DAY 6:

1st #close

Went to Crossword(Brigade Road).
Was sitting and reading the rules of the game.

Saw a IB6( Indian Beauty)

ME: HI! Can you suggest me some good books to read.
IB6: Ya what are you looking at
(I was still sitting.)

ME: Fiction will do.
IB6: Suggest me Robin Sharma. She reads it it seems.
(I understood she is into self help books and that mean she has a bit of low esteem.)
ME: You mean from the Self Help section.
(She found and gave me a few books)

ME: Have you tried a book name as a man thinketh. its a classic for self help. youll love it.

I went to the salesperson and ask for the book.
and gave it to her.
She was reading it.
I came back to my place and sat down . and started reading the rules of the game again.
Twice she came near me and we exchanged a few word.

ME: did you find anything interesting.. etc etc..
IB6: na nothing. ill read the book as a man thinketh next time on sunday.

(She came in and said she is about to leave)
ME: lets catch up some time.
(She felt a bit awkward.)
IB: My friends are calling me for a movie. I come here every sunday.

(I became a bit uncomfortable here.
Was leaning , almost shaky voice i asked.)

ME: Can i have your phone no.
(We can meet sometime.
She wasn comfortable.
But she gave her #.)


1st #close.
Lol my 1st number close , although was very bad.

Did 2 more sets with my regular opener.
Suggest me a good place to dine in.
Nothing much to write about.

Learning:
1) Self-Confidence and the way you present is important.
2) Eye contact is important.
3) My ending was not good.
4) The ending was bad and i was bending and was nervous like hell.
5) No Time constrain on my part.

To-do:
1) Set-up Time constrain.
2) Be more confidant if going for a no close.
3) Try to give the lady th a good time rather than concentrating on #-close.

DAY 7,8 :

Both Days at CrossWord BookStore [at[ brigade road.


Day 7:

Did 2 single set

was sitting in crossword ,
when a lady was searching some books near me .

ME: HI! Can you suggest me a few good books .
IB: What are you looking at.
ME: Anything will do , anything random .
IB: try XYZ....
ME : thanks ..
ME: so were do you work?
IB: (Someplace ..... )

The conversation went well , i left her twice to show i was busy.
Came back, little talk.
I Should have tried some opinion thing to take things forward but dint.
I gave her my card and asked her to call back.

I could have #-closed but freaked out.

The next lady was just
My now favorite dine in opener.
nothing much here..



DAY 8:
Again in crossword.
Opened a single set , same book opener sitting in the same place.
ME: suggest me a few random books
IB: what kind of books are you looking at.
ME: Anything will do.
Me: so do you come here regularly.I dont see you often..
IB: sometimes..

And my mind went blank..
I went around, came back had a few words.
Nothing much.
See seemed nice to me .

I felt i was leaning too much and my voice was not audible too.
Left the store.

While returning i did an Dine-in opener but could not take it any further...

Than approached a 2 set
One IB5 and one IB7

Me: HI! Ladies. Suggest me a good place to buy a few cloths. for me.
They were standing infront of allen solly
IB7 ignored me completely.
IB5: you can try allen slolly.
ME: no i have been there.
IB5: then try UCB.
ME: Any other.
we dont know much.
Ok thanks.

Couldn take the conversation forward cause IB7 was totally ignoring me and staring at me.

Eye contact was good.
Body posture can be better.


Learnings:
1) I am doing much better at books stores with the lonewolfs.
2) Should switch to interesting topics in bookstore rather than were
you work an all.
3) Not able to change the topic in dine in approach.

TO-DO:

1) As Italian mention try to talk to them about, fashion, travel or relationships.
2) Try to make a transition from opener to conversation smooth.

Hi! All

This is the day for self analysis:
I re-read all my post and i can already see some difference in me.
Now when i approach women i appear more confidant and my body posture is straight.
I look into there eyes more that previous me but still avoid it most of the time.

So , i have plan to set myself a few goals for next 2 weeks:

On Girls:
1) approach girls(30-50 sets) and get 5 of them to talk to you for 5 min.
2) Ask them whats the best way to keep in touch and try to get atleast 1#close.
3) Follow her up with a weekend date.

On Myself:
4) work on you fitness.
5) Work on my voice.

On My Life
6) Most important: Concentrate on starting my business(ya i am an entrepreneur and working on starting my own firm).




So how am i going to achieve them:

On Girls:
1) Ill make sure i always have eye contact while speaking.
2) learn about recent things and start speaking to girls about recent topic.
3) Plan in advance a few topics , a situational or a opinion question after initial opener.
4) Experiment and learn and observe what women like to talk.
5) Not being shy asking them for numbers.


On Myself:
6) I have to reduce atleast 18 kilos(93 kilos/ hight: 5.8' inches) more before i consider myself really fit.
So have to spend and increase my workout everyday little by little.
7) Totally stop junk food for the next couple of weeks.
Watch on what i eat in the coming days and try to eat less.
9) Join a voice over training institute:) and work on my voice.


On My Life
10) Not spend more than 2-3 hours a day on PUA( I am not taking my physical activity into account)
11) Work on My business full time as that my main priority at this time of life.
12) Complete many pending work in my business.

And Importantly keep posting and analyzing self .

Would love to hear all your critiques and advice.
Throw in. i am learning
Happy Sarging.

So
I wanna further break down on how i am gonna achieve my targets.

On Weekdays:
1) Wake up by 6.30.
2) gym by 7. work out till 8
3) 8-9 Swimming.
4) by 10 sit for work.
5) Work till 6 non stop without distraction. Not wasting much of my time on PUA or anything.
6) By 6.30 start for a mall or Brigade.
Talk to atleast 5 girls and try to make atleast 1 good conversation.(atleast a couple of minutes).
7) back to home by 9.30-10.00 an write a post on how it went and analyse it.
Read some PUA stuff. Motivate self and sleep by 11.


Weekend:
Will be more relaxed with more time on sarging but ill continue to press with my workout. (Ill try to review my work and plan for next week)
Weekend is also when i take salsa classes and voice over training

So, ya its kinda lame and busy but itll be rewarding in the long run and i am supper excited about it.
Even the small difference i am starting to see in myself is making me excited about the possibilities.

Throw in and Help me learn , i am waiting.

From an American point of view, I accept that most relationships are temporary. Often we force to keep a relationship that is no longer alive. We should experience a relationship to its fullest, enjoy and learn. When it's over, end it peacefully and be happy for the experience. This way you do not bring bitterness with you into future relationships and they will be more healthy.

You're hard work will pay off.

@DeepCover , Golden Words my friend,

Even i have accepted it.
Being an Indian , we have a concept of single love and marriage. I believed in it.

My break up was really bad and i did the mistake of pursuing it further. I pushed it, and it ended on a very bad note.
Mostly in the end it was my mistake. I want to be sorry but past is past, i learned from it, now its time to move on.To do more in life and to be the best i can be.

I beilieved in fairytale, reality was hard to accept .

My AIM. BE the best you can be, analyse and improve always.

Happy Sarging.

Consider how much more you can enjoy a relationship when that relationship isn't forced to meet arbitrary expectations.

In fact, isn't it more fun when we don't know how the story will end?

HI!

It was a strange week.

Now i report , how much i worked on my goal ,
Well it was bad , very bad.
I dint achieve most of my goals.


Ill try better next week.

BTW , i did go sarging on Sunday,

Started with a single set on mcD

Me: Hey did you buy the ice tea from MCD.
She: Yes.
She gave my order for a coldrink and asked me to pay to her instead.
she needed change , nothing much here.

I ejected out.

Went to a nearby star bazaar(multi stored household marketing shop)

Spoke to An IB5

ME: Hey , am looking for something decent dress for office for my Sister for her birthday.
IB: How about this , showed some dress.
ME: Na, not grt

She showed me quite a few.
I was laughing and generally enjoying the conversation.
But was a bit nervous.
At times i dint know where to keep my hands.
She was quite friendly.

ME: You are working?
IB5: ya with infosys.
IB5: And you?
ME: We are a startup. and we are getting into E-learning Business.
And bla bla.
We spoke for 5 min.

Than i put myself in a time constrain, excused and gave her my visiting card and left.
Could have done much better.

Though of # close. and said, " hey, how can we be in touch."
She looked bemused.
ME: "Give me a call if you are free sometime"



Observation:
1)I asked her general questions about her but could not take it any further.
Would have loved to take it to next level.
2)Dint know how to make her laugh, should have tried a bit a kino( although it was difficult considering its a day game.
3) Didnt have a good reason to meet her next time.
Should come up with a good reason so we can meet next time .




Next few were nothing to talk about .
Just asking direction and all ,
Nothing beyond it .

But than something amazing happened , which made pissed me off and made me laugh at the same time .

Post coming up.

Moral Police: Freaking people

This happened some days back when i with 2 wings were sarging in street:

IN Words of My Wingman #1:
.I was out with 2 of my wings..we were on the street..
I was like..if I see a lone wolf, I will go direct (jeremy
soul style) .. So I see one approaching in front of me.. i detach from my group..
I open..but in the moment change the opener to a Functional one.(hey..I
like ur slippers..where did u get it from? I am looking for something
similar for my niece..bla bla bla..I eject)

I see my wings(ME and the another wing) at a distance..I go up to them for debriefing..
I Noticed a tall man, with mustache with his wife and a kid following
me..I felt its normal..As I was debriefing to my wing I saw another
lone wolf approaching us..
as I decide to approach her or not..

Wing(wing #2 to #1): "hey dont open this one..something weird is happening" the guy
behind us is talking to someone over the phone..
he says in Kannada that some 3 guys are eve teasing on girls..come quick..

#1: Whoa! WTF!! we didnt do anything wrong..Lets get the hell outta
here..I dont want any trouble..that tall man with mustache obviously
was a cop..he was calling for backup..he looked pretty pissed..
I heard him say "Bastards"..I felt really uncomfortable about it and walked
the hell outta there with one of my wing..We didnt look back..

The 3rd guy(me)who was with us got detached..We called him after a while
and he said he had to run away from there as the Man was trying to
forcefully make him stay there till the police back-up arrives..
Me and my wing just got the hell out of that area for a while..


Now my part :
I was being a hero. Just to confirm what he was upto. Just went
directly to the man and asked the way to the mall.
And he caught me by my hand and said. Wait let the police come, ill
let you know how to.

Me: Who are you? What did I do?
He: wait ill show you who I am.
Than he tried to catch my collar. I was terrified. He was strong too.
I just pushed him and ran like hell.

Got an Auto ( Tuk-tuk) and went back home asap.
It was freaking experience , good that nothing happened to us but still.
Cant we even sarge, we weren teasing anybody , neither making fun of anyone.

Has something similar ever happened to anyone ??
Would love to Hear your experience.[/i]

From now on , ill change in style.

Ill Define my goals in advance and try to prepare in advance.

Than see if i can Achieve my goals:

Ill open atleast 2 set in a bookstore.

Opener would be:

1) Find me some good books to read.
2) That book looks interesting... please... it's not some self help .
Common you dont look that ugly.
( ill try to pull it) itll be difficult i know.

THan ill open 3 more sets on road or in a coffee shop.

Ill cant come up with detail but ill for the next time.

Suprising side effect of Being a PUA:


Hey although i dint complete my objective and pushed it further.
I did open 2 set , nothing much just asking for direction.

Few good things are happening,
1) One i am making an conscious attempt at looking into the eyes while taking and making a few HB5-6 shy .
2) I am starting to get aware of my body language while i am taking to people.


And the best thing is , just today in a business meet , i was able to figure out discomfort and an attempt at hiding fact by the lady with whom we had the meeting.

She was constantly playing with her hair and her ring. While explaining about her company.

And when she came to know that we were a startup and i was explaining the process to her she had crossed her hand.

Maybe she was feeling a bit discomfort or she was trying to hide fact.
I thought it was the later.
What do you guys think??

Walking towards the Goal:

Albeit slowly i have been taking steps towards my goal.


1) I have joined a Voice Over Training Class.
2) I have joined a salsa class.
3) My weight is decreasing slowly( 94 to 91 KGs).
4) Visited a dentist and got my teeth cleaned and will go for some filling later
this month.
5) My business is talking off slowly. Have to put a lot of work in it.
6) I had a niggling pain since a long time , showed a physiotherapist and getting treated.


Some bad points to rectify:
1) not following my schedule.
2) dint approach any girl in a while.
3) Aint giving much time to my business.
4) My excersice has totally stopped.

DAY 11 :

Was out of the game for a 10 days.
After many days today i approached 2 ladies.

Was walking down the street when i saw a lady was an HB8:
I stopped her and asked.
ME: (With a smile) Hi! Where is the xyz shop.
(Her bra strap was visible and like an desperate idiot my eyes looking at it.)
Her: i dont know , i am new to the city. Gave a very pretty smile.
ME: Is it this side , somebody told me .
Her: i am sorry i really dont know.
she was a bit embarrassed cause she dint know , and than she excused herself.



Than spoke to a hired gun. an HB6
ME: HI! (with a confidant smile) were do i get momos here.
She: there is a good restaurant by name shangrila.
ME: Still smiling hmm where exactly is it.
She: go there and take a...... bla bla bla.

She seemed in tension and wasn able to speak properly or loudly .
ME: Thank you. and was leaving.
Than suddenly turned back and said.
In an manly enquiring voice while laughing i said.
ME: Are you nervous or something , you don seem to answer properly.
She became shy and laughed. And tried speaking something.


Result:
1) Could have surely taken the conversation forward and plan to do it next time with the 2nd girl.
2) I was smiling while speaking to both the girl , confidant smile.
And i received amazing response.
Ill Keep this smile always, it makes you more friendly.

I just wanted to encourage you to post more and more about your exploits. This account of your activity in bangalore is really valuable for guys like me who are in india, especially bangalore where you cant pick up girls through night life and moral police and fear of being persecuted ( even for talking to an unknown woman) changes the whole situation. I hope you get a success cause that would a proof that these concepts can work even in india.

Long time no see

Its been a major break for me from PUA training.
For unknown reason , form lack of motivation.
And maybe cause of lack of people around to sarge with.

I had lost in touch with PUA.
Entire March month was lost without much activity.

So i promise myself . Ill hit the streets again.

This month i set a target of atleast 50 approaches .
And atleast 5 long chats.
April gonna rock. Hear i come.

Gonna start again tomorrow.