| So, I've been applying meditation, mindfullness and a positive mindset to my life the last couple of years. Pickup got me into a broad range of self improvement, and improving my attitude towards life has done wonders for my health, my career and my social circle.
Lately, I have noticed some drawbacks to this:
1. I keep developing and never stop to try and improve myself. The problem is however, that there are almost no people around me (partents, sibllings, friends, family, collegues, etc.) that have the same mindset. I begin to notice that they are "standing still"or being who they are, but I keep changing and developing into something what I think is a better me. I actually stopped seeing some friends, because they simply stay stuck in stuff like alcoholism, crappy relations or other negativity. These guys slow me down and I simply don't feel the vibe of kinship I had before. One the one hand I am glad that these factories of negativity have ceased to slow me down, but at the other hand I miss the old times of being together in the same phase of life and same way of thinking.
2. My open way of communication has invited a lot of close people around me to start sharing their problems with me. Even my mother, whom I respect mostly, has now bombarded me into one of her primary emotional advisors. Some of my toughtest coolest friends, now feel comfortable enough to cry in my presence and share their deepest fears and thoughts with me, because they know its safe and treated with wisdom and care. This didn't seem like a drawback at all, until a few weeks ago, where a friend shared a story of sexual abuse with me. I realized I had been confronted with a lot of darkness and evil the last couple of years. Simply because people trusted me and felt safe to confide in me. I advised everybody to the best of my knowledge, but I also had to tell some of these people to go see a shrink. This was not easy and I noticed that sometimes peoples problems started to "infect" my mind. It would kind of shock me to see how insecure someone could be about their own body for instance, and this would make me insecure as well. Almost as if I 'auto-copied" the behaviour. This actually slowed down my progress on several occasions. Sometimes severely.
3. The women. I have seem to have developed a pattern of drawing in emotionally unstable and metally abusive women. The relationships start of nice and passionate, but before I know it, I am a bodyguard, accountant, bank, psychiatrist, father and career advisor at the same time. I seem to combine a attractive and confident alpha frame with a hypersensitive and caring beta male attitude. Very strange and this attracts the weirdest chicks. My love life has been a complete emotional roller coaster going from heavy passion to dark emotional misery. This has totally wore me out emotionally and I have decided to start including more mental demands into my dating game.
Has anyone noticed these drawbacks to personal growth? I figured I should keep growing as a person, but keep more distance, try to be more of a general, then a commander in the field so to speak. I can't carry the weight of the world any more and when it comes to a girlfriend, I am now focussing on getting a girl that has te same outlook in life and takes care of her own baggage, like I do.
If someone has some interesting experience, comment or advice. Please share it with me.
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