| Here's an article from Joseph Matthews that may be of help to you...
How do you get good at a certain action or task?
The answer: Repetition.
Practice.
These are the fundamentals of building a skill.
Think about how you go about playing a sport, like baseball for example. Maybe you start with your dad lightly throwing a big orange ball and you whack it with your big red over-sized bat. Eventually, you learn to swing at a smaller ball with a thinner bat. Then the ball gets thrown faster, and your swings get harder. You miss more, but you keep swinging until you learn to hit that ball. Eventually, you get competent enough to notice which pitches to swing at and which to let go.
Every skill is learned this way. And meeting women is no different.
The problem with women however, comes down to the emotional investment we put into our interactions with them. This is because many men often link the validation of their self esteem with a woman's acceptance of them. Therefore, in their emotional mind, the stakes are higher because the pain of failure is felt more easily.
When practicing baseball, you can accept the fact that you strike out time and time again because you can train yourself to do better. You know you're doing something wrong, and you're not afraid to strike out a 1,000 more times in order to get better.
But when you apply that to women, ask yourself: Am I ready to strike out with 1,000 women in order to find one that I like and that likes me back?
Most guys will say "no" to that question. And they're the ones who stay alone and pathetic, whining that no one likes them.
The guys who do go out there and mess up with 1000 women, but find that 1 girl that will give them the time of day are the ones who are happy, because they got what they want. And next time, maybe it'll only take them 100 times, or 50, or 10 to find a girl who'll return their affections.
The fact is, meeting women is a number's game. In baseball, you won't hit a home run every time. Not every pitch of the ball is right for that. Some go wide, some you miss, some you misjudge. A few you may get a single, or a double, some you have to bunt...
Ahem.
Anyway, you get the idea. You gotta go out into the world and meet women. And you gotta go out there with the mindset that it's okay for you to fail when trying to find that one special girl that's gonna make your life better.
I've gotten emails from guys before who tell me that they can't meet women because they're afraid that the bouncers in the club will laugh at them when they mess up, or all the other girls will notice and not want to talk to them, or various other odd beliefs.
The thing you gotta remember is, no one cares about you or your failures. Most guys know the score, they know that it's hard to pick up a woman and even if you make a fool of yourself doing it, they can't blame you for trying.
Women know the score too. They get hit on all the time. To them, you're just another spoke in the wheel of the machine. Chances are, they've seen worse than you try and fail.
And in the end, the only thing people notice is success! No one cares if a woman blows you off. But you can be sure that when you're in the corner tonguing down some beautiful babe, people WILL notice then!
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