Why Rejection Is a Great Thing
Me: “Well, I definitely like your style! And those Harry Potter glasses are nice!! We vibe really well. You and I should get some coffee soon. When are you free?”
Her: “Haha! I think you are really cool; but I have a boyfriend already–sorry!”
Me: “That’s cool! No biggie! It was nice meeting you! If I ever see you around, be sure to say hi!”
Her: “Will do, Steaven! Nice meeting you, too!”
That’s right–to all the amazing guys reading this–even the best of the best get rejected from time to time. Nevertheless, I am here to inform you that rejection is not this big salivating monster that purposely wants to damage ego permanently, nor is it a monster that you must avoid at all cost! Instead it’s something that will happen no matter how good or great you get at getting the woman you want (or women who am I to judge…right?). I am here to dispel a few misconceptions you may have about getting rejected and I’m also going to go over reasons why some rejections are beneficial to you and your overall improvement with woman. So let’s get the party started, shall we?
Two Misconceptions of Rejection:
Practice Makes Perfect? Not in this case!
Many men out there think that rejection is something that happens to you when you’re new at this and with enough practice you can get rid of it…forever! This simply is not correct, nor is it realistic. Whenever you do approach a woman, there is always possibility that you might get rejected.
Here are a few reasons why:
● She might be happily married;
● She might be in a committed relationship;
● She might be having a fucked up day
● Perhaps, she was just evicted out of her place and has no where to sleep for the night and isn’t concerned with meeting someone new!
If you notice all of these possible reasons have nothing to do with YOUR precious “game.” Instead, it has to do with circumstances beyond your control. In order to get better at attracting your type of woman, you must understand that rejection comes with the territory. Just like getting punched comes with boxing, there is no way around this so either accept it or don’t participate. So, disregard the ideology that practice makes perfect, and instead adopt the idea that, “Practice makes you better!”
I’m Afraid I might Say Something Stupid!
This is the most common phrase I hear when guys are either too afraid to approach or the reason why they feel they are going to get rejected. Let me help you remedy this problem. Here’s some good news for you gentlemen:
YOU ARE A GUY! YOU ARE 100% GUARANTEED TO SAY SOME STUPID SHIT FROM TIME TO TIME!!!
I feel so much better after saying that. I know men who have been married for ten years and counting and every once in a while, they too say some of the dumbest things I have ever heard in my life to their wives!!!
Now does this mean their game is off or they need more “in-field” work? Of course not!! All it means is that shit happens. Please don’t get me wrong, at times you will be smoother than Michael Jackson moon walking in space. But you must accept that there will be times you will be wondering “what in the world possessed me to say that?”
This is all natural AND expected! Although there is no way to eliminate saying awful things completely, we can severely minimize some of the dumb shit that comes out of our mouths. We accomplish this by going out and gaining experience by approaching and conversing with beautiful women. When we practice our approaches consistently, we begin to reduce our stress level (which is the main reason you say stupid shit in the first place!). By reducing stress and feeling more comfortable, we slash or chances of saying something idiotic tremendously!!!
Benefits of Rejection:
This is my favorite part! Right now you’re probably thinking, “How is this guy going to convince me that rejection is a good thing when everytime it happens to me, I can feel my heart and soul burning with regret and a shit load of “What ifs?”
Reason 1: Well, let me say this as you get better and better at this skill set, you will come to realize that the enemy isn’t rejection but rather the conversation that lasts 20 minutes or so, ending with “Sorry! I have a boyfriend.” This kind of rejection is the true enemy and not because she has boyfriend (which you should be happy about, because it shows there are some really good looking, loyal women out there! ) but because you could have spent your valuable time chatting with another woman, who is single and also interested in you!
Reason 2: Rejection teaches you to not be so dependent on a particular outcome (a.k.a wanting to have sex with every woman you talk you!). When you’ve racked up a decent amount of rejection, as well as a few successful approaches, you start to realize you will be more successful when you’re not so focused on getting into the pants of every woman you talk to. This may seem hard to believe, but when you have a genuine conversation with a woman who is engaged with what you have to say and you are just as interested in her thoughts and opinion, then that’s when the magic can truly take place! When you’re not trying to think 3 steps ahead of her and trying to figure out if your “game” is working or not, is when you can build that deep deep attraction!
Reason 3: You learn from your mistakes. This cannot be overstated enough when you have failure after failure, after failure. You learn. YOU FUCKING LEARN. This is how anyone who has ever been great at anything got so damn good in the first place! Trial and error. So go out there and gain those experience points like you’re a World of Warcraft character.
Reason 4: This to me is the most important one of them all! It gets you in a talkative mood. Think about it this way; every rejection is a warm up and the more you warm up, the better each approach will get. Not many of us can go from 0 to 100 real quick [random Drake reference] So for those of us who are getting a few rejections in the beginning, know that this will only make us more potent with each approach.
When my brother and I were working on this area of our lives, he said something that stuck with me whenever I’m starting off kind of slow.
“Sometimes you have to go through the weeds, to get to the garden.”
This is why rejection should be embraced!
Hopefully, I have reprogrammed your views on this fear that many guys face when they attempt to improve their dating lives.
Thank you for taking time out of your busy day to spend it with me I really appreciate that. And if you have any question feel free to private message me I would be happy to help you out.
As always–peace and love.
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