Plan for tomorrow:

The first Sunday of each month is free at the art museum. Somehow, I have yet to take advantage of this. This venue seems perfect to me for daygame, since artsy intellectual girls are definitely my type. So I'm going to go tomorrow, and open some sets. I'm hoping there will be a decent amount of girls there by themselves, though if I really want to push myself I can try to open a 2set. I'm hoping to start off with a few single ones, then work my way up from there.

I've found reading material helps me get in state, so I'm going to do some light reading beforehand, as well as play some state-elevating music, and exercise. This will be my first time actively approaching in a non-party setting. Will also be my first time doing it sober, so I'm going to have to conquer my AA naturally. I'm going into it with the mindset that it doesn't fucking matter what happens. If some girl acts like a bitch towards me, it's her problem. I'm sure the people there will be friendly, and I have easy openers by just talking about the art.

Still would love some feedback on the party from last night, but I'll be back tomorrow night with another update.

I used to go to the Louvre too Not only can you find artsy girls but also tourists! But again, if you just go there to game, you'll end up frustrated... why not taking a camera with you? Before going, I would also write a few museum-related openers down just to have them in mind.

Concerning your AA, stop considering it as an anxiety. It's not an anxiety you try to fight, but an excitement you cant' fight! You want to approach and start feeling it? It's growing... you can't fight it anymore, you have to open, because you wanna feel the amazing gratification of opening a girl you have Approach Excitement for. It really helped me in my journey.

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Well, I am going for myself. I was just talking to a friend about how I've never been to the art museum, though I've lived here for four years! It's pretty stupid. So I'm going to see it for myself, I'll just talk to girls if I see them. I wish I had a camera, but unfortunately I don't.

I like what you said about AA. I actually did embrace that mindset before, as I wrote about in the earlier post about the subway. I need to remember to always do that.

Hope you'll find some artsy girls to teach you some stuff

The whole Approach Excitement theory tremendously helped me! Here's the approach-anticipation-excitement-vt35880.html

Daniel..

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Failed to approach again. Not beating myself up about it or anything, in all honesty there just weren't that many opportunities. Lots of older people out. Saw one HB6 by herself but she had headphones in, so I didn't go for it. I spent most of my time in the smaller museum building, where it was a pretty quiet SPAM. Didn't make my way over to the main building until half an hour before close, and there was a big line to get in so I just said screw it and bailed.

My state was out of wack too. Pretty much just woke up, showered, and went there. Felt really tired and just couldn't think that clearly. Oh well.

Looking for jobs tomorrow, we'll see if I can make use of any opportunities I come across.

Why is subway game so hard?

Or should I say, why do I make so many excuses there? Dammit, I need to conquer this problem. I've gotten over AA for night game, but day game is another story. Somehow, I thought I'd have an easier time with day game. Not the case at all.

Had to go to campus today to run some errands. Had to be there at 3 and I lost track of time, so I had to skip a shower. Just threw on a ratty t-shirt, shorts, and beat up sneakers and went out the door. On the way back, I get on the train and a bunch of seats have one open, no completely open seats. See a blonde HB7.5, wearing a backpack and walk across the train, past a bunch of open seats and sit next to her. Didn't even think about it, really. This alone is a benchmark, since before I'd just take the first open seat.

But after I sit down, the excuses start. "I didn't shower, I probably reek." "I'm dressed like shit", blah blah blah. Ugh. I said nothing. I'm seriously pissed at myself. The least I could've done is offered a friendly "hi." But nah, excuses took over. She may have even been offering IOI's! She was stroking her hair a lot. Not that this is always an IOI, but I should work on being confident and just taking it as one no matter what.

So I'm posting this to document my frustration, and as a reminder to JUST SAY SOMETHING. Anything. What's the worst that can happen? It goes awkwardly and some girl in this city of 2 million people thinks I'm weird for the 5 minutes it took her to walk from the subway to her house. WHO CARES.

I don't know if people are even reading this, but if anyone out there has advice for opening on public transportation, please chime in. Seriously though, I could've just said "hi." It doesn't have to be some slick opener.

I'm going to a party later, across the city. Going to continue to work on my skills there, but if I come across any attractive girls on the subway ride there, I'm going to open! God dammit, I can't keep making excuses. I see cute girls on the subway almost every time I ride it and never open. No more! I've made improvements in night game, time to do the same during the day.

Seriously though, if anyone here opens a lot on public transportation, please offer some advice.

It's not a killing opener... but if you're stuck... just ask for a random information... "Hey, would you know what's the best way to go to...". It's better than nothing. Try then to find a transition for a conversation... "thanks that's nice, you're saving my life... I'm JBlaze by the way..." shake hands... I think it's good to start like that at the beginning... then when we'll be more comfortable, we'll try better stuff.

On another note, I'm not a huge fan of opening in front of a lot of people... I could feel ridiculous... but we both know that's stupid... our ego is ludicrous... it wants us to open the hot girl, but it's afraid of getting rejected or coming across as awkward. It's a question of habit... like everything in the game... go for it... do it once, twice, ... (I'm also speaking for myself here too).

Oh and by the way, I know it's great to have advice from the community, but this journal is for you! His first purpose is to help you improve yourself and keep track of your evolution! I'm following you though . As you know, I'm still learning so don't hesitate to challenge me or exchange some ideas with me.

Daniel..

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Report for last night's party

So I took the subway over, actually didn't see anyone I was interested in opening. Pregamed at a friends place beforehand, definitely a good idea. Got into a really good social mood, we were making lots of jokes...just a good preparation in general. I need to do this every time I go out. I didn't last weekend and definitely could see a difference in my mood.

For the first hour or so, I mostly just stayed talking to people I already knew. There were a lot of those though, so I was just moving around talking to everyone...good friends, acquaintances, etc. before I finally moved on to opening a girl I didn't know. She was a really cute, short brunette (HB7 objectively, but kind of my type so an 8 on my scale). Standing by herself, I just came up and smiled, "You look bored." She says "No I'm not, just waiting for someone." Asked if she went to the same university, talked about our majors. Talked about some books. It was really just a friendly conversation, I wasn't thinking about seduction during it. My friend walked past us and said something about "girlfriend", didn't hear the whole thing though. Plus this kid is always making stupid jokes so I figured he was messing with me. I felt like I was running out of steam, and her friends came back (2 dudes and a girl), so I said "I'm gonna see what's going on inside, nice meeting you." Shook hands and ejected. Soon after I found out one of those dudes was her BF.

Went inside and danced for a little. Was really drunk so that helped, felt a lot less awkward than last weekend. Later in the night opened a HB8 I've seen at parties a hundred times before. Basically just said that to her, "I feel like I see you at almost every party I go to." Her - "Yeah I definitely recognize you" (something like that). Again, the conversation was mostly just friendly. I find out a little later she's "with" another chick there. Even though she's not a lesbian, they're just hooking up. Second time in three weeks this has happened haha. They weren't bullshitting either cause I found it out from other people. Went off with other people, a little later I went upstairs and was waiting for the bathroom and she comes up. Started bullshitting with her, she said something about me hitting on her, it's all kinda fuzzy though. Guess it was a shit test. I didn't really handle it that well, basically just reframed and was like

"you can be my wingwoman...having cute female friends comes in handy."
Her (smiling/laughing) - "Yeah cause we have other cute friends"
Me - "Exactly. Plus, once other cute chicks see that you approve, they're like 'hey...maybe this dude has something to offer." (basically just talking about social proof).

Ended up getting her number. Exchanged a few texts after I left...she was responding right away and it was a generally playful vibe. Told her again next time I go to a bar she's playing wingwoman. She said "only if it's a cool place, i gots standards yo." I passed out after that.

Starting to realize how easy it is to get numbers, and that they really don't mean shit. I need to start directly applying what I read when I'm in the field. I read a lot of material during the week, but don't do it enough on the weekend. Kind of counter-intuitive, since that's when it needs to be fresh in my mind. I've been reading 60 yoc, and his approach definitely is interesting, but I don't think it's applicable in these situations. These parties generally have the same social circle, so it's risky to be that aggressive. Could easily lead to a "creep" label. I know he says to risk creepy, but in this instance I don't think that's a good idea, since if I creep one girl out, others will witness it.

I'll look into some material on college party game. Overall though, I'm really happy. Just the fact that I've been opening and getting numbers is a huge improvement. I've got the comfort and rapport stages down, just need to focus on attraction. Going to another party tonight, and probably don't have time to read any material. I should still be able to improve though, based on the feedback I have so far.

Report from last night's party

Bleh...wasn't feeling it last night. The party was a lot smaller, a much more tight-knit group, and I didn't know many people there very well. Also started feeling really tired on the way over...my state just wasn't good. The girl I struck out with last weekend came too, which kind of made me feel awkward. The last couple times we saw each other she smiled and was receptive towards me, this time she didn't acknowledge me. Not a huge deal, just felt a little embarrassed. I know that's AFC thinking though. Still had a good time with my friends though, just didn't feel like opening and I didn't want to force it. If it had been a bigger party this probably wouldn't have been the case.

There's a bigass 3 person birthday party next weekend though. I'm looking forward to that. Should have plenty of opportunities there. Also, a good friend of mine is returning from the military Tuesday and having a big group of people come out to a bar. He's a natural so I'm looking forward to having him wing for me. Last time I saw him I was still in mega-AFC mode.

So I'll check in with a report about how things go Tuesday.

Things to improve on:

Forcing myself to get into state
Not taking rejection personally, or letting it make me feel awkward
Just go with the flow - don't have expectations

Ha...just got home and wrote this. It's 5AM local time. I want to remember it though.

work the fuck out. you look like shit with your shirt off. man boobs and gut. get on that shit. no excuses. work the fuck out. discipline, JBLaze. marijuana gave you this idea. you won't be able to rely on it anymore. this is a one time indulgence, until you're off that shit (PROBATION. it's real, i know it's fucked but it's the truth. just have to go by the system. but you can learn from it. you've seen first hand how fucked this all is. that may sound self-righteous, but this war on drugs has fucked over so many people, in different ways. least of which those in the inner city, obviously. your problems cant compare to that and you know it, but it doesn't make it any more just.

it is ironic though, how you write so much more lucidly under the influence (alcohol too.) haha, anyway dude. sure you will laugh at this tomorrow. CAPTURE THAT ESSENCE SOBER. you need to learn how to do that. it's bullshit the position you're in, but unfortunately, you can't change it now. just work on thinking creatively all the time. And that's a key point - WORK toward it.

Think about LeBron. He knows he's good but mentally, he can't match his natural talent. he's weak, because he assumes greatness without working towards it. you might not be great, but fuck, at least try to be! what do you have to lose? take fucking risks kid. if it doesn't work out how you want, there is that whole poker thing. hopefully online poke comes back. i want my life to be a lot more than that but it's a fucking beautiful game. i'll never stop playing, as long as i have the means. it's always my fallack option, my 9-5 gig. if i can just grind it out on there, and write and get out that "actual essence", regardless of how much money i make writing, i'll be happy.

fuck, i need to just start writing! JBLAZE, START FUCKING FREE WRITING. EVERY SINGLE DAY. LIKE AN EXERCISE ROUTINE. LIKE ANYTHING YOU WORK AT. JUST DEVELOP THAT ROUTINE. YOU DEDICATE YOURSELF TO IT. YOU WAKE UP SOME MORNINGS AND SAY FUCK, I DON'T WANT TO WORK OUT (WRITE) (TALK TO A GIRL), BUT YOU FUCKING PUSH YOURSELF AND JUST DO IT. you'll write some bullshit. you'll creep a girl out. who the fuck cares bro. just do it. who fucking cares. FAIL. there is no FAIL. there is FEEDBACK. you'll learn. you'll think of your failures and use them as fuel to improve. MICHAEL FUCKING JORDAN, NOT LEBRON JAMES. aspire to be MJ. be that audacious. fuck it. you fail, and people think you're an ass. LET THEM.

whew. i'm gonna axe it now and self-reflect.

Haha that was some last entry...possibly didn't need to post it here. Whatever.

The setting Tuesday was..meh. My friend's party was in the back room so I just stayed there with him and his friends, most of whom I didn't know. In all honesty it just wasn't my crowd though. Lots of hipsters, mostly people I wouldn't hang out with otherwise. So yeah I didn't even see a girl who drew my interest. And it was Tuesday so the rest of the bar was pretty dead. Still had a good time though. Even when I don't talk to girls when I'm out I still feel a ton more comfortable in social situations, compared with just a few months ago.

Not sure what I'm up to tonight, but tomorrow night there's a big party at the same venue where I got those 2 #-closes a couple weeks back.Should be a good time. I'm not going in with any expectations. Lots of my friends will be there so I'll just go and have a good time, and play the rest by ear. I'll update again soon.

PS started reading "The Four Elements of Game" by Rob Judge and Zack Bauer. WOW. This is hitting me harder than any material I've read before. I just LOVE the "natural game" aspect of it. Plus the dude actually has a really engaging writing style.

Nice reports man, im glad you seem over of your AA. That went quick dude! congrats.

Now, it doesn't seem you quite know how to handle HB7+.
Read up on some DHV and negging! its the key to those hotter chicks.

I will continue to follow this thread and hopefully we can learn from each other. Keep your game up man and never surrender if you fail - just get back up on that horse!





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Report from last night

BOOM. Last night was a blast. Didn't really get any results but I don't give a shit. I had a great time. Even in these cases, I'm still making progress. My social skills have improved tenfold since I started this.

Soon after I showed up an HB6 I've seen around before, but never talked to told me she saw me walking when she was at a restaurant near my place. Talked to her a little bit about that place and the neighborhood before I ejected to talk to my friends. Just did that for the first hour or so, moving around from group to group talking to friends/acquaintances. Before long I started talking to people I didn't know as well. It was a birthday party for the girl from high school so talked to her for a bit, she was completely wasted by the time I got there. Talked to her friend (the HB7 I struck out with) and realized I was stupid and overanalyzing shit last week. She didn't even remember me hitting on her. Got along well with her last night, but didn't make an effort to game her. The situation just didn't feel right. Social circle game is an interesting animal. There's no rush man, since I see the same girls at every party I go to, with a few new ones mixed in.

Saw the 2 girls I went to the hotel party with again, they were walking inside from the backyard and I just made eye contact and hit the HB8.5 on the arm. The HB7.5 was apparently wasted cause she just started wailing on me haha. Punching me in the arms and chest and even the face a couple times.

I'm like "WTF, why are you so violent? You act like I won't hit a girl back."
Her - bla bla (I honestly forget, everyone was wasted, including me).
Me - "except if i started punching you i'd get arrested, what kind of shit is that?"

some more joking back and forth, HB8.5 tells me they'll be back in a few minutes, they're going out front. I socialize with people out back, this part is really fuzzy though. I know I wasn't opening any girls though.

a little later i end up going out front, since i haven't been in that area yet. lots of people out there, including a HB9.5 my friend had been trying to get with. They were dancing a lot and he just broke up with his gf, so I was pushing him. every time i ran into him by himself i'd just tell him, "fucking get back in there." I'm thinking about talking to my friends about game. This kid is good looking, smart, talented (plays guitar and really good at skateboarding)...no homo but he could be pulling mad bitches. he's just not aggressive enough. He ended up getting a k-close at the end of the night and her number/plans to hang when she comes back to Philly (she was leaving for Pitt the next morning.) It's possible logistics prevented it, but I'm pretty sure if this dude had better game he could've f-closed.

Poker parallel - AGGRESSION PAYS OFF. You can't play passively if you want to win. This kid plays poker the same way man. Just waiting for big hands and not making aggressive moves. That's the way most people play before they look into strategy, and realize how many opportunities they've been missing. Same fucking shit.

Anyway...I open HB9.5, with the mindset that I'm not gaming her cause it's my buddy's target, and well that just goes against my morals. Find out she's from Pittsburgh, start talking about that, I mention an amusement park there I've been to a few times, she's like "OMG I love that place", starts touching me a lot, hitting me on the arm, touching my arm and chest. I'm thinking "god fucking dammit if only i'd gotten here first." This girl was smoking hot, an HB9.5 on any scale. Talked to her for a while more, then she went back inside.

I went over and sat down on a stoop with the Hotel Party girls. Mostly was talking with the HB8.5...we get along better it seems like. She was talking shit on the HB9.5. It was pretty funny. Making fun of what she was wearing. Funny in the sense that it almost seemed like she was jealous? Interesting. The HB7.5 was tired/really drunk/hungry and trying to leave. It was gooood conversation though. For some reason last time I saw her I mentioned being shy, and last night she said "I don't even see that at all." Then later..."you should try to get your friends to be as outgoing as you." HA! I laughed out loud when she said that and called over my friend and told him. He's like "She only knows new JBlaze."

Started talking about bulimic models somehow. HB8.5 tells me she'd be a plus size model, (apparently size 6 qualifies?) I'm like WTF? Told her that's BS cause she has a really nice body. She says something about HB7.5 is so skinny, I'm like "you both have really nice bodies." Ha...my AFC self would've never even had the guts to say that. HB8.5 said something about "feeling like i know you really well even though we've only hung out 3 times." This is an interesting situation.

HB7.5 went inside to get water, I took her seat next to HB8.5. At some point she started bringing up past relationships. Hmmmmm. I'm thinking I could make something happen here, possibly when HB7.5 goes back home (she's only here for the summer). Or maybe if I want to be really audacious I can try to swing a threesome. Should probably focus on getting one girl first though. Either way, the social proof I can get from these girls is going to be so potent. Next time I'm at a party with them I'm going to abuse that as much as I can. They end up leaving. HB7.5's (male) room mate (and party host) starts telling people about an afterparty at their place. She's not into it, tells me to make sure people don't go in her room. Touches my arm, uses my name, tells me she trusts me. Ah. It should be interesting how the rest of this situation unfolds with these two. I feel like if they weren't together I'd have a good chance to hook up with either of them.

Hm..what else? I opened another girl I recognized from my high school but didn't know back then. Played it dumb like i didn't know who she was, "didn't you go to X high school? I always recognize other X kids cause our school was so small." Bla bla, not a real smooth interaction, and she was trashed. She went inside and I didn't see her after that.

The afterparty was pretty much nonexistent. The kid who brought us there passes out almost right away. My friend with a car shows up, and I get a ride back from him.

Another big birthday party for multiple people next weekend. I'm already hype as shit. I'm expecting results next time. I know I shouldn't "expect" anything but fuck it. The pieces are coming together.

Hey JBlaze88, I'm going to give you some things I think may help you, this is just my opinion and I don't know if your already doing this.

1) Fashion - Make sure your dressing well, now I don't mean wear a suit everywhere. You want to get cloths that fit you well and also look like you know a little about fashion. The reason being is that it shows that you care about how you look and if you can care for yourself you can care for a woman. It also will separate you a bit from the other college students, I'm in college myself and I know that a lot of the guys just look like clones. Also be aware that you want the style to be your own, but nothing crazy, like a big fuzzy hat or anything because your in college and you don't want to be labeled as that guy. Just have it be your own style that people can recognize you for. Being a bit eccentric can be O.K.

2)Inhibitors - It's good that your going to stop smoking weed, I know how a good toke feels, but being a weed smoker can only make you look worse, even if everyone says they don't care. Also try and cut back on the alcohol, I again have been known to indulge and in the college environment I know it can be hard. So either drink lite or don't drink at all. Alcohol WILL affect your game, you won't be able to notice subtle things that you need to pay attention to. If your friends question it, which mine did, simply just tell them you don't want to, don't get defensive just let them know it's the way it is.

3)Confidence - Make sure you posture is good, there are quite a few tips out there for it, but you want to walk just like there is a string on the top of your head pulling you upwards, it will give you better posture and overtime it will become natural. Look how the player type guys walk and carry themselves, like the character James Bond. Also make sure you're smiling, not like crazy smiling, but you just seem like a fun guy that is having a good time. Also you said you are starting to work out, as you build muscle it naturally improves posture and confidence.

4)Kino - You don't seem to be kinoing, I don't know if your are and are not mentioning it, but it is important. Be subtle with it to start like a little touch on the shoulder or arm and then escalate, if your not comfortable just keep it little and build up over time.

5)Goals - I'm a big fan of AFC Daniels writing style and if I were to write a journal it would be similar. Set goals and after each outing reflect back on a few areas you could improve on or did well on.

6)Friends - Now this may be difficult, but you want to try and avoid showing up at parties with a bunch of people you know. The reason for this is that they know you and have you imaged as a particular person. You're trying to change and it's hard when everyone has you labeled, plus being around them can make you fall back in to the way you normally act. Another big thing is hanging out with people with no game will hurt your game, no woman looks just purely at a guy if his friends are there, she considers him and who he is hanging out with.

7)Venue - I live in the northeast and have been to Philly so I know how it can be, but you're near a college. It is the summer so there may not be a lot going on near it, but you want to try and go to day game day type places, museums, starbucks, bookstores, ect. Also try and figure out what girl you're trying to attract and where they would tend to hang out.

8)Journal - It's good that you're writing sort of like we're hearing your thoughts, this his how I tend to write stories and journals; it really helps the reader connect with you. Also just writing the journal in general is good to look back and when you write something it reinforces it in your mind.

9)Diet/Exercise - If you're trying to get in shape or lose weight try and find a diet that will help with this. Also if you're trying to lose weight aim for more cardio based exercise instead of weight lifting, the way your body works it can be counterproductive to try and lose a bunch of fat and put on a bunch of muscle at the same time.

All in all it's good that you are doing this and you will naturally improve over time. Again if you are already doing anything I listed above, I didn't know, just offering some advice. Good luck!

Thanks a lot for the detailed advice, Soloist. I am doing a lot of what you mentioned already. Two things I really need to work on are Kino and Daygame.

I have been using some light kino, but I never escalate. Like playful hitting, touching to emphasize points, stuff like that. That's something I'll work on being more conscious of next time I'm out.

Though I've gotten over AA in night game, daygame is a lot tougher. If for no other reason than it's just unorthodox. I see plenty of opportunities out there too, but just make excuses. This morning for example, I walked across campus to the subway on my way home from a friend's house. Saw a blonde HB8 sitting at a table on her laptop doing school work and made the excuse not to approach cause I didn't want to interrupt her, since she looked busy. Still should have done it. If she would've said something like "I'm flattered but I'm really busy here, I can't talk", then whatever. Still better than doing nothing.

So there are a couple of goals for this week. I had a couple of job interviews last week, so if I don't hear back in the next couple of days, I'm going back downtown to apply to more places. While I'm down there, I'll work on approaching any girls who draw my interest. When I was down there last week they were all over, but I kept making excuses not to do it.

When I go out next weekend and I'm talking to girls, I'll be cognizant of kino and work towards escalating.

For my next FR I'll work on formatting a bit better, and being specific about my goals and areas for improvement.