Whenever I'm busting a girl's balls, every now and then she'll come up with something like...

"That's not very nice"

or

"That's mean"

or

"Why are you so mean to me?"

And to be honest, sometimes I get kinda stumped.

Usually I reply with "Deal with it" or something similar, but I feel like it's a shit test that I'm not passing correctly. Any help would be appreciated!

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Signatures are awesome!

Maybe be a little less rude? Negging and insulting are different things mate. Maybe give some examples of wat you are saying to them ladies.

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Quantity. Because someday, you will find quality

True, sometimes I do sound a bit rude, but when I deliver I try to say it with a smile so she knows that I'm kidding. I hope, anyway...

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Signatures are awesome!

Yet, a smile isn't enough.
make sure that you're negging and not insulting. there are big diffrences than saying
"wow, this necklace looks cute, i've just saw one like this"
than
"wow, what a wierd little necklace you've got.. where the hell did you come from?!"
you can tell both with smile, but the second one might insult women whom insecured.

in response to this, say something like..

"U should feel special!"

she goes: 'why??'

you say: "I'm not mean to everyone you know "

works pretty gud in past experience

Try dumping the negs for a week and see how that goes. I had the same phase some years ago.

I used to use negs to make up for my own crappiness, and then when I stopped sucking so bad I realized that the negs were not really needed anymore, they just got in the way.

If you still get the "you are mean" thing, just smile and say "I know, my superpower is being extremely annoying".

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I get this all the time

response " Who said i was nice ?"

and then i usually flip it round on them

I think Zappo's got the right idea on this one. This is basically what I use whenever I'm confronted with a "you're mean" type of statement. Just as long as you don't attempt to backtrack and try to correct it by saying you actually are a nice guy... that's the only way you'd really fail it.

Zachariah (Maybe I should just put my signature in my sig, haha)

Actually... It doesnt necessarily mean that you fail the test either... If it is a test.

People shout shit test as soon as they find something that is a bit challenging but in fact it might just be some useful information, maybe she is just telling you that you were behaving in a bad way.

You could definately tell her that no in fact you are a nice guy. If you say it in the right way.

Apologetic may not work but shameless honesty works pretty well.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

My girlfriend uses it a lot.. when I'm being a typical guy.
Works fine for me.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Just say "whatever you love it" with a genuine yet friendly smile.

First off, make sure you don't neg too much.

If she's a 10, 3 negs max
If she's an 8-9, 2 negs max
If she's a 7, only one neg
6 and below, don't neg.

Make sure you have a playful, just joking attitude to it.

If she does say, "You're mean", I usually reply with, "Yeah, but I'm really fun "

Whenever the girl give me this exact shit test, like " Are you guys always this mean?", i will just give her a lol and say "Yeah all the interesting one?

Never usually a need to bust a woman's balls. USUALLY. I mean, I never do but get pretty clean results for the average joe. Sometimes you come off as unconfident if the delivery is fucked up, and sometimes the things you say just are slightly annoying. I can't say for sure, but this happened to me ALL the time. Then, I changed and tried a lot less hard to "tease"/neg or whatever I do, and it comes off a lot cleaner. After all, you wouldn't like someone who constantly pointed out your flaws, would you? Or put down something you tried hard to do well. (E.g. wrote a song and joked about how it sucked with a smile, trying to tease, or saying your shirt was weird with a laugh while you took a long time to pick it out.

If the time comes to actually point something out to a girl, counter it. After you say the neg/insult, follow it up with something nice. Make sure you're not actually doing it in a kiss-up kind of way. Try doing this, practice more, and you should be able to counter your insult pretty well. The more you practice, the better you become.

I don't know if it would work for you, but I can guarantee it worked for me.

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For all you play it safers:
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

- Albert Einstein quotes.

If the biggest nerd of the 19th century can do it, so can you.

Never usually a need to bust a woman's balls. USUALLY. I mean, I never do but get pretty clean results for the average joe. Sometimes you come off as unconfident if the delivery is fucked up, and sometimes the things you say just are slightly annoying. I can't say for sure, but this happened to me ALL the time. Then, I changed and tried a lot less hard to "tease"/neg or whatever I do, and it comes off a lot cleaner. After all, you wouldn't like someone who constantly pointed out your flaws, would you? Or put down something you tried hard to do well. (E.g. wrote a song and joked about how it sucked with a smile, trying to tease, or saying your shirt was weird with a laugh while you took a long time to pick it out.

If the time comes to actually point something out to a girl, counter it. After you say the neg/insult, follow it up with something nice. Make sure you're not actually doing it in a kiss-up kind of way. Try doing this, practice more, and you should be able to counter your insult pretty well. The more you practice, the better you become.

I don't know if it would work for you, but I can guarantee it worked for me.

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For all you play it safers:
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

- Albert Einstein quotes.

If the biggest nerd of the 19th century can do it, so can you.