Hi All! I emailed three girls who I thought I had some rapport with. I think that I am choosing to write these in a way that is confusing to the girl. Could you give me some feedback on how these emails sound to you?

Email #1 to a girl I email closed at a social dance:

"Hi Lauren,

How are you doing? It's Pyuya. There's a couple of things I wanted to ask you at that dance and tell you but I did not get a chance. For example, you give off a [our middle school] vibe. I was guessing you went to [our middle school] before I asked you which middle school you went to. Also, I think I remember someone from your class – Joe Shmoe? The Brazilian trouble maker? Do you remember him? Was he in your class? I think I reme mber your sister too! I'd like to talk more about that and hear how your time at ou r high school was and what your college is like. How do you lik e sunny Florida? My friend Peter who also went to our middle lives in Miami w ith his soon to be wife. She went to your university I think, and he went to UNH. He says if I come and visit I can crash a t their place. Anyway, I have many questions and I would much rather talk in person rather than online. I want to meet you while you are still in CA. Are you free Friday or Saturday

Email #2 to another girl who I email closed at a social dance. This is the third time I saw the girl there and she smiles a lot and very playful when we dance and we sit together too. Her room mate though cold shoulders me and other guys too it think:

Hi Rachel. It's Pyuya! I would like to meet you again. I'd like t o talk to you m ore. Are you interes ted in trying some Lati n dancing? My friend's dad teaches it I think, and I've been meani ng to do go to one of his dances for w eeks. This is the info. Let me knw if you are interested in the Saturday $5 dance. Ciao..

Your help much appreciated.

You're beating around the bush brother.
You come out as what we call an ' Excuser' which means a guy who doesn't believe in himself/his desires and tries to hide them.

You'll never get laid like that.
And if you do by some type of miracle you'll get a real dorky chick who maybe it's better not to have sex with! lol

1- Figure out what you want in LIFE ( In general)
2- Figure out what you want with WOMEN
3- When you want to talk to a woman figure out WHY you want to talk to HER
4- Tell her WHY you're talking to HER
5- Let her decide if she wants the same thing you do
6- PROCEED or GTFO

lol

That's how I operate and it never failed me.
Don't get the e-mail. There's no point to it.

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thank you for the reply. i am trying approaching women i attracted to, talking to them first, and then being direct with them that i like them and i am asking them out becuase i am attracted to them. i am hoping it will make asking women out less awkward. today, i asked a girl i've met a few times before this way (still apologeticy , but its a good start) I said "I want to dance with you more. Do you want meet somewhere outside of this dance studio and dance together" and she said "Pyuya, I live in another state" It's a good start, I think if I did not bail out on her with the defensive/insecure reply "fine be that way" Our conversation would have continued and I would know for sure whether she wants to meet me for a date (although that might be going back to an empty well), or maybe she felt shy and feels shocked that i asked her because she does not know me well yet, or maybe she is not attracted to me and that was a rejection. I don't know, but I think I can continue talking to her, but I wont ask her out anymore. I heard that once you get one sort of NO from a woman, you should just forget about it, but still act like usual around them - this makes them chase you and respect you more.

So the plan -

no more emails to women
ask for the phone number if they don't give you the phone number, maybe i will say or i don't do well with email. i understand you don't wanna give your phone number, maybe some other time. thanks.
figure out which women i find attractive talk to them and then ask them out directly
try to be more positive and less insecure, defensive, or negative in conversation
talk and flirt with women around me, although dont flirt with women who dont flirt back

You're definetly on the right track! I see you've been reading my posts!
I would say stop trying to figger out why your interactions with women don't always work
You're overthinking stuff, and this kind of thinking will make you self-conscious = not as confident looking, with women.
Sometimes you can have the perfect approach and women will still reject you. If a woman does, let her be, and move to the next one.

To me asking for the phone number is always the defalut/last option.
Remember that YOU'RE AFTER THE GIRL...NOT her phone number!

So I always try to do whatever I want to do on the spot, when I meet her. If I can't then I might take her number or give her my own.

Rome wasn't built in one day.
Slowly but surely implant these elements in your game in a couple months from now you'll see amazing results you wouldn't even had imagined!

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