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Hey guys,

in the recent years of being an active part of the PUA community, and helping
guys with their challenges in dating, I became a confidence coach.

I wrote a book recently called The Natural's Way: How to ignore the usual dating advice and win the girl by being yourself

...and it's all about overcoming those first challenges that most guys have in
dating like limiting beliefs, anxiety and fear.

I want to give back to the community so I decided to create this thread.

In this thread, I'll talk about the 4 things that I believe stop you from having
confidence with women.

They are:

1. Confidence you have about yourself
2. Your FEAR of women
3. How you THINK and FEEL about women and dating
4. Your skills or the "How To" of talking to women

You can read more about these 4 core areas at a post I wrote on this forum here:
4-core-elements-stopping-you-from-havin ... 79539.html

I'll talk about all the different ways you can build on each area and
become amazingly confident with women.

I want you know that even though you may feel insecure, needy, powerless,
or low status around women, it IS possible for you to achieve the kind of confidence
with women you always wanted.

It happened for me, so it can and will happen to you too. Just stick to it and keep going.

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How To Feel Confident With Yourself

The first part in feeling confident with women is feeling confident with YOURSELF.

So in this article I want to lay out some of the KEY things you can do to feel more
confident about yourself.

I didn't want to talk about deep stuff, but stuff you can DO today and
feel better about yourself immediately.

I've put together a list of 10 things you can do today to feel more confident.

Here they are:


1. Exercise

The first and the best thing you can do right now to feel confident about yourself
is to go and exercise.

Here's why:

Exercise releases endorphins, which is basically a drug inside your body that makes
you feel good.

But besides just feeling good, exercising will make you feel STRONGER and CENTERED
especially when around women.

Very rarely will you see a physically fit guy with low confidence about himself. But it's
extremely common to see a guy who is physically unfit have low confidence level.

Exercising over time will also make you look better - which when you look at yourself in
the mirror, will again make you feel good about yourself.

Exercise will also make you feel COMFORTABLE with your body, as when you're exercising
you're using your entire body and later your remove those excess ticks, or weird hand gestures
you do with the ladies when you're talking with them.

Some good exercises are:

- Running and jogging
- Lifting weights (extremely good, especially because you get to look good and you feel
powerful and centered because of it)
- Trampoline jumping (good to loosen up the tension in your body and get extremely comfortable
with your body)
- Swimming (This exercise tones your body so it looks great and makes you gentle and firm at the
same time)
- Dancing (Can't overemphasize this one. Dancing with girls is going to make you feel extremely
comfortable with them and with yourself around them )
- Any kind of Marshall Arts (Marshall arts will release your wild side and make you more aggressive.
You'll gain that aggressive look in your eyes that women like so much)

If you have any other exercise recommendation, comment below and let us know.

2. Change how you TALK with yourself

The second thing that stops confidence for most guys is they talk negative with themselves.

They say stuff like:

- O I'm so stupid
- I can't believe I said that
- I'm such a loser
- Everybody is better than me


If you want to feel more confident, it is CRUCIAL for you to change how you talk to yourself.

So for example, instead of talking negative, you can say stuff like:

- I'm a winner
- If I put my mind to something, I'll find a way to make it happen sooner or later
- My power is in my persistence
- I have a lot to offer
- There is a conspiracy of the world to make me succeed
- Everything that happens in my life happens for a reason to help me in some way - it's my job
to find out how exactly does it help me
- I can do it. I really can do it.


Your inner conversation can break you. Make sure you're talking with yourself in a way that
empowers you.

3. Dress better

It's well known that how you look is how you feel. If you're wearing baggy clothes, stuff that don't
fit you or washed out clothes, you'll probably feel different about yourself than if you're wearing
something nice.

Note that you don't have to wear expensive clothes to make it nice.

The trick is to wear clothes that:

- Fit you, are not too big or too small
- Match colors (So no green with red)
- You feel good in them


If you're wearing something to make others accept you, even if it is considered cool to wear,
you won't look good in it, because you'll be worried about what people think of you.

Wear something that you feel great in. For example, I like to wear blue jeans with white t-shirt, and
on top of that a nice leather jacket.

Now I do spend a bit more on the leather jacket, but the quality of the t-shirt is irrelevant.

And I look good - because I FEEL good in it.

So develop your style, wear clothes that fit you and where you feel good in them.

4. Keep good hygiene

If you want to feel confident, you need to be sure that your breath doesn't stink, that you don't
have greasy hair or grease in your ears.

You want to know that people can look at you and find nothing repulsive about you (except your big
nose, lol)

Seriously, groom yourself and keep good hygiene.

So:

- Brush your teeth regularly and floss
- Take DAILY showers
- Groom your body hair
- Use a nice cologne


5. Keep yourself to high moral behavior

The next thing you can do to be and feel more confident is to keep yourself to high moral
behavior.

So don't indulge in low people behavior like gossip, talk trash about others, kick old grannies
while they're crossing the street.

Keep yourself up above ordinary people who indulge in that kind of behavior.

If you see someone of a need of a help, offer your help. If somebody talks bad
about someone else in your presence, say "I'm sorry, I don't talk about other people
while they're not here".


Doing this will make you feel powerful and proud in yourself - and it will show on the outside.

You will have a different kind of face expression and a different look in your eyes.

6. Don't do things that you feel SHAME about, but do stuff you feel PROUD about

This connects with the previous tip.

If you jerk off on internet porn, and then feel pathetic, don't do it anymore. Block your porn sites
with a block app.

If you do something on a regular basis that you are ashamed of, that will show up in your confidence.

You can not escape your own conscious, and you will pay the price when you're doing something
that's:

- Secretive
- Manipulative
- Sneaky
- Dishonest


You can remember it and there is no way you can escape your inner shame. Your confidence will
be hit by you doing something that you don't think is OK.

So do stuff that you feel proud about, like:

- Volunteer to charity. Read books to orphan kids or go hang out at a nursing home.
- Be kind to people during the day. You'll always find someone that needs a kind word or a smile.
- Do what you are responsible to do. At work, do all of your work, don't slack off. Pay your bills
when they are due, take out the trash.
- Don't take advantage of people, don't try to be sneaky or get your way around somebody.

Generally, don't do anything that isn't OK with your conscious. Stay true to yourself.

If it feels wrong or weird, don't do it.

Soon your confidence will follow.

7. Change your body posture

Your emotion follows your motion - that's what Tony Robbins keeps telling us.

If you have your shoulders slouched, head down, and take slow, weak and undetermined
steps, your emotion will follow and you'll feel slouched, down and slow.

Confident people walk erect. They walk with their posture erect, take determined steps and
don't seem as if they're lost or confused about where they're going.

So do this right now:

- Stand erect. Put your shoulders back, breathe into your stomach and have calm but sharp
look in your eyes.
- Put your hands OUT of your pockets and drop them down next to your body.
- Walk with determined steps, even if you have to put small goals ahead of you. For example,
you say to yourself, "I'll walk to that light post, then to that car, than to that tree..."

8. Stand up for yourself

Have you ever tolerated low behavior from somebody?

Have you ever let somebody walk all over you or live out their frustrations on you?

Have you ever said YES to something, even though you felt you were taken advantage
of - but you just couldn't say NO?

If you did, then you were betraying yourself. And whenever you do that, your confidence knows it.

And remembers.

Confident people don't let people walk all over them. They know how to set up boundaries and stand
up for themselves.

They can say NO, they aren't afraid to enter a conflict and demand the other person to show
respect for them.

They reject low behavior from people and don't allow disrespect from people.

The easiest way to stand up for yourself, is to act on your intuition.

You intuition KNOWS when you don't like something.

You can feel it inside of you, but you don't let it out.

Learn to listen to your intuition and ACT when it says you should stand up for yourself.

Standing up for yourself will give you that outlook of "I'm confident, and don't try to mess
with me" when you're walking or talking with people.

Women will just feel that you won't take shit from them, and perceive you as more confident.

9. Set a goal that's important to you, and work your way towards achieving it

Confused and lost people are not confident people. People who have a clear sense of direction are
confident.

If you don't have a sense of direction in life, you will be lost.

But if you take one look at confident people, you can sense in them that they
know where they're going. They're not lost.

So set a goal for your life right now, and follow it. Be connected to that goal at all times,
and make that goal more important than any person or a woman you come across to.

10. Affirm that you DESERVE and have PERMISSION to be confident

I think this one is HUGE. Most guys that I see who walk around with slouched posture, poor
clothes and inferior behavior have some sort of a belief inside themselves that, somehow they
don't DESERVE to be confident
- and that they don't have PERMISSION to be confident.

You see, people around us WILL often try to tell us what we deserve and what we have permission
to do and not to do.

And it's as if those "high status" people tell us "You don't have the right to be high status
and confident. You're a low status and no confidence guy!"

And we buckle.

Please affirm to yourself that you DO deserve to be a confident, attractive man and you have
PERMISSION to walk with a confident posture and behavior.

Don't ever think that other people have some sort of God-given right and you don't. You are not
different than any guy on the planet.

You deserve and have permission to be confident.

Those are my top 10 tips for you be confident with yourself.

If you have any other suggestion, make a comment below and let us all know.

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from the insecurities and limitations that are stopping your confidence with women.

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PostPosted: Thu May 29, 2014 11:08 am 
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Really enjoyed this, thanks for sharing. Would love to start martial arts up again. I did karate in high school and received a blue belt, but I didn't take it seriously. Now would be a good time to get into it!

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Really enjoyed this, thanks for sharing. Would love to start martial arts up again. I did karate in high school and received a blue belt, but I didn't take it seriously. Now would be a good time to get into it!

Cheers
Awesome man, I'm glad you've enjoyed it.

Karate is a VERY good discipline as it teaches you stuff about inner power and chi.

All very useful with confidence. I have couple of friends who are in Karate and they are ALL very
confident. Def. recommend you pick up where you started - it will show in your confidence.

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How To Get Good With Women - 4 Areas To Deal With

If you want to become good with women, there are 4 areas that you need to focus on
and deal with.

They are:

1. Your FEAR of women
2. Your self-image and self-confidence with yourself
3. Your and women's SEXUALITY
4. What to DO in a specific situation with a woman

So let me start with the first area.

1. Your FEAR of women

If you are shaking in anxiety at the mere thought of walking over there and starting a conversation
with a girl, and if you're anxious and tense every time you have a conversation with a girl, you're
going to have a hard time meeting a woman and date her.

So the first step is to deal with the fear of women.

How do you deal with your fear of women?

I see a common mistake that guys make when they want to deal with this fear. They think that
they need to completely kill every sign of fear they have of women.

They think that fear is the ultimate enemy, and that they should learn how to just "not give a fuck".

But as I discovered, fear of women is NATURAL...and it doesn't have to be eliminated completely.

I think having a little bit of fear of women is actually a good thing. Because fear gives you ENERGY,
it gives you ENTHUSIASM, it keeps you PRESENT with the woman and helps to build TENSION
between you and the woman.

Fear has a lot of positive sides, and I don't think eliminating fear completely is a good thing.

But I do think it's also not good to have fear paralyze you and stop you from doing anything.

So I suggest you deal with your fear to a level where you can manage it.

And the last part of fear is this: When you tone it down to a level where you can manage it, learn
to use it to your own ADVANTAGE.

Instead of using fear as an EXCUSE not do talk to a girl, use it as a FUEL to give you energy, passion,
drive and enthusiasm when talking with a girl.

2. Your Self-esteem and Self-confidence with yourself.

Once you deal with your fear, and you learn how to start a conversation with a girl, the next step
for you is to have a conversation with a girl.

Now, for most guys who want to become good with women, there are a few common things
regarding inner confidence that comes out when they talk with a girl:

1. They feel SELF-CONSCIOUS and INSECURE about themselves when talking with her
2. They are ATTACHED to an outcome with the girl which makes them NEEDY
3. They feel INFERIOR compared to a girl and feel that they are not OK the way they are
with women, but have to display an AURA of rock solid confidence

Women are incredibly in tune with their intuition, and they can SENSE how you feel about yourself.

And if you feel insecure, self-conscious, inferior or if you're trying to put on an act when talking
with them, they will SMELL it immediately and leave.

That's why you need to deal with your self-confidence, or how you feel about yourself.

> Eliminate your limiting beliefs and insecurities you have around women, like your looks, your
penis size, your lack of experience with women etc.
> Set yourself FREE of neediness and attachment for women, and become indifferent to a woman
staying with you or leaving
> Work on your SELF-IMAGE and create an image of yourself that you LIKE.

You want to come to a point where you feel completely indifferent to what the woman thinks of you,
to a point where you see yourself as the prize and catch and you don't feel needy or clingy
around a girl that you just "gotta" have her.

That's confidence.

3. SEXUALITY

Most of us don't get an education in school about our sexuality and how to deal with it, except the
formal education on "the pipi goes to huha and then you have babies".

There is some level of SHAME connected to sexuality in the majority of us guys, and the reason
for it is our programing as we grew up.

Somehow, there is this taboo or stigma in the air that sexuality is somehow WRONG and that we
shouldn't express it.

But sex and sexuality is such a strong human drive that it creeps out in weird ways. Either guys
indulge in over-mastrubation, become addicted to porn and other various ways.

As a guy, it is CRUCIAL that you explore your sexuality, what it means and how to express it
when around beautiful women.

When you talk with a hot girl, and you want to show her that you want to be more than just
friends with her, what do you do?

Do you pretend like you want to have a nice, logical conversation and that you are interested in
the size of her "shoes"?

Or do you say to her, "Man what I would do to you..." with total confidence and composure and
without feeling like a creep?

My question to you is this: Are you OK with the fact that you are a SEXUAL being?

If you're not, and if you're not comfortable with having and expressing your sexual desires, you need
to work on it.

And here's another even more powerful question for you: Are you aware that women are SEXUAL
beings?

Do you know how they think about sex with guys?

Do you know how they think about our penises?

Do you know what turns them on?

Do you have any idea how sexual women are? And how much they think about sex with guys?

Here's what I suggest you do: Go and buy or rent a few romance novels books.

You can start with a book 50 shades of gray.

That is what women read.

Let me give you an excerpt from the book:

“Suddenly, he sits up and tugs my panties off and throws them on the floor. Pulling off his boxer
briefs, his erection springs free. Holy cow! … He kneels up and pulls a condom onto his considerable
length. Oh no … Will it? How?”


As you can see, women are incredibly sexual - and there is an entire world of sexuality that you are probably
not even aware of, but that you need to discover.

It's fascinating. It's exciting. It's full of emotions.

It's sexuality.

4. What to DO with a woman

The next and final area to deal and learn about if you want to become incredibly good with women
is to LEARN the how-to.

So learn WHAT to say to a girl to start a conversation.

Learn HOW to keep the conversation going once you start it.

Learn how to show to a girl that you want to be MORE than just friends.

Learn how to get her NUMBER, ask her OUT and go for the KISS.

To be honest with you, when you deal with the first 3 parts, the part of HOW to do it becomes
incredibly easier, because you KNOW what's going on.

You won't need to hammer your mind with various techniques and lines, because you'll get the
context of it - and you'll be able to create your own lines and techniques.

One thing I want to mention though: I layed out a LOT in front of you. And by reading this,
you may feel overwhelmed by what you need to deal with BEFORE you get any results with
women.

The reality is, you don't need to do all that much to get the initial results. You know, some guys
have never even read a thing about pick-up but they are incredibly good with women.

I don't want you to get a feeling that you have to do ALL this work, and THEN you can go
out and start approaching women.

No.

START with approaching women and dealing with your fear of women.

Then move on to having a conversation and building your confidence while having
a conversation with women.

Don't lock yourself in the room and read forum articles or advice.

Go out and get busy.

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Hey I just posted a new post, titled "HOW TO ELIMINATE YOUR FEAR OF WOMEN".

It's a long post and I've really put in my best thinking about fear and how to deal with it
when it comes to women.

You can check it out here:

how-to-eliminate-your-fear-of-women-vt179994.html

Read, comment, get the most out of it.

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INNER GAME OF SEXUALITY: ACCEPTING YOUR SEXUALITY

Let me ask you couple of QUESTIONS:

> Has it ever happened to you that you were talking with a girl, and the conversation
was going well but it was too friendly, and you wanted to make it more sexual and
show to a girl that you're not there just to make friends - but you just didn't know how?

> Do you sometimes feel like you can't really express your desires for a woman because
you think there is something wrong with your desires - and that you shouldn't have
them?

> Do you find yourself having nice and logical conversations with a woman, when you really
want to say to her "I just like you so much..."?

> Do you find yourself in the friend zone with a girl often, when she tells you "I just see
you as a friend, I'm not attracted to you..."?

If you are, then you probably haven't really learned how to accept and more importantly
EXPRESS your sexuality in a way that is OK with you.

And today I want to share with you how you can deal with some of the inner game challenges about sexuality.

When I just started learning this, I felt that sexuality is somehow wrong, that women who
have sex and enjoy it are sluts who have something wrong with them.

I liked and craved sex, but my inner beliefs were stopping me from seeing it as a natural thing.

When I was in a conversation with a girl, I was very logical, talking to her like I would with a guy.

I'd talk about the weather, some news I just heard and even though sometimes I would get
a good connection with her, I wouldn't know how to turn that conversation into sexual.

Girls would often just put me in the friend zone (or as I often say, I put myself there in
the first place, they just agree on it), and my conversations would usually end with
me and the girl just being friends.

There was something lacking.

I knew I wanted more.

Later I discovered a whole new world of sexuality and sex, and I learned how
women talk about sex with their girlfriends.

I also learned that people who are OK with their sexuality, don't repulse people
by it.

They know how to express it in a way that makes people smile and laugh about it.

Once I learned about sexuality and how to accept it and express it, more and more
women were showing interest in me sexually after talking to them.

I wasn't put in the friend zone anymore, but women started flirting with me
and telling me stuff like, "I like to swallow..."

Lol.

Anyhow, I want to share with you the steps on how you too can accept, develop and
express your sexuality with women so you know how to turn them on and not be in
the friend-zone again.

My main message is this: There is a whole new world and a way of behaving
with women that most guys aren't aware of.


And there is a special way of expressing your sexuality that isn't repulsive or weird or anything
like that...but people enjoy it.

First, the basics.

Everything starts with what you BELIEVE about sex and women.

So let me ask you this:

> What do you believe about SEX?

Is it bad? Is it good? Is there something wrong with having it?
What were you taught about sex as a kid by your parents?
Is it natural? Is it dirty and full of sin? Should you wait untill marriage
to have it?

By the way, when you think about this, don't just be logical about it - look within
you to feel how you feel about it.

When you just think about the word SEX, what comes up? What emotion comes up?

Say this sentence right now:

"I think sex is OK and I'm totally comfortable with talking about sex with women."

Can you say this without feeling weird inside? Can you say this with total comfort
and casualness?

If you can't, here's what I want you to say often: "I ACCEPT my sexuality and the
sexuality of other people. I am OK with my sexual desires and the sexual desires
of other people".

I know, it's WEIRD. But it will help you get this area handled.

> What do you believe about a guy who expresses his desires for women?

Is there something wrong with him? Should he keep his desires private?
Do you get a certain image of a guy offering sex to women..and you feel
repulsed by it?

What is your inner world when you think about sexuality?

Explore this area for yourself. You want to come to a point where you don't
have any negative emotions connected to the idea of sex, but you FEEL natural
and at ease when you think about it.

> What do you believe women think about sex?

Do you believe they enjoy it, or just accept it as a necessary evil?
Do you believe they think about sex with guys often?

How do you believe they talk about sex with their girlfriends?

Are they SEXUAL?

If you were to a fly on the wall listening on a conversation between two girls who
talk about their sexual experiences, would you be surprised to hear stuff like:

"And then he took his cock out and it was HUGE...I mean, I got turned on just by
looking at it..."


And...

"I got so wet just by looking at his body..I mean, goshhh"

Women actually DO talk like that. They won't talk like that in front of you, because you'll
think they're dirty sluts, so they have to hide it.

If you don't believe me, ASK women about it, and see for yourself.

I always recommend you take some romance novels and you read couple of them.

Start with the latest best seller, 50 Shades of Gray.

Read through it, and you'll get access to exactly how women think about sex and men.

Really, it is an invaluable insight that will open up a whole new world to you.

I also recommend you go and find 3 guys who are comfortable with sex and with talking
sexual with women.

Then, sit close to them and listen. Observe how they talk with girls and how they take
that conversation to the sexual level.

Let me lay out the STEPS again:

Step #1: Deal with all of your limiting beliefs about sex and women

Step #2: Learn how women think about sex and their attitude towards sex.
Learn what turns women on.

Step #3: Find and hang out with 3 guys who you are sexually comfortable.

Step #4: Become more comfortable talking about sex with women and be willing to openly
turn the conversation to sexual, without feeling like you need to hide something.

How to Turn the Conversation into SEXUAL

Now let me share with you how to start a sexual conversation with women when
you are already having a nice and logical conversation.

For example, let's say you two are talking about what she does for a living.

And this conversation has been going on for couple of minutes, and now you're kind of
tired of it, and you want to talk a bit more sexual because you actually like her.

The secret to how you turn that conversation into a more sexual is through PLAY.

For example, she's talking about taxes that she does at work, and you look at her
and you say,

"Really, taxes? Yea that's gotta be hard for you from now on, I mean it's
kind of hard to focus on taxes when you think about me the whole time..."


This will shift the woman from that logical conversation (which she hates) to thinking,

"Hmm...I see this guy is not a logical tight ass after all, and he can actually be kind of fun..."

When you turn that logical, boring conversation and you spark it with something like this, you
bring life to SEXUALITY with women.

Note that this is only a beginning of sexuality. It is only a small fraction of the whole
picture, but it's a start.

From there on, you just increase the volume slowly.

So for example, you talk with her for couple of more minutes, and you say,

"You know I really enjoy talking with you and all, but it's kind of hard to talk to you
when I know you're stripping me in your head...it's getting really uncomfortable for me..."


Get it?

You have FUN and you TEASE the woman that she likes you.

You PLAY.

You can also give her a compliment, again through teasing.

For example, if you notice she has a great ass, and it's really obvious that it's nice, while you're having a
conversation you can say something like:

"You know it's really not fair...I'm here trying to be normal and all, but just can't focus on the
conversation because I keep looking at your tush...I mean, it's all round and nice, and you're
shamelessly waving it here...it's just not fair for me..."


So the thing is that you use HUMOR to tone down the "seriousness" of what you're saying.

Because you are basically saying to her "I like your ass and want to fuck it..."

But you ease the statement by saying it with humor and in a half-kidding tone.

As you get more and more comfortable with this, you can increase the amount of seriousness. In a while,
you'll be able to say to a girl "I want to take you home tonight..." with total composure and confidence.

So let's recap:

> To become sexually comfortable and able to express it, you need to first deal with your
beliefs about sex and sexuality
> To really get inside the sexual mind of women, read some romance novels. Start with 50 Shades of Gray.
> Spending time with guys who are already good with being sexual and expressing their sexual desires is the
fastest way to learn how to be sexually comfortable.
> Become incredibly comfortable with turning the conversation to sexual by using PLAY, HUMOR and TEASING

Your first step:

The very first thing you can do to become comfortable with your sexuality is to make a list of all the
beliefs you have about sex, and work on re framing them.

You can use my 360-degree belief destroyer, or some other technique for eliminating limiting beliefs.

You can also take advantage of my free "Sexuality with Women" coaching session in
which I'll work with you and:


> Teach you the exact steps of turning any conversation with a woman into sexual
> Eliminate your inner blocks like beliefs and shame about sex and sexuality with women
> Create a detailed 7 step process for becoming sexually confident man
> After the session, my PROMISSE is that you'll know exactly how to turn any conversation into a sexual and never again be put in the friend zone.

To get your "Sexuality with Women" coaching session, leave me a message on pm with

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And I'll get back to you in 2 days with all the details of your free session.

Ok, so I hope you got my main message today - that there is a whole new world of
sexuality that most guys aren't aware of, that is stopping them from getting sexual with
women.

Do the steps I mentioned, and I'll talk soon,

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HOW TO "FIND" YOURSELF

Hey, a while back (2009 lol) I wrote a post on the topic of how to "Find" yourself.

The post is here:

how-to-find-yourself-vt56353.html

The post received an amazing amount of positive feedback, and I think you
can benefit a lot from it.

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4 STEPS FROM MEETING TO GETTING HER NUMBER

Guys often tell me that their main problem with meeting women
is in that they don't really understand the steps for meeting women.

Mostly, they are in the dark about what are the STEPS from meeting
a girl to asking for her number or going out with her.

Over the course of a few years, I've reverse-engineered successful
approaches and meetings and discovered there are basically only
4 MAIN STEPS from meeting a girl to receiving her number.

Right now I want to share with you these 4 steps, and lay out in front of
you exactly how to meet women, so you can understand the simplicity
behind it.

By the way, I call these 4 steps The Simple Approaching Steps.

So I know there are a lot of methods out there, like the Mystery method,
the method of some of the guys on the forum here, but I'd like to offer
my own method which is much simpler to understand and follow.

And before I get fully into the 4 steps, let me just make a side not:

There is a quote that I really like, and it's about playing Jazz music.

It's says:

"Learn everything there is about music...then forget everything and just play"

- Jaco Pastorious (hope I spelled it right, lol)

And that is the attitude I want you to have as you're learning this.

Learn everything there is to know about meeting women, and when you do, put
all of that in your subconscious, don't think about it but just do it.

Your subconscious will give you what you need WHEN you need it. But if you
try to THINK about this and do it at the same time, you'll come off as
rigid and awkward.

I'll go deeper into this on other post, for now just keep that in mind
as you're reading this.

So, here are the 4 steps.

The only 4 steps you need to go through from meeting women to getting their
phone number are these:

Step #1: SAY SOMETHING

Step #2: KEEP SAYING SOMETHING

Step #3: PLAY

Step #4: LEAD TO THE NEXT LEVEL

Trust me, they are extremely simple and follow a natural course of events. There is
nothing un-natural or weird about them.

Let me explain each step one by one.

Step #1: SAY SOMETHING

The first step to meeting a girl is obviously to start a conversation with her.

To start a conversation, I discovered it's not necessary to memorize routines
or openers, but you can use a much more simplistic approach to this.

You only need to SAY SOMETHING.

You see, there are only 3 ways of starting a conversation by saying something with any girl.

They are:

1. Say or gesture HELLO
2. Make a COMMENT
3. Ask a QUESTION

So let's say you're walking down the street. You're minding your own business, and suddenly
you see HER.

And as she walks past you, she looks at you and you two have that what I call "Presence Moment",
where both of you acknowledge each other for existing.

At this point, let me ask you, what would be the natural thing to do?

To walk up to her and begin "Faze 1" of "Running an opener routine and in that demonstrating
higher value"...?

Or would the natural thing be to just Say Something?

Now let's use the 3 ways of saying something in this example.

You can say:

"Hi" (HELLO)

or

"What's up?" (QUESTION)

or

"That's a nice dress" (COMMENT)


Now that you said something, she looks at you and she SAYS SOMETHING BACK to you.

She says something like:

"Hi"

or

"Just walking, how about you?"

or

"Thanks."

Now I know what you're thinking: "But what if she IGNORES me??"

Let me say it like this: You haven't invested much in the conversation, so it DOESN'T MATTER.

If she ignores you or doesn't respond well, WHO CARES?

You just leave her and you move on to the next girl.

But in most cases you'll notice that women will say something back at you.


Ok, so now that you've said something, and she said something, it's time for the...


Step #2: KEEP SAYING SOMETHING


So how do you keep the conversation going? How do you, when she says something back
to you, not mess it up and stare at her in silence?

You learn how to keep saying something.

Here's a simple way of doing this:

Let's say she said hello back, what do you do?

It's fairly simple - going back to the 3 ways of starting a conversation, now that you've
said HELLO to her, you can jumpstart the conversation by either ask her a QUESTION, or
making a COMMENT.

So for example, when she says Hi back to you, you can say,

"What's up?"

Now, there is one belief that stops guys from using this.

It's the belief that "It can't be that SIMPLE".

I am here to tell you YES it CAN.

The only reason why you think this could be complicated is because people on the pick up forum
have told you that it's complicated.

Mystery said you have to go through 3 "Fazes".

Some other dude said something else.

The important thing is to keep it simple. If, when you start a conversation with a woman you
go into your head and you think about "O wait now I have to perform and do 332 different
things..."


You'll make it hard for yourself.

So keep it simple.

Ok, so let's continue.

At this point you just want to have a normal conversation. You can talk about what she's up
to today, about what she's doing out here today...and then about what she does for a living,
about where she goes to school...

So normal, BORING questions.

Now the reason why this works is because boring conversation actually isn't that boring - because
you both feel that initial excitement of having a conversation with each other.


You remember what I said about FEAR being your ally as it gives you energy and enthusiasm?

Well when you're going to have a conversation with a girl, you're going to feel fear - and
at this point, use that fear to give you that energy to not make the conversation boring.

So now you had a nice, logical and almost boring conversation, but to make this work, you need
another piece of the puzzle.

STEP #3: PLAY


This step of PLAY is all about how you go from just chit-chatting to actually making moves
with the girl
- and show her that you're not there really to just make friends.

In reality, this step is much more simpler than I'm making it sound here.

Here's the basic philosophy behind this PLAY:

> Girls are mostly emotional. We are mostly logical.

> When we start talking with a girl that we want to date, we try to be all logical.

> And that's cool at the beginning, but for a girl to actually like you, you need to show your
other side - the emotional side.

> The best way to show that you're not a logical tight ass is to PLAY with the girl.

> And play is very simply just NOT BEING SO DAMN SERIOUS around her.

So joking with her - not telling jokes - but joking with the girl.

Teasing her and accusing her how she's taking up your valuable time by talking to you
just because she wants to seduce you and date you.

Accusing her of checking out your ass and stripping you naked in her mind.

Being almost too comfortable with her and pretending she's your spoiled little sister.

In short, busting balls with her and not taking the conversation too seriously.

That's what PLAY step is all about.

So let me give you an example of how this works:

Let's say you're talking about the weather and how spring is the best season.

If you want to spice things up a little bit and create that spark and fun in your
conversation, all you need to do is to say,

"Yea I love spring. The only problem I have with it is that girls start talking to me
because they like me, but they don't know how to show it to me so they talk about
something totally else...like how much they love spring..."


OR

"Spring is my favorite season. I just love how love is in the air. The only problem
I have with it is when girls look at me but really they're stripping me in their
mind...I kind of feel uncomfortable when they do that..."


Or you two are sitting behind a table, and you take a napkin and you "stroke" her
with it in a playful manner.

"There, I won. I hit you first so I won."

In other words, in PLAY part, you show your inner boy. You do stupid, childish things
and you have FUN with it.

You show that you are just too comfortable with her, and that you don't really
take this conversation with her TOO seriously.


The main reason why this works is because attraction is created by POLARITY.

So you have the North Pole and the South Pole, and they create gravity on earth.

Ying and Yang create a whole.

White and Black, Dark and Light, Aggression and Tenderness...Asexuality and Sexuality...

To create that spark between you two, you need to PLAY with opposites.

So if you have a very serious conversation, you need to add non-serious part to it
to create that spark.

Make sense?

I'll talk about this in some other posts, for now let's go to the final step:

STEP #4: LEAD TO THE NEXT LEVEL

So the next and final step is to lead the girl to the next level.

You've said something, you've kept saying something, you've played with her... and now what?

It's obvious that it's time for you to take things to the next level.

But what exactly do you want to do?

> Do you want to get her number?

> Do you want to ask her out?


> Do you want to have an instant date with her right on the spot?

What do you want to do?

The most important thing to keep in mind when wanting to take things to the
next level is that YOU have to LEAD the way.

If you want her number, YOU need to LEAD it and say: "Give me your number".

If you want her to go out with you, you need to LEAD and say, "We should hang out
sometimes...do you want to go out with me?"


If you want her to have a cup of coffee with you immediately, you need to LEAD the way
and say, "Hey, I got like 15 minutes to spare, let's go and grab a cup of coffee right now..."

The worst thing to do is to try to make the girl responsible for making the next step.

You are "The Man", whatever that means, and you have to LEAD.

I want to encourage you to not be afraid, but "GRAB that the bull by it's horns" and take charge.

Don't be a puss, TELL the woman what you want with no SHAME, INSECURITY or pussy-footing
around her.

LEAD the way.

And lastly, let me repeat what I said at the beginning of this post:

"Learn everything there is to know, and then forget about it and just do it"

Keep these steps at the back of your mind, put them in your subconscious and don't
think about them as you're talking with a girl.

They will show up when you need them.

So there are the 4 steps from meeting to getting a girls number.

Let's recap:

> There are only 3 ways of starting a conversation: HELLO, QUESTION or COMMENT
> The way you keep saying something is by having a normal conversation with her
> The way you spark the conversation is through PLAY, which is not taking the conversation
too seriously
> You need to LEAD the girl to the next level, whether it be her phone number or asking her out
and not expect her to lead.

Your first step:

Again, let me hit you with a leg-up free session with me. I love helping guys get this area of their
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Now go practice these 4 steps with women, and remember - don't take this too seriously.

Learn it - and forget it.

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THE MOST ATTRACTIVE QUALITY IN A MAN

I want to ask you something:

We obviously know when a woman is attractive - slim, beautiful face, big tits, big lips, and
a curvy body.

It's about the OUTSIDE appearance.

So here's my question that I have for you:

As we judge women's attractiveness based on her LOOKS, do they judge guy's attractiveness
based on LOOKS too?

What do you think?

The answer is PARTLY.

Women DO judge guys based on their looks, on their status, on their money...but it is NOT
the deciding factor in whether or not you'll be considered ATTRACTIVE to women.

To women, money, how you look and your status is important, but the REAL key to being
attractive to women
is in how you FEEL on the inside.

In other words, it's your CONFIDENCE.

CONFIDENCE is the MOST attractive quality that a woman will see in a guy.

While for us it's all about how a girl looks on the outside, women are all about how you look
on the inside - and how you project that on the outside.

In other words, women give far more importance to how you FEEL inside yourself than in
how you actually look in terms of physical traits.

Think about it, have you ever seen a seemingly ugly guy with a really attractive girl, even
though he had no money or some other outside trait?

We all have. And we couldn't make any sense out of it.

I've studied this for a long time, and I discovered that there is something really MAGICAL about
this state of confidence that women are just drawn to.

Here's what a girl said to me about confidence:

"CONFIDENCE to us girls is like a nice rack to a guy"

When a girl sees a confident guy, it's like something pops in her head and she goes "Hot".

They get the same feeling about a confident guy that we get when we see a girl with an amazing pair
of legs and boobs walking down the street.

But here's my second question to you:[/b]

WHAT is confidence?

We all talk about it, but what is confidence exactly?

When I ask people about it, they usually give me answers like:

> Confidence is when you don't give a shit what others think but you just do what you want
> Confidence is when you can just be yourself no matter who you're talking to
> Confidence is not feeling insecure but you're just confident

In other words, nobody can clearly define what confidence is.

And the longer I though about it, the more I realized that the reason why
people couldn't define exactly what confidence is was because there were
2 types of confidence:

1. Confidence at the MOMENT
2. GENERAL confidence


Confidence at the moment is when you do something great and it makes you feel great.

You do something good at work, you crack a joke and people laugh or you just
do something that makes you feel proud about yourself.

It's the "Khm...yea, I did that" effect.

GENERAL confidence is feeling confident overall in your life. You're confident
about what you're doing in life, you're confident about your future, you're
confident about yourself as a person...

But has it ever happened to you that you saw a girl, and even though before that you
felt kind of OK with your confidence, at that MOMENT your confidence just vanished from
your body?


You suddenly transformed yourself into a bag of neediness, self-consciousness and insecurity.

It was because you didn't know how to pull up that confidence in the MOMENT.

It's kind of like seeing a girl in the club when she's all fixed up and dressed up, or
seeing her at 6am in the morning with a messed up hair in her pajamas and having
a bad breath.


She is attractive overall, but at that moment, she doesn't look that good. And she
isn't considered as attractive.

When you meet a woman, it's not about feeling GENERAL confidence in your life - it's
about feeling confident at the MOMENT when you are with her.

It's about what you SHOW to her in those first couple of minutes of meeting her.

So here's my point:

If you want to look attractive to women, learn how to show confidence in the MOMENT
with her, and later work on your general confidence.


The best way to show confidence in the moment, is to learn how to put yourself
into your confident STATE.

The secret is that you are in CONTROL over your state...and that you can feel
that way at ANY time you want - if you just learn how.

I won't go into detail about how to do this in this article, as that would
be too long - but you can click the link in my signature and I'll teach you how.

To your success,

Phantom

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MY PERSONAL WARNING: KEEP THIS IN MIND

I want to WARN you about something right now.

It's a warning that I wish I would get when I started learning stuff about
how to get better with women.

And it's a warning that can speed up your process of becoming good with this.

Here it is:

As you're learning to become good with women, as you're learning the inner
game and the outer game and all this other stuff...It's easy to take all of
this "too literally" and forget yourself.


As you can see, I'm putting a lot of effort into writting articles, answering
guys their questions and trying to help out, but I notice that sometimes
guys take this advice too far...and make it too literal.

In other words, they get so caught up in the "HOW" to do this, that they
forget to put themselves in the mix.

There's a really good quote that you probably heard me say before, and it goes
something like this:

"Learn everything you can about music...and then forget everything and just play it"

It's probably one of my favorite quotes, and it especially comes in place when
you're learning to meet women.

Because meeting women is an intuitive skill - meaning, when you learn
everything there is about it, you will be using your intuition to guide
yourself through it, not your head.

When you actually talk with a girl, you can't be thinking about are you being too logical,
are you being too serious or funny, do you look cool enough...are you breaking any of the
pick-up rules...

After you learn what you need to learn, so the steps of meeting women, you make a note
of that in the back of your mind, and you FORGET everything.

When you talk with a girl, you don't really bother yourself with all the rules...you let your
intuition show you the way.

Because our subconscious is a very powerful computer...and it will give you precisely what
you need WHEN you need it.

So FEED your mind with info, and then FORGET that info.

Remember that.

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MY PERSONAL WARNING: KEEP THIS IN MIND

I want to WARN you about something right now.

It's a warning that I wish I would get when I started learning stuff about
how to get better with women.

And it's a warning that can speed up your process of becoming good with this.

Here it is:

As you're learning to become good with women, as you're learning the inner
game and the outer game and all this other stuff...It's easy to take all of
this "too literally" and forget yourself.


As you can see, I'm putting a lot of effort into writting articles, answering
guys their questions and trying to help out, but I notice that sometimes
guys take this advice too far...and make it too literal.

In other words, they get so caught up in the "HOW" to do this, that they
forget to put themselves in the mix.

There's a really good quote that you probably heard me say before, and it goes
something like this:

"Learn everything you can about music...and then forget everything and just play it"

It's probably one of my favorite quotes, and it especially comes in place when
you're learning to meet women.

Because meeting women is an intuitive skill - meaning, when you learn
everything there is about it, you will be using your intuition to guide
yourself through it, not your head.

When you actually talk with a girl, you can't be thinking about are you being too logical,
are you being too serious or funny, do you look cool enough...are you breaking any of the
pick-up rules...

After you learn what you need to learn, so the steps of meeting women, you make a note
of that in the back of your mind, and you FORGET everything.

When you talk with a girl, you don't really bother yourself with all the rules...you let your
intuition show you the way.

Because our subconscious is a very powerful computer...and it will give you precisely what
you need WHEN you need it.

So FEED your mind with info, and then FORGET that info.

Remember that.
Is this actually true?
so what you are implying is that no matter what if you practice enough you will get good at game?
I seem to do better sometimes when i think and go back in my head for the basic concepts of game and conversation (im an introvert and kinda hate talking).


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Is this actually true?
so what you are implying is that no matter what if you practice enough you will get good at game?
I seem to do better sometimes when i think and go back in my head for the basic concepts of game and conversation (im an introvert and kinda hate talking).
Yea, that too. If you practice enough and at the same time work on yourself, you will get good
at game. No matter what.

But what I was aiming at with this is that you will, as you're learning this, have to go through
a period of just learning everything there is about game.

But at some point, you will know everything there is to know and conscious effort to talk to
women is going to block your real-personality.

So once you learn everything, forget everything - because then you can let go your
real personality out, and not feel like you're "pretending" to be someone you're not.

I hope this make sense.

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HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN AND NOT GET REJECTED

I did 1000+ approaches so far, and taught 100+ guys one-on-one on how to
successfully approach women. Here are the 14 lessons I've learned.


Before approaching

1. Make sure you are in a great state. Don't approach
women if you don't have the energy or are depressed.

A woman can feel your state. Women are much more in touch
with their intuition than guys. Before you go out, listen your favorite music.
Do pushups. Watch something funny.

Do anything to be in a higher-energy state.

2. Plan how you're going to end the conversation. When you know how
it will end, the anxiety is reduced. Put together a default line
to use when you end the conversation.

I like to use "Ok, it was nice talking to you. I gotta go back to my friends, bye."

Feel free to steal it.

3. Design how you will respond if the woman rejects you.
Knowing exactly what to do if she blows you off will
make you more relaxed. The irony is, it will reduce the
chances you'll get rejected.

Plan your rejection response in detail. Your face expression, your body
movement, your thoughts and feelings. Rehearse it in front of the
mirror. Trust me, it works.

4. Read the situation before you approach. If she's having
a very intense conversation with her friend, don't approach.
Pick an appropriate moment to approach her, like when she's
looking around bored.

Approaching

4. Approach with confidence. Walk determined, erect.
Hold strong eye contact. Smile at the start, but then
drop the smile. Avoid laughing nervously like a gitty
little girl. Don't figdet.

5. Say "Hi" with strong and determined voice. Make yourself
be heard. Assert yourself and demand attention. Don't
pussy foot around her. Say, "Hi, what's up?" and smile with
confidence.

6. If she tests you with "O I'm waiting for someone..." don't
buckle.
Stay persistent and say, "That's OK, I won't linger."
Women are attracted to that kind of confidence if done right.
Remember, combine everything I mentioned so far to make this work.

Talking

7. Don't try to hold her in a conversation. This will make you
seem needy. Be unattached to her staying there or not.

Project this belief, "I would love you to stay, but if you have to go, go"
Emotionally let her go and be completely OK with her leaving.

8. Expect her to invest energy too. Don't try to do all the
work, you'll come across as pressured. It's a dance and it
takes two to tango.

9. Observe something about her and make a comment
about it.
If she has a great energy, say, "I love your energy,
you seem like a really outgoing person..."


10. Be present with her and don't get stuck in your head. Relax,
enjoy the conversation with her.

11. Be who you really are, don't pretend to be something you're not.
If you're more serious, be serious. If you're funny, be funny.

But don't try to be funny just because you think you have to be
funny. Remove the pressure from yourself that you have to be
someone you're not.

Ending the conversation

12. When you feel the conversation is at it's high point, end it and
get her number. Don't wait untill it dies out to ask for her number.

13. If she says, "I have a boyfriend", tell her that's OK, but that
he's probably not your type and you'd preffer her number. Give
her your phone and say, "Put your number in".

14. Walk away with confidence, just like you've approached. Don't start
celebrating untill you're behind the corner. That will make you look like just
lame, and when you call, she won't respond.

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5 BIGGEST FEARS OF APPROACH ANXIETY

When it comes to Approach Anxiety, there are 5 main fears
that stop most guys from approaching women.

I want to share with you these 5 fears and tell you what you
can do to remove them.

FEAR #1: She's going to REJECT me

The first fear that guys have about approaching women is
the fear that the girl is going to reject them.

They have an image in their mind of a woman just blowing them off
and saying something like "Get lost you loser!"

The reality is that most women are NOT looking to violently reject
and humiliate a guy.

Sure, there may be one in a 1000 of them
out there, but it's probably because her daddy didn't
love her enough so she's stressing on other guys.

Most of the time, if a girl doesn't like you or doesn't want to talk
to you, all she'll do is POLITELY say "You seem nice, but I have to
go"
.

No rejection.

No violence.

Women are actually extremely nice, and they want to think of
themselves as nice.

So relax when it comes to the rejection thing. It's probably not
going to happen the way you imagine it.

FEAR #2: She's going to think "Who is this CREEP??"

The second fear I always hear guys say to me is they think when they
approach a girl, that she's going to turn around, give them a weird
look, like "who is this creep"
look and run away.

I think every guy has a creep inside of him. Period. And I think we
are all scared to death of ever looking like one. We are afraid
of ourselves.

The reality is, you will only look like a creep if you think of yourself
as a creep.
If you give yourself the frame of "I'm weird and approaching
her is weird"
then that is how she'll perceive you.

But if you give yourself a different frame, like "I am a normal guy with
normal desires and I want to meet this woman because I like her..."


...And you make it OK with yourself before you walk up to her, than
that is how you'll be perceived.

FEAR #3: Her BOYFRIEND is going to beat me up

In all of my years of approaching women, going out, and observing other guys
approach women, I don't remember seeing somebody beating up somebody else
for talking to his woman.

If the girl had a boyfriend, and some other guy approached her, most of the time
once the guy figured she had a boyfriend, he would just shake his hand and say
something like "Great girl, enjoy" and leave.

If you approach a girl and she ends up having a boyfriend near, if the boyfriend
shows up, just say,
"O this is your girl? Great girl man, enjoy together"...and leave.

FEAR #4: Other people are looking and I will EMBARRASS myself

One of the things I keep saying to guys is that people, overally, DON'T CARE about
what other guys do.


Most people are so caught up in their own imaginary problems that they really
don't have time to deal with your imaginary problems.


And if it happens sometimes that somebody does look at you as you start a conversation
with a girl, and it doesn't go well with her, do this one trick:

Involve other people in the story.

If she blows you off, and you see some people watching, turn to them and say, "She doesn't
want me...says I'm too pretty for her...could you imagine the nerve?"


And make a fun thing out of it. You will make others laugh, and the girl will probably laugh
as well.

FEAR #5: I won't know what to SAY AFTER I approach her

The constant fear of not knowing what to say - of getting stuck in your head and having
"Brain Stuck".

I know the feeling. But frankly, if you want to overcome this fear, learn to make a conversation
with people.

If you're lacking in social skills, that's going to show in your conversations with women. It is
hard to be good with women if you don't have normal social skills.

So spend some time studying social skills. Learn to make a conversation. Use my
technique "FreeFlow" and remove your anxiety of talking to women (I think the link is in
the signature).

I always encourage guys to take up some IMPROV classess. In improv, they basically teach you
how to improvise and create a conversation out of nothing. You can check some free online
resources for improv, but nothing beats it like a real experience with other people.

So these are the 5 main fears of approach anxiety. Work on them, and you'll be approaching
like a charm.

Good luck!

Phantom

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Requirements:
>You have to be over 21 of age
>You're not comfortable approaching women
>You are serious about eliminating it

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