Met this waitress. HB9.

It started simply. She brought me the wrong drink, I busted her repeatedly throughout the night. She zinged me back. It was great.

I go there a couple of times a week. We'd banter throughout the night, then when it was slow she'd always come over to talk to me. Pretty much light conversation, banter.

This girl gets hit on ALOT. One time I was standing there, while an AFC was "gaming" her. Asking her those boring interview questions. She gave the same rote answers I hear her give all the time. At one point, I said under my breath, but loud enough for both of them to hear: "Yea that's bullshit"

The AFC turns to me, pissed off, whereas her face brightened, and within minutes left the AFC and came and talked to me.

So over the past month we've been talking, it's always been the same light teasing and bantering, always funny.

Then the other night she came over to talk to me. It was great, I ran this routine where I pretended to be her dad and offering her dating advice. I told her to steer clear of the nice guys.

She keeps bringing up old conversations we've had, talking about how hilarious they are. I keep pulling back the more interest she shows. At one point her boyfriend came up in conversation. She told me it wasn't a real relationship. Open window.

Anyway, the interaction was going spectacularly, we have great chemistry, and I decided to pay her a compliment. I say: "You know what I think is interesting about you..... (then I'm thinking, this might be too much, better pull out).... well I can't think of anything right now.

She stands up; "So i'm not interseting huh?" and walks off. She came back by, and repeated "i guess i'm just not interesting enough" and walked off. I left.

Well, I didn'tk now how seriously she took me, until I went in 2 night later. She ignored me the whole night. At one point she even came up to me and my friend, talked to him, and totally ignored me.

So when I'm about to leave, I head to the bathroom, and as I pass her I give a simple "Hi" and walk on. Well she follows me to the bathrooms, and brings up our last conversation.

She's like: "Remember when you told me I wasn't interesting?" and I say: "Yea, that offended me" "it offended YOU?!" Yea, I was just about to pay you a compliment, but you didn't give me a chance, you stormed off, I rarely give compliments and I was offended that you didn't want to stick around and hear it"

"So do you always insult people before you give them a compliment?!?" "As a rule"

Anyway, we argue for about 5 minutes, standing in front of the bathroom. People kept walking by and I kept getting out of line to keep arguing. She was obviously very hurt. She kept saying that I always use being drunk as an excuse.

I'm like "Yea it was a real good compliment too, but you ruined the moment, now I guess we'll never know what it was" We argue argue argue.

Finally she says: "I guess I'm just a waitress to you then" and storms off.

At the time, I felt pretty good about the interaction, but when I woke up this morning I felt kind of sick about the whole thing. The reality is, over the past month, this girl has really grown on me. I like her alot. She's hot as hell.

Did I take the cocky/funny/negging too far? Is this recoverable? Do hot chicks, once offended, just forget about you and move on?

Should of been more simple. Something like "Well, I was teasing. I grew up in a family where my brother/sister/cousin(Or whatever) teases each other playfully. It's a sign of confort between us"

And don't apologize. I know you probably know it, but just reminding you.

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"If you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried."

Good words, you're right that's good advice.

But was saying: "you know what's interesting about you... nothing i can think of"

is that part too far?

Yeah it was, duh. "Don't be determined to get in the way of a girl liking you." You were doing fine, she liked you, why did you think you had to neg her? Some bullshit PUA theory about how you have to be in control of everything at all times or you won't get anywhere? You got so focused on the PUA that you thought you had to do something when nothing was required. Just shows you were insecure about your position for no good reason, and that you weren't perceptive either. If the girl is going in the right direction YOU DON'T NEED TO RECONDITION HER.

"I'm nervous... hey! I'll insult the girl! Yeah, that's in the playbook! Yeah, yeah!"

Bonehead.

Hey man teasing is a good way but i think you have push it a little bit too far, if you sense that her ego is really hurt then a lil bit of consolation is never hurt, too much teasing and you will come off as a jerk and the girl will withdraw from you to protect her ego, I think you should do something sweet for her to apologize, romance is never a bad idea

Cheers