Friends, im gonna go out of a limb here, and put my dignity on the line. the reason for this is quite simple. im 29, and simply, i havent got my shit together. i've been reading PU material and been "attempting" things for 3 years with average success. sure i get laid, and get hookups. but not at the rate i should, and my aim to have a girlfriend is so damn hard. i dont want one because thats not what would make me happy, but its something that would add to my fun.

i have realised a few things. i am insecure and have very low self belief and esteem.
the guys that make PU work like magic are the guys that have their inner game handled. i dont think you can have it 100% secure because throughout life, you will get tested, so if you think some witty pickup line is gonna patchup deeper issues, then be prepared to spend a long time on a thread without getting laid.

i've narrowed down my issues here and it really struck me realising that im suffering from these issues.

im somewhat sensitive than other people
grew up with shitty parents that abused
got bullied, have major emotional issues and psychological problems
have self limiting beliefs and absolutely zero socialization when growing up.

im currently studying David Deangelo's Deep Inner game. has anyone sofar had any success with this? im so hungry to make a change in my life so any help will be much appreciated

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

Hey,

I made this switch pretty quick after i got into pick up. Get into self development it is close related to inner game. My vision is that you first need to handle yourself to be good at this and allot of other things in life.
Here is a list of things that helped me

RSD (Real social dynamics)
Eckart Those
Allan Watts
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thats the thing man, my age is really kicking me up the arse. for the love of me i cant settle for girls my age. they appear boring and tbh, if you find one thats atleast a 7, you know shes a 10. id much rather focus on 9's and 10s that are younger.

the learning period is the pain period tbh. i cant help but to feel frustrated that im not making true solid progress at the moment

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

First issue: STOP RATING WOMEN.

If you are giving women a "value" then you're already fucked on the inner game front. This means you are constantly creating values for women that you feel you must meet up.

You want a girlfriend you say but it sounds as though you like the concept of having them and fucking them, it doesn't sound like you actually like them. If you can't find a sexy as fuck 29 yr old woman who is so much hotter than 20 yr old women you're meeting women in the wrong spots. Not to mention the maturity, sex, intellect, tend to be better ime. Seeing a 29 yr old bar/club woman is going to be more beat up from long term tear from that lifestyle.

I can help with inner game, if you'd like more info pm me. I'm getting ready to start taking on students for inner game.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Just another guy from back in the day.

Blogging again living life: http://www.Scienceofnaturalgame.com

Hey, I am similar age and in a similar situation. What I try to watch out the most is be positive at all costs. Watch positive comedies, laugh, have fun. Avoid negativity.

Make sure you decide you are now responsible for your life. Do not fall into the trap of thinking it is determined by your past. Surely we all are products of our experience but it is changeable. Make sure you have positive experiences, make sure you focus on them and not pay too much attention to failures.

Take a look at sturdycrow/com/resources/things-i-wish-i-i-learned-earlier by RSD Jeffy. He had a lot of rage inside him, he talks about not perfect childhood and being filled with rage. He has written a book as well on how he changed his life. You might relate to that.

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All best!
ppderek

I both agree and disagree with this. You are right in the sense that rating women is a self-limiting belief which makes guys treat HB10's differently and put them on a pedestal. However, if you don't rate women at all, you will end up getting into a mindset that harming your reputation by fucking horrible fat old sluts with acne is ok. So it's a tough one. Instead of HB7 or HB10 etc., I prefer a binary code of either "I" or "0" = "Would Bang" or "Would Not Bang".

Hey, you'll do fine buddy.

I had a really bad childhood, parents and all. Didn't grow up with a really good social environment. I basically grew up an introvert. A really really depressed one.

But I've found you can conquer sadness and anger. Just. Have. Fun.

What I always do when I'm feeling down and engulfed with mitigated speeches, all I do is imagine a 50 foot statue of myself out there. And then I notice that I smile. And when I notice that, I'm fucking happy as hell!

That 50 foot statue, that.. That's your ego. And it's so huge it could squash anyone around it, even your boss. (Haha)

And to be honest, don't worry about age. Ross Jeffries is fucking old and ugly. You don't have to pick up women your age. (Where do you do all your pick up anyway) Age is nothing. All that matters is how you carry your game. And I know that you'll do fine

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"Don't try to change who you are. Don't even think you're not good enough right now. You ARE good enough being who you are. Women can smell a fake man the same way you can smell cheesecake."