It is a bit weird because it looks like body armour. The plus side is that I will be losing weight whilst talking to people. This will be a 1 month mission. The leg weight will have to wait, they make me look like a telly tubby. 20 KG. Lose weight or die trying. I will focus that on feeling happy on the inside regardless of what happens on the outside. Innergame sarging is pretty hard but I am determined to make this easy for me.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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I stopped after Day 72 and took a break for a week. The girl I went to the bar with rejected my kiss at the end of the night and then texted me later saying she had a boyfriend the whole time, even though we went on 2 dates (including a dinner date). This situation discouraged me because I was attached to a certain outcome. After the week was up, I went out for 4 days in a row and then I didn't approach for 2 days, which brings me to today (which could possibly be my 3rd day not approaching).

After reflecting, I realize that for the last 2 to 3 weeks of my 72 days in a row, I was only approaching 1 girl per day. That's only 7 girls a week. From now on, I don't feel the need to go out every single day, but I do feel the need to approach a far greater number of girls.

U need to do 5 sets a day. The girl above was possibly lying as you lost attraction half way. There are an abundance of sets.

We all feel down when we get bad rejections. Keep going. Nothing is achieved without pain. Pain is the price we pay for GLORY. Dude been watching 300 to pump myself up.

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Meet and Wing.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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7 04/07/2012
Wore the body weight. Two set of guys, looked scared, (they were bigger than me) but still got compliance after shit testing a crap handshake twice. Spoke to a guy at a bus stop. Asked him how funny I looked. He said 5/10. I asked if there was any reason people maybe scared. He said it looked like I was wearing a bomb vest. Thinking about this, I am an asian dude with a beard. It made sense. After thinking about this and having nightmares about being shot by cops. The next morning said, I will overcome this fear; frankly the danger got me excited. Still stopped sets. Mission accomplished fear conquered. Next mission to see if I have the balls to wear this dumb thing in town. I have also realised that when wearing underwear on my head, or wearing body weight, people are just frankly too scared to laugh, but as soon as I say “u can laugh now”. This gives them permission to laugh, as they are then reassured that I am not some crazy guy who will retaliate.
Positive Visualisation. I will now use this term instead of AA. What is the point of having a brain, if I cannot use it to visualise positivity.

I am now merging sets in the GYM. It is useless if I cannot remember names. Now that I am practicing this more, I feel more of a social bond at the gym. This makes me want to go more.

I hope this post is my last, as I do not want to be reliant on online COMFORT forever. SLICK's progress is inspiring.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vL5sdu3pNrU

The song is mostly not relevant. However the word change is instrumental into becoming a positive being.

I will begin to start asking sets how attractive I am. I am curious that as I lose weight what difference it makes to the score out of 10. Obviously with weight loss I can have a larger selection of cool clothes to wear.

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Meet and Wing.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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I just realized yesterday that kindness is the most important requirement when you socialize. Being kind and playful at the same time creates social value.

She wasn't lying about the boyfriend. I checked her facebook and she has had a boyfriend since June 14th, about a week or two before I met her. When I made my move on her, she was fine with putting her hands on my shoulders and my hands being on her waist, but she rejected the kiss because she would feel guilty about cheating on her boyfriend. Anyway, it's over now and I'm meeting new girls.

You are right, Jackal. I need to do at least 5 sets a day.

I usually make about 5-10 sets per day, this is at work or on my way home from work.
My openers vary from asking the time to getting directions(even though I know exactly where I'm going).
This has helped me with general interactions but it hasn't helped my total game. There is a difference in asking for the time and asking for a number. I find that spending long periods of time with women has helped me. I go hang out with my female friends a lot to get to know how girls think. I talked to the girls at work through out the day and ask them questions on the methods I'm using.

DON JUAN I can see where the kindness comes in but I don't want to be overly kind as it could be seen as weekness. What type of playfulness should I be using?

SLICK I've been reading your posts from way back and your progression is slow but I have the same issues as you do. I don't think I can support a Wing because I would I'm not good enough to support them. I think we would work well together and be able to support one and other as we are at a similar level.

What do you hope to gain by impersonating me. Just curious.

If u have anything of value please provide a link or just go away.

If you use your own Alias. I am sure poeple can judge from themselves if anything you have to say is of merit.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
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The Field Reports.
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The Lay Reports.
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Impersonating...............what the hell? Why the hell are you so rude?

I suggest u read through what I have already written with an open mind. If u do not like me it is really a waste of time commenting on me when u have a biased point of view.

I'll speak to you in person when I see you. You are much nicer in person. I'll buy you a drink. You can tell me in person what is troubling you. I have some training in counselling.

I will hug you and make you feel loved.

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Meet and Wing.

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The Jackal an Introduction.
[link]

The Field Reports.
[link]

The Lay Reports.
[link]