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Poetic I have another question that has been in my mind for a long time.
A lot of the times I will see a set of girls I want to approach, I'll towards them and try and make eye contact. When I'm starting to get close (10 feet or so) they just look down on the ground and continue walking. This makes me nervous and feel rejected.
I know I'm a good looking guy so maybe I'm intimidating them? What should I do if that's the problem?
Sometimes at parties a girl will come in say Hi to everyone and just walk passed me with her head down. Then later when shes really drunk shell try and kino me hardcore and be all over me..
This problem has been in my head for so long please give me your opinion!
If they are looking down it is a sign of submission. Are they looking back toward you within a few minutes? If you have been afraid than you may not be paying attention to see whether they look back repeatedly. This is a huge sign.
How close are they walking by you? If someone walks past you multiple times they may be attracted to you, just to nervous(just like you) to talk to them. We tend to walk past or find a way to be noticed by people when we are attracted to them. Girls do things on purpose more often than you think, sometimes they bump into you on "accident".
Are they smiling at all? Even a slight grin? Sometimes that is the only thing they do, in other cases they may be freezing up giving you the shy girl. They may even be turning their head. Are they looking away after they make eye contact?
Are they adjusting their clothes, jewelry, or hair? Is there preening of any sort. I have noticed a lot of girls will pull their shirt down straightening it. Sometimes they will snag their jewelry or even just move their hair. Push it behind their ear, move it across their forehead, or just move their hand down a strand of hair. Some cases they may even just fix their hair entirely. Look for some form of adjustment in their appearance.
Sounds as if you may just be a little to good looking for your own good. Girls maybe getting shy around you my friend. Sounds as if you may need to open up your body language.
Make your self even more approachable. If you start having a bit more fun than you will become easier to approach. Make sure your smiling a little when you make eye contact. I prefer to smile at a girl and raise my eye brows. Sometimes I have a slightly turned down head while I look up at them(pretty charming look actually).
Don't feel rejected until you go over and genuinely get rejected. You need to just go talk to them. Worst that can happen is you move on. She may not realize she likes you YET. It is time you go over and let her know she does like you.
Remember you are looking for a cluster, that can be any combination of things that I have mentioned through out the thread. So you maybe focusing on one thing too much. It takes a VERY LONG TIME to make understanding body language naturally. I am still not perfect and miss signs here and there. You just need to be far more aware of things.
Today I was at work a girl was waiting in line I was aware of her hair adjustment when she was looking at me waiting in line. I seen her tip her head down. Then I was helping her, she showed several signals after that. This was what I noticed out of the corner of my eye, it made me Aware of her.
I don't think you need to do much but go after them my friend. Girls aren't looking over you or down their nose at you. They are submitting to you when they look at the ground. Just look for the little preens here and there. Look to see where their feet are pointing, their torso, and especially look for the double take, where they look back to see you again. I don't know how much more you want to elaborate, but keep asking man.
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