Evening guys,

Since I was 13 I have pretty much always had a girlfriend (1-2 months in between) all the way up to now. All the relationships were sexual. For years I was the only one in my friendship group to have a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend didn't make me see my mates any less, just wanted to clear that up. Whenever I spoke to females I was fine, a little shy at first but nothing major. However I was never interested in girls as I had a girlfriend which at the time I thought was good looking, smart ect.

In college I messed up big time and sacrificed a lot of my social time at college with my girlfriend at the time. This meant I barely met any girls and just kept my social group I had from school.

To make it clear, with all the girlfriends I was the one to end it.

Now that im 19 and been single for a year I am finding it really hard to get into the dating scene. I find that im very anxious when approaching girls or even speaking to them as im not use to it at all. I know that im good looking and I have done a lot of travelling and have a lot to talk about. I just worry about how they are judging me while im speaking and that I dont portray myself to what I am and under cutting myself.

I find girls hard to make conversation with. Even when I know its them thats being boring I blame myself. All im doing at the moment is making my self-esteem less and less.