Hi,

I am from India and came to USA 1.5 yrs back. i have no problems having conversations with women, making them laugh or whatever. But its all attraction stuff. I am unable to connect with any girl as I absolutely dont have anything in common with american girls. So always we have a great convo but we dont really connect, so the spark or deep chemistry is missing. How can I really build connections with them?Should i start talking about my culture and stuff? i never tried it much..are there any ethnic guys with similar issues?

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dude I know exactly what you're talking about. But I think that if you have enough confidence and portray yourself as a high value guy, you can over come the cultural barrier. Although I'm Vietnamese, I've had 4 girl friends in the past who were all non asians.

Hey mate,

I lived in Florida for 6 months in 2008. My parents are from Malaysia however I was born and raised in London. American gaming was alot easier for me than in the UK as you immediately have something to talk about and something of interest when you open them. the girls tended to ask the same questions throughtout my stay there.

'Where in England are you from? Do you drink tea? What are you doing in America? have you met the Queen?'
All of these questions were easily answered in a way that demonstrate higher value. e.g.
'Where in England are you from? I live in London by the Thames. You can see London Bridge from my room. Have you been to London?'
'What are you doing in America? I work for Disney on their graduate scheme.
Have you met the Queen? No I haven't, but she did tell me off once (True story, too long to tell right now)'
'Do you drink tea? Yes! it's great first thing in the morning when you're hungover, you should come over and try it!'

Everyone sterotypes so you can throw negs just the same at them (Sorry if I offend anyone who is American, these lines did genuinely work for me out there)

You can talk about their History 'or lack of'
How they're percieved as dumb by other nations. 'you don't seem like most Americans'.(she replies how do most Americans seem?) followed by 'dumb, but maybe I've just jumped the gun'
'An American who's not fat!? how did that happen!?'
'are you a redneck? are you sure? I don't fancy being strung up a tree tonight'

Most importantly, you're from two different cultures. Be as interested in hers as she is in yours. Ask about where in the States she's been, where she would recommend going for a visit and where in the local area is good to see if she's from around there. That last one was perfect to get a number and a chance to make plans to do the activity together at another time.

I hope this helps and if you got any other questions on American gaming by a non American just PM me!

Ozzy170