This is an interesting topic and I'll go into more detail soon. However, I've been dealing with a lot of inner game issues lately. Feeling I'm not attractive or innately thinking I'm not worth it. Self acceptance.
The reason you dont have self-acceptance is because you don't know who you are.
It's not your fault - very few people know who they are. In addition, we are conditioned to be distracted. I dont mean this in some kid of conspiratorial way in which some shadow government is trying to stop you from finding yourself. I just mean that it has become the norm for us, especially in western society, to not spend any time with ourselves. When you wake up in the morning, do you pause and ask yourself who you are? Do you spend some quiet time with yourself? Or do you jump right into the day, to work, to commute or whatever?
In any case, the fact is that the way we see ourselves is false. Every major religion has said the same thing, but few of us have the maturity or patience to understand what is being said. We exist in an unspoken social contract - I will conform, I will submit, I will behave, and in return, you will give me the validation and acceptance I desperately crave. It's the reason you have a HUGE block in the pit of your stomach when you see a beautiful woman sitting at a restaurant and your instinct wants to approach her, but your mind kicks in and says "Woah, interrupting her lunch, with everyone staring at you? Nope. That would cancel out the contract, the validation and acceptance would be gone and I would be an outcast". And so, you stop yourself.
The obvious solution is to give yourself that validation and acceptance. In fact, getting it socially is an illusion, the only true way to find acceptance and validation is by giving it to yourself in the first place.
"I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul" - Invictus.
With love and respect
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