I've always been a complete wimp, but with more confidence than most (a paradox of sorts - the quietest person you'd meet and one of the loudest). But what gripes me is that I get into a miserable state when I fail - in the sense of pickup if I fail to approach (which i do - a lot (approach and fail to approach)), I get disillusioned with everything.

Like this weekend, I basically got rejected constantly, got blown out by an FB and by a HB8.5 which I thought was definitely on. It just does my head in, like one of those "when the fuck am I gonna catch a break?!"

I'm a good looking chap, go to the gym 5 times a week, got a good job, dress well, but my personality is getting shot to shit for all this failure! I'm trying all sorts of different things, reading loads, going months without reading anything, having time off and concentrating on work then getting back into it, but it all leads to the same result - failure OR meeting girls which aren't up to my standards! The last time I had mutual interest with a girl who I thought was amazing was too long ago to remember.

So what the hell is the deal with all the constant failure? Has anyone else ever got to this point and wondered if there is a light at the tunnel? I'm sure it's an inner game issue, any ideas would help!

you have to keep some emotional distance from the outcome, because you know that there will be rejection or plans getting messed up.

Ultimately you have no control over any woman you approach. You also cannot control flaking.

there is no guarantee of any results on any particular day, with any particular woman.

One thing that helped me realize.. that failures dont matter.. is video games..you know how many times... i failed a mission.. but i can start over again.. fresh.. remember that.. you start every time.. fresh... its easier said then done. i know.. rejection is hard.. but rejection feels bad when you put to much value into another person. .if a person rejects you like a bitch.. then realize.. that their opinion isnt worth that much any way.