Hey guys,

So I've pretty much never approached anyone in bars before. My friends were pushing me to approach people and giving me tips, I was feeling sick to my stomach from the nerves. Eventually some chick approaches me (which I'm almost positive one of my friends must have told her to), and I failed pretty bad not knowing what to say, so the short convo died pretty quick (had a pretty good spot to say something too, she said like "well my friends say I'm pretty gullible"

Just out of curiosity what would a good response to that be?



Anyways, eventually she leaves and the failure actually relieved all the tension I had, it's not even failure I'm scared of it seems, it's just the idea of what to say when I approach.



I realized I probably looked like an idiot on the dance floor just standing there looking creepy like some of the other dudes there (was a large dude > chick ratio in there), so I just started dancing and having fun, finally able to just let go and be myself, saw a chick totally my style, as soon as we made eye contact I just introduced myself & shook her hand, grabbed her hands, and started dancing (I don't know how to dance but I was having fun so that's probably all that mattered)

Anyways, the dancing was super fun, we danced a couple of songs, and eventually I brought up I loved the music playing, and I had come back from a concert (only natural thing that my mind went to since I don't know what people usually talk about in pickup,
Turns out she went to the same concert that night, so that was pretty cool.

We talked about the concert for a couple minutes, but then she said she had to go to her friend, but gave me a hug and was really polite about it, the whole time she looked like she was having fun and didn't seem weirded out.


I felt that was a big enough improvement in terms of confidence for the night so I didn't fight it, I just happily said see you later and hung back with my friends, feeling super good.

Now that I've got the first step out of the way (approaching in the first place), I'm wondering what I should do next. Was there a chance for keeping her around, or was it just a polite way of her saying "I like you, but I'm not attracted to you". She was probably older than me and I know this is an inferior mindset, but I'm alot skinnier than I'd like to be, and I know being slightly fatter is better than being skinny in girls' eyes, but I can't really help that even though I go to the gym, so I guess I just gotta roll with it.

Thanks guys

Number close before the departure next time. Don't think about whether or not she had a good time.

The mindset that is you're so much fun that you also made her time a good time.

But overall, sounds like not a bad night!

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