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First, Gambler is right - rejection hurts. It's the main reason we fear the approach: being shut down in an embarrassing way, not knowing what to say, having an awkward moment, and ruining your chances with anyone watching you fuck up. But dealing with rejection is an important part of a pua's development. Telling yourself, as skywalker says, that "rejection is nothing as all girls are disposable!" is an essential internalization.
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However, what actually excites me about Gambler's little write-up is that it is an answer to the paradox of opening. You want to DHV, communicate disinterest, etc. But by not approaching and opening in the traditional way, you can have all of the confidence in the world, but to your target, you're no different than the losers and AFCs who are too afraid to say anything. But byy approaching and opening, you give away some of your power and value to her, while simultaneously trying to convince her that YOU are better than HER. That is something that has always bothered me, but that I haven't read much commentary on until now.
Stop letting it bother you. Dont give a fuck about DHVing yourself. High value guys knows their high value, they dont worry about demonstrating it. Second, why communicate disinterest? A girl know sthat if your talking to her, you are interested in some level. Third, how do you give away power by just approaching and opening her? I'm the chooser. If I don't like her I walk away and give some other woman the lucky chance to be with me. I still have the power. Next, I'm not trying to convince that her that I'm better than her. My only focus is to have fun. I'm not out to prove anything.
Reframe stuff and it wont bother you.
Everything you said completely goes against what PUA is.
You have no idea what you are talking about - instead, stop giving false information to the posters here, and, rather, learn something from people who know what they're talking about and THEN try to help people.
One of the worst things you can do is teach false information.
Not only does that set people back, but it's worst than if they had not known it all at!
1) You have to show her how good you are, if you're rich and nobody knows it - who cares?
2) Don't DIRECTLY say you're great, EMBED them into DHV spikes in stories or in speaking.
3) "If you're Alpha people will just know it" This is completely wrong, you somewhat convey Alphamale characteristics through actions and words.
4) If you convey disinterest, she'll want to convey interest more because she's fighting for you back. She may SUBCONCIOUSLY know you're interested in her, but if you show her conciously that you're not that
5) You're not trying to convey superiority - you just want to be the guy that makes her days better and you want to increase your value. Nobody should be BETTER than each other in a relationship - nobody wants to feel inferior.
6) On the contrary, when you approach a girl, your value is lowered. YOU HAD TO APPROACH HER, therefore you're lower value. This is why you're trying to gain attraction and value through stories.
Listen to any Mystery Method videos and you'll know what I'm talking about.
Now stop posting.
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