So it's just gone 5am where I am, I'm laying in bed thinking about a few things whilst checking Facebook. As you get older probably most of you question life? As in why we chose certain paths. I see my friends, or people from school that are either getting married, traveling the world or have their shit together with a good job and a house.
A little bit about myself and this will make more sense. I am 24, with a good social group of friends and without sounding cocky but I do quite well with women. Even though I have not long broke it off from a 5 year relationship. I work a normal job and currently doing a course so I can study next year in university. I guess some would say I am a late bloomer, and I have only myself to blame. I'm not lazy, I work and study hard I might add but it all seems pointless, like I've left it too late! I live with my parents who I love very much, but fucking hate that I do because at the moment I can't afford to move out until I move away to university next year.
So as I lay here questioning this, I need some advice if you have ever or still are in the same situation as me? What can I do to get out of it? I know there is more to life than this, as a cliche I asked a close friends dad what if you could do anything different what would you have done at a younger age? and his reply hit me like a fucking truck " he said live and not care so much about his future at such a young age" he said that even though he had a good job nice house and car he regretted not traveling, not doing spontaneous stuff instead of listening to his parents and get a carrier so soon. I know 24 isn't that old but I feel life is just passing me by and I'm wasting every minute of it. I'm not depressed or anything like that I'm quite a happy person, but I want to live my life and not regret a single thing I've done. Yet I'm not sure how to get out of this shitty routine. I guess the best way of doing this is making money? But I don't know how other than working which until I finish uni I'll be stuck with shitty dead end jobs.
Anyway sorry for the longish post I just wanted to rant, and thought here is a good place to do it.
Thanks for reading AP
Bro i feel you. I've been thinking about my life alot lately as well, and where i want to go from here. The self-development part (as opposed to pickup) is what i'm going to focus on the most this summer. Just stepping up in as many areas in my life as i can (fitness, style, my independence, knowledge, money, business, more hobbies, traveling, better social skills, networking, and of course..hotter women. Lol). Trust me dude..you're not that much of a late bloomer. I'm 33, and i didn't start to wake up until my late 20s. What you can implement right now, which is what i will do also..is work on and improve on the different areas of your life that i mentioned (fitness, style, independence, money, hobbies, traveling, social skills, networking, etc...) everyday of the week. Even if it's just by 1% a day, for each category. The important thing is that you're building up momentum and improving yourself little bit by little bit everyday. The amount or the speed to which you are improving yourself doesn't matter as much. As long as you're moving forward everyday. Every little bit of improvement will add up to alot of improvement over time. Take baby steps, but also step outside of your comfort zone and take risks every now and then (try doing something new and challenging that you've never done before, every now and then to broaden you're horizons and possibilities..experiment!). If you keep doing what you've always been doing..you'll keep getting what you've always been getting. Just think of it as "I'm investing in myself" with my time, in the same way that you would invest in something with your money.
I definitely think that your main priority should be working towards moving out of your parents house. That's just a no brainer. But if you're financially unable to do so right now..then start saving money, picking up extra hours at work, be more frugal with your spending, for the next several months until you feel like you're ready to afford your own crib. Start looking now for an apartment that's affordable and within your budget. It will be very difficult, but the end result will be far much more rewarding and well worth all of the blood, sweat, and tears that you had to endure to get there.