Ok so send the girl a text to say I wanted to go out that evening and what her plans were. I told her to reply either way by a specific time so that I could make other plans otherwise.

She replied later than the time I had specified but and it was also to meet at 10pm instead of early in the evening so I politely said I could not do that and had other plans now.

I will be seeing her today. I think I would like to get more physical with her and also isolate her so might suggest we go for a walk and might learn some simple hand massage times for transition to hand holding.

I also read somewhere that I should not day dream about 'us' which I have managed to do very well. Usually when girl gives some sign of wanting me I future pace myself and that only puts her on a pedestal in my head so I think I have learnt to avoid doing that.

Anyway that's all for now.

Thanks for reading

I did see her again at a social we both had decided we would be going to but I had not specifically invited her to it so unfortunately she brought a date (or maybe a friend ) with her. I did at one point isolate her from him but I felt bad for him and besides when I become really good at this game I don't think I want to be the type that steals girls from AFCs.

Instead I talked to both of them. I noted that they did not hold hands or do anything intimate and so I decided to text her the next day and as expected she replied and we have agreed to do something later in the week.

I would like to escalate things with her quickly as she is quite obviously seeing other guys. Any good suggestions of activities that are fun but allow you to escalate and thus turn her on

I think when we do go out I will also try some SSP. So that I don't overload myself what simple things can I do?

Thanks for reading

LA

Inner thoughts post; hopefully if many people suffer from this than this will show you that you are not alone.

Ok so my oneItis was a very good friend. She still is a great friend. Unfortunately she has had a long term boyfriend and has not really been interested in me. This caused a lot annoyance for me and led to me joining this community.

Anyway over the last 15 weeks or so I had completely gotten over her and was seeing really positive progress in my ability to do things in life etc. but recently a chain of events happened (her getting with a person while also having a boyfriend) which were what had trigger the OneItis in the first place.

I think it was a combination of feeling;
- That despite 'wasting' so much time around her she chose someone else
- Jealousy of the fact that she has so many guys in her life that she could easily get with while I have almost no women
- Feeling left out when she is with the other guy

I think the best way out of this is to really work on my inner game and get over the jealousy etc. I wish we were not such good friends and our social circles were not so tightly knit in which case I would have been more than happy just to cut all ties and forget about her but unfortunately that is not the case .

I will spend some time with myself and let you know how it goes.

I have been thinking of taking up meditation for a while now and I think this is a perfect time to actually take it up. I tried it today. I only managed to get my mind clear for minutes at a time but I enjoyed it and want to keep it up twice a day.

I have also been thinking about the OneItis and I think I will try and think of the following;

a) Abundance; she is not special and what she does or does not do makes no difference to me what so ever.

b) Part of being an alpha is to be able to not let irrational thoughts about people affect your relationships with them. My annoyance towards my friend is unfair as she has not actually done or said anything to me recently to evoke it. She is just living her life and any girl would do the same. So the way out is for me to focus on my life and enjoy it rather than focus on other people's and not enjoy my own.

I am going out tomorrow evening and so outer game post should be available soon .

Thanks for reading

That's great! Meditation has so many awesome long term benefits it's crazy. In the end you're gonna be cool like a cucumber and nothing will faze you

Firstly thanks a lot Chief for the continued encouragement. I think meditation is really helping me relax and look forward to the day when I am as cool as a cucumber .

Later today I will post something on inner game that I have realised. But right now I am going to post my night game experience from last night.

Nightgame

- This was the first time when I went out for night game. Before this I only danced in my social circle and would occasionally (by chance) dance with others.

- Unfortunately I found that my height was a major limiting belief for me (5, 5"). I felt that I could not open taller girls and because they all wore heels they all seemed very tall.

- I was with another pick up artist though but unfortunately his energy was low too (he is normally quite good especially on the street). Never the less I learnt a few things.

Things I learnt:
- Approach needs to be high energy and strong
- Physical as soon as possible eg. spin the girl around
- Stay in a place where girls are walking past
- Do not stare at sets or walk around too much as it feels people notice you are just 'prowling' the club.
- I should have tried to open more than just 1 but for now I suppose at least I went out and tried. Maybe next time I will open more.

Thanks for reading,

LA

Ok so there has been a little 'success' by my standards. I had an amazing date yesterday. Got some basic Kino going, incidental back, face and hair. She also wanted to see me again and asked me to call her.

On the downside though I did not go for a k-close or hand holding etc. which I wish I had. I think I need to stop waiting for the perfect moment because every moment is perfect if I let it be so.

An Amateurs problems;
Anyway I have fallen into the trap that all amateurs fall into which is the fear of losing what you have I suppose. I have also been 'future pacing' myself (thinking of all the things that I would do with her etc. even though I realise this will only leave me very unhappy if this does not work out and further more put a lot of pressure on my game.

Finally I found SSP very difficult to do during the date because as I was thinking of fucking her I kept getting distracted from what she was saying and could not keep the conversation going. .

Way out of this; I read in another post doing nothing provides the same results as trying and failing and I think this is so true! So we will probably meet tomorrow and I want to set the scene by opening with a kiss as we go for a hug. Will keep you posted .

Thanks for reading,

LA

ur height is just a limiting belief man. try to stand up very straight and also watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-gI23jUAvg

not really at a point where i can give any advice but just wanted to post something and say good luck i look forward to reading

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"what ultimately gets me in state are boobs. boobs are my motivation bro, i wanna get up in it. do you know what i mean?" RSD Jlaix

Long post so I have used subheadings

Some Thanks

First things first Thank you very much drullusokkur. It is always a pleasure to hear from you guys and makes me feel the community is behind me.

Voice Projection
I totally agree with this. Loud people just attract attention and make themselves known which is such a good plus in this field. In PUA there are many transferable skills and this is one of them as it would be useful in business presentations etc.

I think I will be practising this soon. I may even take professional lessons just because its a very good transferable skill.

Why I never pay for girls

So I went out last night with the girl I have been talking about in my previous posts. It went quite well. We left the venue holding hands (which was one of the points of escalation I wanted to get to).

I was about to take her to a quiet place for a k-close but as we were walking I started enquiring things and then found out she had a boyfriend. Now I know most of the MPUAs would think nothing of this and escalate and probably even succeed at an F-close but this girl was supposed to be my lucky break as I am yet to see solid success (a heavy make out or f-close).


Positives
On the plus side ssp worked decently yesterday. I was turning myself on and I started thinking in terms of 'What can I do next to turn her on' and pushed myself and escalated to hand holding.

Another positive is that I never pay for my dates half (I know this is one of those things the community has no definite answer for). I usually split the cost between us. I think I like it because;

a) She does not feel like she owes me anything if things do not work out
b) If things do not work out all I have lost is a girl not a girl + money
This was so useful in yesterday's situation.

That's all for now. Thank you for reading .

LA

i have a shy quiet voice. i took a beginner acting lesson where they showed us how to feel the diaphragm it to talk much louder. over the next week i consciously tried to use the diaphragm by kind of flexing my abdomen when I speak and squeezing the air out and relaxing and not using the vocal cords in the throat. scary how loud my voice can be! so get some simple lessons in speaking with your diaphragm and then make it a point to use it when you talk.

i personally don't like bars. i think it's hard at bars to talk to girls and there is so much rejection. you can wear shoes with a little heel in them to make you a bit taller.

Hey guys sorry for the lack of updates.

I have a some important exams coming up in a few weeks so I have locked myself in. I am on a weekend break this coming weekend though so there should be some more experiences .

Thanks @Pyuya I have talked to a good friend of mine and taking up speech or acting classes sounds like a plan for this summer. Not just for PUA but I think its great to be able to talk well!!!!!!

Introduction

Firstly I feel really bad for not being more committed to PUA recently but like I said I have my final exams coming up so that is a lot more important as doing well in them will have knock on effects on my self esteem and my perceived value. Once they are over I intend to go into the field every day!!!!

Anyway I did take a weekend break and spent most of it with 1 guy and 2 girls. I learnt some stuff about inner (this post) and outer game (next post).

Post 1 of 2

Inner game : My reality;
The girls I was with sometimes had bursts of hormones and would start saying things that were a bit rude and things that would normally annoy me and want to get rid of them. However the guy I was with is an inner game alpha; His simply advice for everything is if you ignore stuff you don't agree with then they soon stop saying it and come to your way of thinking. If you don't care about it then it does not matter.

So the things I will try to ask myself when I get annoyed by someone;
- In the time that I have known them would I describe this person to be evil? If not then I will ignore what they said and forgive them.

- Is this person just a bit socially awkward/having problems of their own which are causing them to say silly things. If yes then again I will ignore them and forgive them.

- Is this person interfering with my goals or are they intimidating those around me unreasonably and hence affecting them negatively. If yes then first I would do everything to avoid them but if that also fails then I would confront them. This would be a last resort thing though.

Now you may be wondering why I am talking about this here. The main reason for wanting to change this is in the past I used to give up on girls due to the slightest excuse. E.g. she does not reply to a text or she does not say hi or something. I would let it annoy me to an extent that I would begin to view her negatively. This then meant I gave up on girls for the smallest reasons (this I think helped me avoid rejection).

This was also party due to my old limiting belief that girls do no like me so I used for any bit of evidence to suggest this was true. Now of course I try not to think of it like that.

What I learnt

Girls like me. don't hang on to negative things that people say. If I think clearly, they have said more neutral and positive things but I just don't hold on to them as strongly!!!


What I will do to improve/ What I could have done instead

I will focus on the positives of people and hold on to my reality. I will not let the minor mistakes of others affect me.

So part two of the post I started earlier this week. This one focuses on night game.

Went out at night. I was with a female friend. I saw a group of girls and guys. I decided to join it. I don't know whether it was because I was with a girl or (maybe just in my head I was more confident as I was with a girl) but I felt more easily welcome into the group.

- One of the guys started messing with my hair a bit (I like it when people play with my hair) so I let him continue.
- Then at one point I ended up out of the group but I stood my ground. Looked at the guy with a friendly but 'what the hell man look' to which he politely put me back in the group . (This guy was about twice my size).

- Was friendly to another guy in the group and asked him how they all knew each other.

- I then played with the hair of one of the girls by taking it from the back of her head and covering her face with it so she would have to flick it off.

- I asked her something and she replied something but then she was a bit far and I could not continue the conversation easily (In hindsight I should have taken her in my arms at this point before making conversation as it would have helped escalate things).

An interesting observation
There was this fat guy in the group. He was not at all good looking or anything but what he did really taught me a lesson.

He was standing behind the girl in the group and started touching her back and then he started lightly stroking her front (i.e. stomach). Then he just turned her around and kissed her and well it sort of just worked. It lasted a good half a minute and she came out with an embarrassed smile.

This was proof of the widely understood concept that as long as you escalate gradually then going for a kiss is easy as her acceptance of the early escalation is sign of her being ok with all the escalation.

- I soon left as it seemed the girls were more or less taken but also because I was quite tired as we had been site seeing all day.

Things I learnt
-Breaking into groups is easy if you have a friendly upbeat vibe. Not sure if I need a girl with me, its certainly easier!!!
- Take girls in your arms before starting a conversation when in a club.
- Playing with girls hair is fine. They are neutral about it if not positive.
- Escalate and go for a kiss , its no big deal for most people. Its only as big a deal as I let it be!!!!!!