I used to date this girl in spring. We were kissing, walking holding hands etc. but I screwed up by being clingy and needy. She's lost interest, then she went for holiday - we weren't contacting each other for 1 month and she came back like a week ago.

I won't be telling all the details of how I made it but now she's again initiating msn conversations, we're flirting etc etc and everything seems to be great. I've got a high value and do my best not to push.

Now I wanna ask her out. The problem is that if I do it just normally, she's gonna flake and it's only gonna lower my value.

For example recently she was going to a concert with her friends and she invited me, I said I'm going, and then after 1 hour I got a message from her that she's not going. I went there with my friends and eventually she came. But I talked to her for like 5mins there and everything was ok, she was smiling and talking a lot etc.

So you see it's not that she doesn't wanna see me in person - she's just panicking when she thinks about meeting me because in her head she's wondering if it's really a good idea to try dating me again (at least that's how I understand it).

How to ask her out so that she doesn't freak out and flake?

PS. Even if it would be a lot easier with a new girl - I know she's worth the effort! And she's a good girl - I'm 100% sure she's not playing me.

First off, I've been in your situation.

What helped me get a general idea of how she felt for me was creating a fake conversation between you, and a mate, about her.

The next time you talk to her [preferably on the phone]; mention that "My mate asked me who this gorgeous girl was that he saw me with."

Considering how most females are wired, this will intrigue her, and literally have her begging to know what you told your friend.

If you sense any form of excitement, she definitely likes you more than friends.

I played it out a bit longer, and told her that I told me mate she was a "special lady friend."

After that, it was as easy as pie proceeding to ask her out.

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So your vaule is not sutiable for a date as she will most likely will bull shit you if you try to ask her out .
try to set a " Friends date " , talk hear about something like Movies she likes if she say a movie she like tell her you and a friends are going over to see this movie if she would like to come too now and say a reason BCZ i had a good time with you .
(But dont say hey would like to tag along with me and a friend of mine THIS IS semi date invite , no girl in her right mind will not know its a date ... make it look real , like you really enjoyed the time with her and you will like to meet again as friends , not as a date )

I really like the advice TheeMikeyK gave.

I've never been in this situation. But I'd spend a lot of time building more, and more attraction by proving the neediness has gone. From texting phone game or whatever, you just need to build attraction. If you can build enough, they will be very forward: