Hi im working my body language around people, women in particular.

Im fairly tall guy, but I think i naturally walk a little hunched (im really not sure). However im told, as soon as i approach women, i just subconciously drop my shoulders down, and look a bit nervous. I think the reason why I am subconciously doing this is because it has become a habit. I used to be very shy and nervous around girls. I had a few girls I talked to but obviously because of my inexperience I was in the friendzone. Lately Ive been changing myself, ive got the appearance, and a bit of the verbal stuff sorted out.. but i know body language, is what ties it in all together. Recently ive been looking at the bigger picture... not using this site or resources to get laid... but to build a better person out of me, one that stands out amongst my circle of friends.

Does anyone have any links or references like videos, on showing people how to walk confidently. How to use their body to communicate, etc ?

Anything would be much appreciated...

Here is a link to the play list of my alpha male video series(18 parts), at the beginning of the video I talk about how alpha is really just confident body language.

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL ... ature=plcp

Here is a link to an article I wrote on Confident (alpha) body language:

http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/03 ... tive-male/

-Basically you want symmetrical body language
-Shows confidence in your shoulder width and holding them high but relaxed
-A wider stance is good but if you are tall I recommend a narrower stance so you seem less threatening
-Hold your head high, don't look at your toes Your chin/jaw should be parallel to the ground
-Have good posture- your spinal chord should be extended as high as possible, this will make you look younger, slimmer, healthy, and more athletic, basically more attractive
-Smiling is the most attractive face you can have(well until sexual tension begins)
-Illustrators make you look both relaxed and more charismatic, they also take up space
-A slight head turn can be a small submissive sign that presents nonthreatening body language
-Make sure you make strong eye contact with people, this is a sign of confidence
-Keep your feet facing outward so you don't look pigeon toed


Remember you have to consciously change your body language until it becomes habit, your current body language is years and years of habits. So every time you go through a door frame, every few minutes remember to straighten your body language. You'll have to consciously do this for a while until you don't have to think about it.

Rather than just worrying about it around the girl be sure to make sure when she comes around your body language is no different, a big sign of confidence is that no one changes your frame or body language, if you have it all the time she sees before you noticed her that you just are that guy rather than a pretender.

As far as when a girl does come around make sure to straighten up rather than hunch down consciously do it so you know that you are maintaining good body language.

Ask away if you have anymore questions.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Do you like bond films? 007 has fantastic body language that radiates confidence. You can practice that posture and gestures in front of a mirror/camera.

Your body "language" subconsciously communicates your state of mind. Recall a time in your life when you felt incredibly confident. Vividly visualize and relive that experience. Do you feel a change in your posture?

Fortunately, it works both ways - your posture can change your state of mind just as your mind can affect your posture.

poeticlyskuac gave you a great guide to follow. You may want to run through it often and BEFORE you get into an interaction. Imagine keeping all that in your head while trying to listen intently and observing the body language of your partner. My left temple begins to throb just thinking about it....

Since you realize what you need to work on, your progress should be quick. Keep us posted.

Al

Thank you soo much, really appreciate this

Just look at this youtube video of Saturday Night Fever;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okpCx87orOA

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