Let’s start this off by a simple question – when it comes to women, what first impression would you like to make?
- The Stylish one?
The Rich guy?
The Best Friend Forever?
The Sexy one?
As we are having this discussion in a seduction forum my guess would be “the sexy one”, right?
Because from the start it would be obvious that you’re a sexual man, who doesn’t judge people (neither women nor men) for being sexual, which in turn makes it more likely that women will open up to you.
Furthermore, when women have this impression and decide to approach you it’s not because they want you to entertain them or buy them a drink. Instead they are there to figure out if you have what it takes to take them home.
Fair enough so far?
Then question comes to mind – why, oh, why so many men insist on trying to look like they are about to meet her parents, or go overboard with edgy/attention grabbing stuff and look like lame mascots.
I would like to think that people in general are actually quite smart and they make such mistakes not because they enjoy making interactions with women more difficult and less sexual, but instead it’s a simple case of misinformation and lack of awareness what signals their image sends.
What It Means To Dress Sexy
Let’s start with an easy example:
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Here we have two very beautiful blondes and even though we could argue whole day which one is prettier, etc. It’s unmistakable that blonde in the first picture dressed “sexy” and the dress in second picture is more about being “pretty/stylish”.
What would happen if the girls exchanged the dresses, same story – the woman in the white dress will always be considered (by most) to have the “sexy” image.
Now, let’s take a step back – when you look at those two pictures, what assumptions pop into your head?
Personally, I find the woman in the second picture to be more attractive, for some reason a date with a glass of wine pops into my head. But when I look at the first picture there’s only one thought – SEX. As in, I don’t care about what and where, but I know I would like to ravage her!
Would be interesting to hear what’s on your mind, share, don’t be shy
Now here’s a kicker, everyone makes assumptions like these and yes, especially women
In other words, within moments she notices you; she will have made tons of different assumptions about who you are. And wouldn’t it be great to naturally for into the “SEX” category? How much easier it would whole further interaction?
One last note here,
As you’re looking at the “sexy woman”, do you care how much her dress cost? Do you care if she has a car? Would you give a second thought about her cool hobbies and other DHVs? Does it matter to you what’s her status?
No, no and no!
Now, I’m sure the following will get a lot of hate, but this needs to be said – when it comes to purely short-term sexual relationships WOMEN DON’T CARE EITHER
All that other stuff only starts to matters if you initially fall into “maybe fuckable” category in her mind and you must move from maybe to a “yeah.. alright, I needed some sexing anyway”.
Or, in most cases, when the woman has some other hidden agenda from the start: maybe she’s looking for a boyfriend, wants you to buy her stuff or simply shower her with attention.
In other words, after a certain point if your image signals qualities like status, financial stability, etc. you are moving away from “Ravage me tonight!” territory and into “You should totally meet my parents” one.
Note here: there is a threshold to be met, in other words if you look like an actual bum, there will be problems
I mean that’s obvious, right?
What It Means To Dress Sexy For A Man
Now let’s take a look at another example,
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Once again we have two really good looking people, just this time, men. Both could easily get laid based on looks alone and yet the two images a very different. So let’s see, can you intuitively guess which one is the “sexy one”?
Hopefully it’s as obvious for you as it is for me – the bottom one. But I don’t like dealing in opinions, so let’s go through main steps what makes his image sexy:
- From the top – Facial Hair – women very one-sidedly have reported that for sexual encounters and short term-dating prefer men with short beards or stubble. For long-term relationships – clean shaven men.
Thick casual jackets vs Leather Biker jacket - studies show that for sexual encounters women look for masculine (risk taking, dominance, rebellious behavior – qualities associated with high T and, in turn, masculinity) men and stability, socially safe behavior for relationships. Naturally, leather jacket gets a sexy point here.
Thick materials in the first picture hides guys superior physique, on the other hand, in the second picture slim, well-fitted pieces emphasizes developed shoulder/chest area and near perfect shoulder-to-waist ratio.
As I am a new member I cannot actually set links to sources (studies/articles/research), so you’ll have to take word on the analysis or just pm me and I’ll send you the links, if you want to read more.
One more thing to notice here, notice neither picture has “peacocking” pieces? That’s because “LOOK AT ME!!!” is needy and NOT SEXY.
I’ll probably write another thread soon, to explain in more detail why peacocking as a concept is ineffective and, in many cases, hurt your chances.
One last disclaimer I need to put here: when talking about what women find sexy, we are talking about statistical majority – yes, there are women who find nice looking guys to be “the sexy ones”, just as there are men who prefer obese women, so you can’t appeal to everyone, but you can increase your chances to drop into “sexy” category by following the rules of what women find visually attractive for sexual encounters.
- Based on your image women will form opinions about you and treat you based on that initial impression
“Dressing sexy” and “dressing well” are not mutually exclusive but still very different.
You don’t need to “peacock” to fall into “SEX” category.
When you’re after ONS/short-term dating and from first impressions drop into “ravage me!” category in a woman’s mind, you can forget about DHV’ing/Status/etc.
There are rather universal rules what defines “sexy” image and they are based on what women prefer for sexual encounters and short-term dating and not long-term dating.
Your Image Will Impact What People You Attract