Hi. Just read through your journal and hope that you keep going.
Maybe another kiss close is coming soon!
Just wondering one thing: Your body language / confidence etc. sounds like it is really good so was hoping you could give me a a couple of tips. I am quite small so need to be more physically positive.

Will definitely follow this journal.
Thanks,
FDGN

@fdgn5014

Hey, im not the tallest guy either (5ft 10) but I suppose I sort of made a habit of it. Your posture is the most important, if thats poor then forget about using hand gestures. Basically practice walking around with the back straight, chest slightly puffed out and chin level or slightly upward, move your arms while you walk too (Don't swing them too much obviously) and you could always look at how you're doing in the reflection of a passing shop window or something, it all comes down to habit, whenever I feel myself slouching in front of the computer I almost immediately straighten back up again. It's actually healthier to keep your back straight, people get the impression you're a confident person and you also confuse your body into thinking your confident simply by acting it so it's harder to be negative. Girls do want to get to know me using just that posture alone (Although I never expect them to approach) Keep your voice calm too, avoid talking too fast or jumping to the point of a story too quickly, maintain eye contact (Occassionally glance away) and use hand gestures while you talk (As if you were giving sign language, you don't have to do this all the time however) Well thats my advice but it really all boils down to practice and getting experience, the more you do something the better you'll get at it

Day 16 (15th July)

Went out to the city for an open day for up-coming courses, wore rather formal attire today (White shirt, jeans and good shoes) and wore the usual pea-cocking gear and sunglasses outdoors (I noticed it's harder to approach people in sunglasses or while wearing them as they appear quite intimidating, like at a poker-table for example, so sunglasses are a no for seduction, same with baseball caps and hoodies, you want to attract girls, not repel them) Saw a familiar face in college, he was my communications teacher from back in my games design course, seems to be keeping pretty well and we had a friendly conversation, it was nice talking to him and again I gained a little more social exp from that. As I was sitting the open day, I noticed the SPAM was quite tense in there but it might have been there fact it was a bunch of strangers all sitting next to each other so I just went with the flow and kept the mouth closed. After that was finished I went for a little walk and decided i'd go to the local clothes shop for a new pair of jeans (I only had one good pair left unless you want to be stuck wearing tight black ones)

I picked out two from the pile and went to the changing room, said hey to the woman in charge of the changing room (HB5) and told her I had two garments to try on, adding 'cheers love ' to finish the rather formal convo, she replied with 'You're welcome ' Tried them both on, they didn't fit so went back out, on the way out I said to her 'I'll probably return ' "Heh, okay " Got two different pairs to try, went back and said 'Time to see if these ones are the right ones ' to her and she said "Go for it " Sure enough one of them fit just right and on the way back out I said 'I found it! ' "Nice one, have a good day " 'Cheers love, you too ' I know it seems kind of silly, but women seem to love the openess. I was waiting in the queue to pay for them, I had to go all the way to counter 14 which was at the opposite side of the queue, as i was paying for them I said to the HB4 behind the counter

'I had to take some walk just to get here '
"Heh, ah well, everyone has to to make it out here's your receipt and heres another, it's a draw on the internet, first prize is about €1,000"
'I wouldn't mind that in my pocket '
"Haha "
'Have a great day ^^'
"Thanks love, you too "

I must add by the way, that the clothing shop, seems like the perfect place to practice some openers, there are HBs all over the place and not just the 4 + 5 employees so I think I found a great spot to get some serious practice, only drawback of course being that it's in the city so i'd have to get the train/bus, however I will be there again on Wednesday anyway to take a test for the course opportunities. Maybe while im around I could approach some HBs in the store and ask them for opinions on what clothes to buy or something similar, that place is absolutely perfect for daygame Now, I still do get cold feet approaching the really attractive HBs, so I need to start working on that, there shouldn't be fear before I know dang well if you do it correctly it wont go badly, I guess I just havent made it a habit yet, something ill have to get used to doing

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"

Day 17 (16th July)

One of those lazy days im afraid, havent really been feeling my positive self either, maybe im spending too much time on the computer, I would play a FaceBook game that would constantly crash I mean litterly non-stop, drove me freaking nuts so im just gonna quit playing altogether, fuck that shit. I could also be pissed off the fact my brothers friend KEEPS, calling over, he's not the quietest person either, starting to believe me and my bro are his fucking life, wish he'd fuck off and get his own one or learn that no-one wants to see your face, every, single day, no matter who you are. This wouldn't bother me if he kept it to once a week, but jesus christ, 2-4 times a week? Fuck that shit. I know, very of-topic day but nothing really happened seduction-wise, hard to be seductive when you're pissed off like and im sure all of us have these kind of days

Day 18 (17th July)

Went to the city to take that course test, the SPAM again in that college was rather tense, even though all the classmates were new, NONE of them were mingling with each other o.o As forms were being passed around I said 'Cheers man' to the guy who handed it to me, no response but I gave it to another guy who said 'Thanks' to which I replied 'No problem' At the end of the 2nd out of 3 tests one of the teachers were collecting the answers, a HB9, I said to her 'I reckon that was a speed test ' "Yeah heh " I know she was too busy to care but it was a nice response anyway, I seem to be pretty good with situational openers. I went to Burger King to get some grub, a guy was trying to skip my place in the queue but I thought about Neil Strausses eye contact advice, there was an Indian bloke and a HB9 working behind the counter, when she was finished with the customer I gave her direct eye contact while smiling and spoke first giving the other guy no chance to skip me said

'How are ya love? Could I get the Angus 3 pepper meal please'
"What drink?"
'I'll get a chocolate milkshake please'
"€9.20 please"
'Cheers '

Finally got her to smile after saying thanks and taking my meal from her, I reckon she was just having a busy day but I seemed to deliver some positive energy to her. I don't think that smile would have happened if I wasn't smiling, being open and giving eye-contact though.

On the way home on the bus as I was waiting for it to stop a dude asks me
'Here, do you know whens the last stop in (Town name)?'
"Yeah, there's two more stops, the last one is just outside the o2 shop "
'Thanks man '
"No problem "

There was a time i'd never help people at all or whenever I did i'd never really open up and be friendly with them but that seems to have changed, I suppose people do see me as someone who wont grumble at them or ignore them when they ask for my help, maybe they can sense that positive energy?

I do notice a change in my mindset though although I have been kind of lazy, havent excersised in a while, diet has worsened and too much time on the computer, im going to spend the rest of the evening (Until 8:45PM for poker) writing out a fitness plan (Most likely 3 days a week) and altering the diet. Im starting to slip with positivity and must change that while I can before falling back to my negative self, it's important to remain positive as this will prevent you talking yourself out of potentially gaining situations (Such as going out at all, approaching ect) I have learned a correct approach will almost NEVER fail and have proved that with all the little approaches i've been doing, of course it doesn't always work but when that happens, simply take it they're just having a bad day and move onto somebody else

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"

Day 19 (18th July)

Just wanna share another experience from last night before beginning today, I went to play poker with some friends as planned, I went up to the bar to get a drink, there was a HB8 working behind there, as she closed the cash register it got jammed for a while and it made a long beep noise until she closed it properly, as she was coming my way I said 'I think you killed it That was like a pacemaker, beeeep...' She smiled and asked what i'd like to drink, 'Bud Ice please ' I said the usual 'Cheers love ' as I paid for it, a few hours later during the break I went up to get another drink, I was looking curiously around the bar deciding what to get, she came up to me and I said 'Ah, what to get...hmm, i'll go for a Sprite please ' As she was pouring it out she asked "How are you doing in the poker? " (IOI?) 'Eh fine I guess, had better nights but hanging in there ' *Paying for drink* 'Thanks again love ' and she smiled. Im pretty good with employees it seems or if there's something clearly interesting to comment on the situation, I don't really believe in using canned material, to me that's like what a charity collector does and people just want to avoid him. My way is the CatchPhrase way 'Just say what you see' or in that film Dumb and Dumber, 'Thats a nice set of hooters you have there o3o' "I beg your pardon? o.o" 'The owls, they're beautiful' "...oh " *Blah-blah-blah, some jokes, arranged meet-up*

Back to today, today is the day I will be going back to working out, already made the commitment to stay away from FaceBook and gonna hit the treadmill for half an hour at 2PM. I do have a question though, do you guys find it easier to approach when you're with a friend, or alone, or is there really any difference...because 90% of the success i've had with women I was hanging around friends/a friend/family. daygame also seems way easier than nightgame possibly since there's no bitch shield. Will update today later if stuff happens

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"

Day 22 (21st July)

I know im days late with this, and I do regret writing this too but something sort of happened last Wednesday night that brought back a lot of bad repressed memories, apparently I do believe I have a serious social anxiety problem. I was sitting there playing poker with a few mates, now I havent been there in a few weeks since I was merely just sick of playing it, one of my new friends I met the last time I got drunk, nice guy too, put in 3 green chips (Each worth a hundred points, the bet was a hundred) right, this guy Rob, known to cause drama starts making a big deal out of it saying 'That a call of one hundred is it?' "No, a raise" 'But you didn't announce it, so its a call'

Now, I took a poker dealing course a few years back, and i know darn well that when a player makes one gesture with chips and puts in more than double of the bet (Or announces a bigger bet with a single big chip) then it counts as a raise, he doesn't have to announce it, so i step in to defend my new friend and say

[Thats a raise of 3 hundred man]
'You're not in the hand so shut up, its nothing to do with you'
[Those are the rules]
'It's always a peaceful game when you're not here'

And so on, this stubborn fuck wont listen to anyone, now that would have been okay on its own if 3 MORE players hadn't stepped into the little disagreement and began defending him, totally ganging up on me and my friend. I was sitting there thinking 'Why are these guys acting like such a bunch of faggots and ganging up on me like this? They can't face me like a man one on one, I follow the rules, and defend players who follow the rules, they break the rules all the time, and I fucking get shit for it' This obviously would have been dealt with in the appropriate manner at a casino since the rules are always taken very seriously but this particular game feels like double-standard shite. But yeah, i've been in a situation like this before, many times when I know damn well that im 100% correct and the fuckers wont listen to me cause they're a fucking complete asshole. A lot of the players were behaving very strangely that night, its almost like there was some drama or rumors going around about me the last few weeks or something, and this brought up painful shit i've been through in school, obviously im going to just stay away from people like that since they're not good for my confidence but the frustrating thing being 'Why the fuck does this keep happening to me in groups of people?' When i join something, anything, there's always someone who hates my guts even though I did nothing to them, and there's always people that like me too, it might be the same for everyone else but I don't know. That feeling when you know your right, you know you didn't do anything wrong, but the whole group gangs up on you, because they don't feel you're one of them, it's completely ridiculous

So, I learned out of that, I might need help with my social skills or simply avoid people with different agendas (They're all into soccer and sport and shit like that that I couldn't give a fuck about). Im not a total nerd who loves video gaming, I am quite attractive too. Maybe there were better ways of handling that situation but in fairness it felt like it was planned and that I was set up. The town im living in is a hellhole when it comes to drama, rumors spread faster than lightning weather they're true or not, I have done some pretty stupid things alright, but while growing up, it's not like i've err'd at all in the last half decade, all of us have done really sily things but this town is so unforgiving and the bad news is im not going anywhere for a while (Upcoming year course) I guess ill just have to make the best out of the friends I do have around here (My best friend in my town is probably my brother actually, he's done some pretty stupid things in the past too and knows all the things i've done, yet neither of us make a big deal out of it) and attend gaming conventions around the country and make some new friends with very similar agenda, at least im not afraid to approach them and say hi

Back to topic anyway, I tried to sarge this weekend but there was just so much worry and pressure from the recent events, I find it impossible to do when I have no friends with me, maybe im afraid ill upset the group somehow and they'll be no-one to help, my bro didn't go with me because he was too tired. Daygame is just, so much easier, I don't know why exactly. So yeah, a pretty horrible weekend, I seem to shine better when im around people I trust and board up the windows when im alone so obviously I need those close friends to hang out with

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"

Day 28 (27st July)

I know, I haven't updated this in a while and there's only like 2 days left, i've just been busy reading pick-up material from a course I signed up for, it's awesome too. Just so you guys know I haven't given up yet, i'll be going out tonight to the local bar/club to have some fun, my main problem being simply opening strangers, society sort of plants this thing in us that makes us talk ourselves out of potentially awesome opportunities and just sit there and not cause trouble or damage people, the thing is you could be damaging girls if you dont take actions when she's making it clear that she's attracted to you. Fear...<- this word right here right, its horrible, fear will litterly stop anyone in their tracks from going for what they want, it's worth ignoring it especially if the circumstances are highly favorable to you. It can cripple any artist into a horrible block, that includes pick-up artists, people who draw, even creative musicians. So maybe its worth going out with a YOLO attitude and just go for it! Weather it goes good or bad, it will be a story to tell and an experience to share. Tonight is my second-last night until my 25th birthday and ill probably go out Sunday night too and ill be darned if im just gonna sit there and let virginity creep into its 25th year

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"

(31st July)

Yeah, I didn't quite hit my target but im not giving up on it though, there's been some more improvements in myself, I have a better understanding on what women really want (I know i've made some clear mistakes during the challenge lol) and im no longer one of the average of 50% of guys wanting to get laid who mope around clubs saying nothing and not approaching. Maybe most of you guys are thinking 'He didn't finish this, he failed' I think differently though, the bank holiday weekend is coming up and that will include 3 nights of fun, I have a feeling with all the new things i've been learning and the encouragement i've been getting, this one is 'the big one' Im gonna approach like crazy this weekend, I think the key is to not to be afraid to be that friendly guy, but once you know she's attracted to you, you escalate her until she's yours like a fish on a hook Yeah, you know, Pick-up is a lot like fishing itself, some are better than others at it, some use awesome bait some don't, some people are so afraid to throw the line into the water (Or get up and talk to girls) that they think something bad like falling into the river may happen and of course it takes effort to reel em into your bedroom. It takes patience, you're going to screw up a lot if you're new to it (Like lots of things) and even the best fisher isn't going to get lucky ALL the time (A bit of luck involved but it's mostly skill) It's like poker too, numbers game, keep playing and keep getting better cause if you dont play you can't win, if you play and you lose, take it as an opportunity to learn from your mistakes and imagine that you've just added exp points for simply trying

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Why ask a girl generic and boring questions like 'How are you, where you from?' when you can ask "Whats the craziest thing you've done, what was your first kiss like?"