Keep looking bro..

You'll find a woman that will appreciate you one of these days. And hopefully one that will live up to your expectations.

In the meantime, try to keep the vast majority of them you come across in perspective. And force yourself to see them for what they are. Short term prospects, with potential.

And remember, the idea of them that you have in your mind often isn't the reality of who they really are at that moment in time. It's just an ideal you're projecting on whatever woman happens along. So in reality, you're not in love with this woman, you're in love with what you have convinced yourself she represents.

And she can't be.., what she aint.

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I think you should date multiple women at once, and sarge daily. This will show you the true world of women and eliminate the pedestal you have put them on.

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All grls want is to be loved by as many boys as possible.

This is cool man i guess you have met alot of INTERESTING ladys haha im playing around i think all you need to do is learn how to please a woman and see what the like. So you can keep them coming back to you.

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While Want-it-ititus(sp) is not such a bad thing and indeed you may feel like you can end the state by dating the said gal. That TOTALLY misses the point.

In every relationship, there are two people and it becomes a power struggle for who is in control of the relationship. Women use their attractiveness as Weapons of Mass Seduction and though you may end up dating her, you are actually the weaker partner.

Let me explain: You have this addiction and it like an addiction cause it can clouds your judgment. You'll find that over time you conceed more and more control of the relationship to her until you are no longer the PRIZE challege. As a result, she shift her interest to another.

Avoiding Wantitus (sp) doen't mean don't fall in love etc but means that one must understand that relationships are power struggles in a positive manner.

Just my thoughts

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Oneitis is pretty bad, oneitis usually occurs at early stages of PUA when an rAFC or AFC becomes besotted...and i really hate when people give advice like GFTOW(go fuck ten other women),
if the person is an AFC im pretty sure they won't have the skills to fuck ten other women.

Oneitis is like a plague...it just restricts game to the max...and you have no drive in pursuing other women

Yeah, I fall in love constantly at first site. In fact EVERY LOVE OF MINE has been at first site. I believe it's real because at least with me it's rare...

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A few tips that got me out of that thinking, but it might not work for all:
1. the very questionable morals taught by silly romance movies brainwash us all, so we subconsciously think we're evil if we don't do a suicide-one-itis-self-destruction-mission rather than using PUA thinking. Learn to discover in yourself when this brainwashing is affecting your mind. Do some suffocate-feminism-morality actions to cleanse yourself from those morals. They're not morals, they're repression. Morals is to abide by the PUA rules: to have a good time and make her have one to!

2. if you're still convinced subconsciously that feminist morality taught by mass media is right, then here's a logical proof why it isn't, and if you're any into logics/mathematics, you'll know what it meansto have a proof like this: assume you truly love this one girl, but are struck by one-itis and anti-PUA thinking. Then you WILL fail at creating any LTR with her. The result being, that you'll hurt both yourself and her. And then the assumuption that you truly cared for her turns out to be a contradiction because you deliberately hurt yourself AND her when you could have avoided it, which by logic means we have proven the initial assumption wrong.

3. love is an excuse we often use for not being successful PUAs. It's also taught subconsciously by mass media brainwashing. It's like you think "because i love her so much, i should deserve to get her, even if i don't make myself worth it". Thinking that way is incredibly self-destructive. No, go out and PUA her all the way home to daddy! That's at least what I will start doing now!

4. if you feel something like "I gotta have this one girl I'm dating now and failing would be so horrible", you're probably dating above your level. Start out on lower levels. Always try playing on a level so low that there are MANY more women available for you on that level, than the inverse ratio of your success closing rate. What that means is that you should always play on a level where you can be sure of statistically getting SOMEONE eventually, so that failure doesn't matter. Playing too high with too few viable options, makes you care too much about not losing. And that's the best way to lose. Rise in level when you're ready, and not before that. Simply, avoid the women you fall in love with in such a way as you describe.

I'm still a noob at pickups and stuff but I'm unfortunately all too experienced with fighting against one-itis, so these are tips I think I can actually contribute with at this time. If nothing else happens, try GFTWO or watching some ****, to get your mind off her. If it's still on her, then it means you're probably still exerting harmful self-suppression.

a girl to love, is the girl that actualy betters your game, a real hardcore women, that you really earn, and will stay, becuase she wants strong partnership, like a busniess. ..but some one-tis can occur aswell with these types, when you start slacking, relaxing, not being a MAN, and you cant afford to do this around these types, cos they dont slack, and yes they have game too. so you have to keep topping up your game, and make 'your' 'busniess' stronger, afterall she deserves it. this is the love girl. the one you stick with.

also this is quite irronic, i improve and nurture my game for the good of my girl (and us, our relationship) imagen a women hearing that as an excuse lol.

Dude, been there done that MANY times. For every hot girl you see out there you'll see a better one PROVIDED you keep your eyes open. My problem in the past has been I get oneitis and REFUSE to see the other women around. Even as recent as last Friday when I number closed a HB8+ I honestly was smitten by her and was quite depressed when I blew my phone game and she stopped returning my txts. Then today I went out and approached 3 other women and I didn't think about her again.

good posts guys.


I've been struck with one-itus quite a few times in the past, and i came up with a solution that seems to work pretty well for me.

if you're a PUA, or even a rAFC, you'll know when you've been stricken with the plague known as one-itus. and even if you don't pick up on it. you're PUA/rAFC friends/wingmen should. once you realize this, theres only one thing to do. delete her number/email/whatever. forget it. she might be an HB10, and cool as fuck, but what she's doing to you and your game makes it not worth it. theres other HB10's out there. forget this one. whether or not you might salvage an LTR out of it, she already has the control, and she knows it... the pace has already been set for your entire relationship with this girl.

This is the only fool-proof way i have come up with. every time i tried to salvage something out of it, the one-itus was just perpetuated.

feedback?

thanks guys, and good luck sargin

Re: falling for a girl you've just saw or met. Much of the excitement is just the newness of it and often its not that she is really all that special. Most people seem great on the outside until you get to know them better and then you realize they have their flaws like everyone else.

Re: one-itis - can be for a new girl or an old girl, but it basically entails ignoring other girls

love - sacrificial or truly unselfish goodness or giving to someone - does not necessarily lead to one-itis

falling in love - difficult to define, my definition is changing over time, still trying to figure it out

Read Araby by James Joyce. Deals with this subject.

Its a short story too.

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I once had one-itis with this girl. early on in the relationship (we were just friends but i had strong feelings) i didnt make an emotional connection and so she LJBFed me, we carried on being friends and the feelings returned and i thought i was in love with her (i still do think i was) and so i had to tell her and we stopped talking for a day so i could think things through, and that was the worst day of my life, i felt completely empty. Strangely enough my feelings disappeared and we are now best friends. Very strange...

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hey man i can help with you here i mean the reson why you keep losing them is probably because of this fact that you fall in love for the girl it is probably to quick and it may seem needy, this something women dont want, i would say keep on playing it cool when your with them if you feel your emotions taking over just hide them play the game right and then slowly tell her that your falling in love but dont declare your lobe for her straight away this is weekness and the women will be able to pick this out if they dont love you back. good luck man and i would suggest reading gary brodski.

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