| What I'm giving you below is gold so I hope you appreciate it, everyone worrys about what to say well I'm giving you my topics of conversation, this is my conversation frame work, I tend to weave everything else through this stuff, its nothing new I'm sure plenty of people has had these conversations, but for guys stuck on what to talk about in comfort its all below, now just find what you want to talk about
The way I go about conversation Is very much like Hypnotica in his deep phone seduction, I'm not talking about hypnotic tones and shit like that but instead I'm talking about asking questions and being good at asking questions, be curious about her, have the focus of the conversation about her, get her to invest and do most of the talking (everyones favourite subject is on themselves, especially women!)
Captian jack would call this "putting his time in" listen to what she says, think to yourself what do I know about this topic and respond, Im not going to go into how to not run out of things to say as I've covered these topics in earlier posts
So here is my conversational frame work you want to get into this stuff when you are in mini isolation (just talking to her in a group or in a two set) or full isolation (sitting alone with her)
Her Situation -
This is a logistic question, its also normal conversation but its finding out information that I feel is necessary for SNL's or simply taking things further, what I want to find out is stuff like does she live at home with her parents or who does she live with, you can ask standard questions like does she have any brothers or sisters living there too and do they all get along , I'll sneak in questions like "do you drive?" because I don't so I'm figureing out how things will be able to play out in the future
You can enter this conversation thread simply by asking "so what you doing at the moment are you living at home or what?"
is she working, does she like it, what does she want to do with it careerwise, I don't like to dwell on this conversation its mearly a window for me to drift onto something else like ambition and travel e.g. "Oh you do that cool, I'm working at... SPAM but it's notthing I want to do, really its just to waste a little time and build my funds up to do other stuff like holidays, have you ever been anywhere good?"
Travel/Ambition -
Speaks for itself, Talk about the different countries and cities we've been too, bars and clubs there, experiences and people we met etc and what we like about that stuff, talk about what you both want to do, "I want to end up living in a large spanish city, with alot of good friends around me a good social life day and night"
Where we go out/Where we live -
Talk about the different clubs you both go to, likes annd dislikes, just ask "where else do you guys go out" the social scene there or a little on the town in general, for me my town is ok I like it but I feel like I'm just wasting time here, you only get to go out in the weekends so the social scene is pretty stale compared to what it used to be back when I was younger... now I can go into talking about memories of going out and the diifferent places we loved and how we used to socialise, me and my friends used to go here and then onto there (you know our social routine) you can also work in what you where like in your early going out days and about when you first started drinking
All of these conversational themes can mix and out of these topics you will be able to work in loads of other conversation topics, like food, music, films and SEX!
As you can se what we are basicly talking about is the dreaded afc questions you were probably told not to use "where are you from" and "what do you do"
In future posts I will show you how to incorperate sexual frames into this and how to also turn the conversation onto sex
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