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@psychx: I saw the list of negs and some of them are pretty solid. The post here or what I am trying to work on is either controlling the conversaiton ( how to make my frame congruent with her frame) during mid-game or using some other cues ( the video above has some great examples) during group conversation to come off as more of a focal point.
Examples I may run into is:
" You probably are a player?"
Obviously, her frame is I am attracted to you but, am scared of your type.
Thanks for the feedback. My negging usually is very solid, I've tested it enough lol. Also you're contradicting yourself; YOU are controlling the frame, so you don't need to align yourself congruently to anyone's frame but your own. Anyway for your situation, easy response!
- For Example:
"You probably are a player?"
- You have these responses you can do."
"Stop hitting on me, you're not my type. Why? Well, because we are too similar."
"Clearly you're getting the wrong idea here" *turn your back* and wait for her to reengage conversation.
"Only on women who have more than their looks going for them."
This one is bold: *look straight into her eyes for 2 seconds* "Yes." Then reengage a complete different DHV story off the topic of being a player completely. If you're going to go with this particular routine, make sure you don't give her a chance to respond, just go straight into the DHV story.
"I thought you were interesting, and someone who could carry a real/good/interesting/decent conversation, now I know you just thought I was hitting on you. I think I'll talk to someone who is more easy going." *turn your back* and begin to act like you're about to scope the room to see where to head next, chances are she won't let you leave!
"Listen I don't treat women that way. I'm tired of women thinking all men want to hit on them just because there attractive. Looks are common, I'm looking for more, and you seem shallow. What else do you have going for you other than your looks?" If she says nothing: "I thought so, I'm going to talk to your friend here."
I thought up most of these off the top of my head right now. There are so many different ways you can approach these SHIT tests, just NEG NEG NEG! If she is shit testing you, she is thinking to highly of her self. After all most women get offended if we assume they're hitting on us, so we have all rights to react in the same manner. Calibrate her attraction switches, by not allowing her to test you. If you answer to her test, you are essentially jumping through her hoop! Control the frame!