I also have asperger syndrome. and I also really always had difficulties with women. even though I know many guests who do not have autism and really many worse are like me. I really had my successes already.
I have been especially difficult with teasing and Smalltalk ... it is said that neill Strauss also has a form of autisme because he really all fixed routines used and that is typical of autistic people.
but I want to learn faster. and really have difficulties with the attractionfase. the woman to man phase.
Maybe that I first a few weeks really have to focus on the first 10 min in a set.
they always say that you have needed a funny vibe and this is true. want i do sometimes many cold approaches but this works not good for me.They also say that what you says that it not big deal is.
but for someone with autism is this difficult. and I do not know how to fix it.
It's a lot harder than people think. Finding appropriate adivice is likely the hardest part... so remember, regular people's advice really comes down to different variations of "try not being autistic". "Go with the flow", "Don't think about it", "You are over thinking", all these are bullshit to a person with autism.
My advice to you as someone who does know you situation is simple, "Forget about pick-up". Look at cold approach as a method for general social skills developing. After talking to hundreds and thousands of people you will see patterns emerge. When you see that, when you think automatically "ah! I've seen this before" you know that you've progressed. Nothing has to happen, because once you see a pattern you know you will see it again. And as you progress you will see that people start acting differently to you and this will change from day to day and as the weeks and months pass. Even if you can't tell you are progressing, others can. Forget about pickup... but it's perfectly fine to just like talking to girls, and girls don't mind if you say that. Seek the friend zone. There is no point in going direct or hitting hard if you don't have the follow-up. You'll just weird out the girls, disappoint them and yourself, and in the end gain nothing. Take the pressure off yourself and relax. Once you do that you will immediately notice that girls are likely awkward and nervous around YOU.
Regular people seem to crawl over each other like zombies if there is someone they like around. They don't even know they are doing it. For me, when I'm out I know that I have the guts to talk to anyone I want, but I also know my limitations. I look for easy sets. Talk to dudes, older ladies, fat chicks, people that will be easy to get in with and have a good time. You aren't proving anything, you are learning and doing it by having fun.
How much have you learned to see? Can you tell across a room who wants to talk to you? Can you tell if a girls is standing next to you by coincidence or if she is orbiting you? All this and TONS AND TONS more is right on their face, plain as day, but most people don't know consciously and once you learn to see it the hard way you will find power and confidence in this.
Everything thing I do at night is training for when I find a girl at the right time with the right chemistry. Then I'll have the guts and the wisdom to do the right thing.